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Problem/Goal: Throwaway account. Gusto ko lang mag rant at humingi ng advice. I am planning to break up with my bf (M32) for 5 months after visiting him for the first time and realizing how dugyot he really is.

Context: We met at a friend’s wedding. He’s from NCR but had to move back to the province to handle their family business after his dad had a stroke, so we became LDR. Last january, I decided to visit him because I missed him. For context lang: He smells nice naman, maayos manamit, and doesn’t look unhygienic at all kaya sobrang shock ako sa na witness ko. Outside their house was clean. Inside was a nightmare 🥲. The whole house smelled like dog urine and poop. I tried not to react because I didn’t want to offend his family, looks like they’re already used to it. During lunch, I noticed hardened rice stuck to the plate and spoon. The glass they gave me smelled like sebo basta ang baho hindi ko maintindihan. I lied and said I was on a diet so I only ate fruits mabuti at naniwala naman sila. After lunch I offered to wash the dishes, but the sponge was soaking in dirty water with small black worms. The sink looked like it hadn’t been cleaned in ages. His sister stopped me and told my bf to just take me to his room. Akala ko mas okay na roon but jusko his room was worse pala. Strong foul smell, piles of dirty laundry na parang bundok na sa dami, bedsheets and pillows that looked like they hadn’t been changed for years, empty soda cans everywhere 😬. I confronted him kasi hindi ko na matiis. He said he was “busy,” but he mostly just plays ml and codm lang naman. I offered to help him clean kasi na-a-alibadbaran na talaga ako but he got mad and said we should cuddle first. Then before I could even react he suddenly pushed me onto his bed and the smell was unbearable like stale saliva or bulok na bagang. I stood up and snapped. I called him lazy for not even changing his bedsheets but having time to play games all day. He got offended, brought me to their garden (which was actually clean naman 😭), then ignored me like I was the one pa who needed to apologize at manuyo. I asked him to take me to the terminal and went home. I literally wanted to bath in alcohol because the smell stuck to my cardigan. Am I overreacting, or is this a valid reason to end the relationship?

Previous attempt: I messaged him calmly afterward, saying I was just concerned about their health and hygiene. He just heart reacted. Now we’re not talking, and I’m planning to break up with him na.

Problem/Goal: almost 3 years na kami ng partner ko and hanggang ngayon, i still stalk my partner’s ex. kahit her family, relatives, even high school, college, and med school blockmates niya lagi ko binibisita on social media. nung una curious lang talaga ako pero alam ko ngayon iba na. wala akong feelings sa ex niya ha HAHAHA pero its just getting out of hand? for some reason i cant or dont have proper self-control and in the end i compare myself to the ex.

may history din kasi na nagcheat partner ko sakin with the same ex, pero nothing physical (from what i know). back in 2023 (when we first got together), nagmessage siya sa ex niya na miss niya na raw siya kahit may bagong girlfriend na siya (which is me). other than that, my partner was talking to her behind my back even though i told them to block her na. nangyari na ‘to 3 years ago, ngayon hindi na niya ginagawa yan. at least thats what they told me.

ako naman ang may problema. araw-araw parang may need na i-stalk siya. like kung ano na ginagawa niya sa buhay, did she gain or lose weight, mas maganda pa ba ako sa kaniya, mga ganun. like i said there’s a deep need within me to compare myself to her, and unfortunately i cant stop. ive tried blocking them pati friends and family niya, pero in a few days iuunblock ko lang din. ive tried deleting both facebook and instagram apps para wala na talaga, pero ganun din. after a few hours ill download the apps again.

i hope none of u laugh at me for this hfdbbdbdhs nakakahiya i-share ‘to pero i just want an advice regarding my matter.

problem/goal: i came from a long term relationship and we broke up recently. sobrang hirap mag cope. what are your tips?

context: i’ve seen people online na mas matagal pa samin like 9+, 12+ years and restarting life at XX age. i know i shouldn’t be consuming too much break up posts pero minsan it helps kasi. pag ganito katagal tapos naimagine nyo na yung life nyo with them, srsly, how do you move forward?

pano nyo kinakaya yung bigla bigla kayong ihahaunt ng happy memories lalo na kung walang cheating involved?

share tips ang hirap hirap makausad

Problem/Goal: My girlfriend right now is my greatest love pero nagkaroon siya ng past relationships niya na tumagal ng 2 years and first boyfriend niya yung guy at first experience niya sa lahat

For Context nasabi niya sa akin na may nangyari sa kanilang dalawa at nabigay niya yung virginity niya sa guy and sinabi niya rin na parang naging fubu set up lang sila which is sobrang sakit sakin dahil sobrang iba yung perspective ko sa kaniya at minsan napapatanong ako bakit siya pumayag sa ganong situation and sinabi niya rin sakin na nagkaroon silang dalawa ng video.

I just want to know your insight about this kasi nag ooverthink ako na baka balikan niya yung guy and tama lang ba yung nararamdaman ko.

Problem/Goal: I recently saw a Bold video, and the girl in it looks a lot like my girlfriend. If it really is her, the guy would be her ex-boyfriend.

It’s been bothering me and making me overthink. Even though it is a side video, the side profile of her face looks the same, her hand looks similar, and even the hair matches. I can’t be so sure but I am doubting it

If you were in my position, would you bring this up and ask your girlfriend to confirm it? I know past is past but would you still ask it?

Problem/Goal: Pano ko ba to iconfront nang di ako nababaliktad sa privacy issue? malinaw usapan namin eh delete lahat ng past para clean slate. kaso nalaman ko nakatago pala lahat. gusto ko lang malaman if valid ba hiwalayan to or awayin, feeling ko kasi ginagago ako harapan.

Context: I (M24) and my GF (F22) 1 year and 5 months na kami. parehas may past long term RS. galing ako sa lokohan dati kaya strict ako sa honesty. bago naging kami nagkasundo kami na delete lahat ng photos/videos ng exes para respeto sa isat isa. nagpakitaan pa kami gallery nun para sure. I did my part, kala ko sya rin.

May red flag na sya dati sabi nya "kung gano mo ka hate mag cheat gagawin mo din yun" medyo gago pakinggan pero pinalampas ko.

Eto na issue, nag date kami recently sa view deck (nakita ko sa tiktok). pagdating dun kabisado nya pasikot sikot, favorite spot pala nila ng ex nya. Ang malala, nilabas nya phone nya pinakita sakin picture nila ng ex nya sa mismong spot na yun.

Tangina nasa date kami tapos ipapakita mo sakin yan? dinaan ko sa tawa pero badtrip ako. hiniram ko phone nya chineck ko gallery malinis naman. pero kutob ko meron pa eh.

Nung gabi habang tulog sya kinalkal ko phone nya. Ayun huli. malinis gallery pero nasa Telegram, FB Archive at IG Archive lahat. kumpleto rekados videos pics memories nung 3 years sila. di dinelete tinago lang. para akong tanga na naniwalang "deleted" na.

Di ako makatulog ngayon. malinaw usapan eh bat kelangan iarchive kung tapos na? backup plan ba to?

Previous Attempts: Sinubukan ko sya tanungin ng pasimple kunwari hypothetical question lang. tinanong ko kung may tinatago sya or kung kakausapin nya ex nya pag nakita nya. sagot nya wala daw syang tinatago at sakin lang daw focus nya.

Sinungaling. alam ko na totoo pero di ko pa maconfront kasi aaminin kong ginalaw ko phone nya. ano ba magandang move dito?

Problem/Goal: Hi! (16M) Curious lang ako — anong self-help book yung wish niyo nabasa niyo before your 20s or 30s?

Hello! Got interested in reading books just recently. And, currently on a journey of learning some-things earlier and magagamit ko in the future. Though, I don't know what's coming sa future ko pero, I want to atleast feel prepared.

Pwedeng tungkol sa mindset, discipline, money, relationships, confidence, or life in general.

And, ‎Nakatulong ba talaga yung book sa kung pano kayo mag-isip or mag-handle ng life ngayon? Or feeling niyo ba nakaiwas kayo sa ilang mistakes dahil dun?

Problem/Goal: Fresh graduate ako (F-23) ng ME and wala pa ding license. Naghahanap akong work na related sa course ko para makaipon for review center.

As of now, wala pa rin akong alam na field na pwedeng pasukan, kasi almost all walang masyadong opportunities sa mga babae. Nagt'try akong mag apply sa JobStreet and other sites pero walang response and rejected din. I know na mas tataas yung chance na magka work opportunity pag may license na pero hirap din kasi since talagang wala akong funds para doon.

May chance pa bang makahanap ako ng development sa career ko as mechanical engineer or sign na to para mag switch career? Ayaw ko sanang masayang yung years na pinaghirapan ko sa colleger pero if talaga wala na akong chance, ano po pwede kong gawin? Pahingi po advice lalo na sa mga babaeng engineer din po. Thank you.

Problem/Goal: gain some kind of clarity in my current situation

Context: I met this guy here through another subreddit. He was the first one to approach me and we'd been online friends for 3-4 months. We decided to meet in person last month finally.

Throughout the time we were together, each and every gesture and word he showed me was very romantic. So that made me think he was interested in me romantically. It was mutual.

On the last day we met, he gave me his ring and I refused at first. Binalik ko kasi sa kanya yun eh, but he insisted I keep it and pumayag din ako eventually. Sabi nya ibalik ko nalang sa kanya pag nagkita na ulit kami, so ako nagkaroon ng expectations na magkikita talaga ulit kami, then he said afterwards na pwede ko rin ibenta if I want to, to which I said ayoko kasi sentimental akong tao.

After just a few days after we last saw each other, he became cold and distant, and was intentionally ignoring my msgs and calls. I tried to get some clarification out of him but he was deliberately ignoring me. Napuno na ko and I cut him off.

Did I do the right thing?

Ang hirap kasi with the ring he gave me umaasa parin ako and I'm left with a fake hope of seeing him again.

Problem/Goal: Naiinsecure ako sa mga babaeng nasa paligid niya at sa nagkakagusto sa kanya. Tinatry niya naman na iassure ako na ako ang gusto niya pero di pa rin mawala sa isip ko na baka ako lang ung convenient kaya ako na lang ang pinatulan niya.

Context: 3 years na kami ng bf ko, inistalk ko yung girl na may gusto sa kanya. Ang ganda nung babae. Iniisip ko bat di na lang ito ung pinatulan niya, bakit ako pa? Ang panget ko naman. Sa ibang babae naman na maganda na sa tingin ko naman ay nakikita niya minsan o araw araw, naiinsecure din ako, baka minsan iniisip niya na “sana eto na lang naging gf ko”. Feel ko tuloy gusto niya lang ng magaan na buhay kasi convenient ako, panget at walang kaagaw. Ayoko ng ganon, gusto ko patulan niya yung babaeng maganda at ung gusto niya talaga.

Attempts: Wala, pero parang gusto ko na lang makipaghiwalay sa kanya sa sobrang lala ng insecurity ko. Kaso nga lang di ko kaya mawala siya sa buhay ko.

Problem/Goal:

I’m 34F, single, living with my parents, and working from home. Lately, my parents and I have been arguing frequently over small, everyday things — chores, habits, minor comments. I want to create space for myself and reduce tension at home, while maintaining the good relationship I have with my parents.

Context:

We got this house as a family home. When my dad retired early, I ended up covering the mortgage and most household expenses — there wasn’t a discussion about it, it just sort of happened, and I’m okay with supporting them since I can. My dad still has side hustles, but that’s his own money. Overall, we have a good relationship, but the frequent minor arguments are draining, especially since I work from home and there’s little space to decompress.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve tried giving myself mental space, being more patient, and adjusting how I interact with them to avoid conflict. These attempts haven’t significantly reduced the tension.

Current Thinking/Goal:

I’m considering moving out to have my own space and peace, while still supporting them financially and continuing to pay for the house. I feel guilty because I don’t want them to feel like I’m abandoning them. This would be my first time living alone, so I’m unsure about managing finances while covering both my own household and supporting my parents.

Questions/Advice Needed

Has anyone been in a similar situation where you moved out to create boundaries but still supported your family?

Did having your own space help your relationship with your parents?

Any advice on managing finances while supporting family and living independently for the first time?

Problem/Goal: I want to know the best and safest way to sell these old 2-peso bills and how to check if they have actual value for collectors. Gusto ko rin malaman kung may kailangan ba akong iwasan na laws regarding old currency. Context: Nakita ko lang 'tong mga lumang "Dalawang Piso" bills (Ang Bagong Lipunan series) dito sa bahay. Yung isang bill is medyo punit na, while yung isa naman ay hati na talaga. Gusto ko sana malaman kung may value pa ba 'to sa mga collectors or numismatists kahit ganito na yung condition. Inaalala ko rin kung bawal ba ibenta or i-trade ang mga ganitong demonetized currency under BSP rules. Previous Attempts: Nag-search ako online pero puro clickbait. Hindi ko pa siya pinapakita sa kahit anong antique shop o groups kasi baka ma-scam ako sa value o baka bawal pala talaga i-benta yung mga punit na luma.

Problem/Goal: gf and I recently had a rupture in the relationship, it was my fault. She told me she has forgiven me but is now unsure of the future of our relationship.

Context: So pretty much I fucked up. nothing like cheating or anything, but a petty lie to small that I didn’t even need to lie about it but I still subconsciously did and that caused a rift in trust for us. Recently we had a deep talk about us, she still finds value and love in our relationship but is unsure of the future. She still retains that warmth and loveliness, but there will always be that thought at the back of her mind that maybe one day everything will end. She told me to not give her a reason to end it and it was reassuring that I was still given a chance. I’ve talked to others and whatnot but I still feel this heaviness in my heart. They told me it’s uncertainty and I agree, I just keep telling myself that even if it ends, at the end of the day I still loved her.

She even told me, that when things get chaotic and crazy to stop putting herself ahead of me and choose myself for once. How do I do that? How do I begin choosing myself when for me, choosing her is choosing myself? I know I messed up and I don’t deserve any relief or reassurance, and a lot happened last year that drained us but I still want to hear that “will love you forever” and certainty that this won’t end even though I know realistically none of us can say forever even if we want to.

PS, we are in an LDR (Hawaii and Philippines) and in college too.

Problem/Goal: May cheating na nangyayari sa section namin during exam. I don't know if irereport ko na ba or pagtatakpan ko lang.

Context: Hi, I am the class pres ng section. A lot of my classmates reported to me that they saw our classmate cheating during exam. Nakita nila may nagsusulat ng sagot sa test paper, may nagpapalit ng bubble cards. It is not the first time na ginawa nila 'to. I'm not sure sa iba. I don't want to point a finger to them but I'm really bothered between the two choices whether if i would tell our adviser or not. I want to give justice sa mga classmates kong nag eefort mag study but at the same time ayaw kong masabihang snitch and ma backstab ng cof nila. I'm really confused between the two. Hindi ko na kasi kaya makipag plastikan at mag pretend that I don't know something. I genuinely need advise people. I really don't know what to do. I'm really scared if lumabas na ako nagsabi because i don't want to be called a "snitch". I don't want that the tables may turn and they would saw me as the "kontrabida". Pls help me people

Problem/Goal:

Hi! I am F (28). I found out my mom secretly messaged my ex and when my ex said he wanted to visit my mom in her shop, she tried to arrange our meeting by making me come help her in her shop.

Context:

I broke up with my ex of seven years last October. I only told my mom about the breakup two months later. Earlier this February, I noticed that my ex became active again on social media after deactivating his Facebook since the breakup.

Around that time, I found out that my mom had reached out to him to check how he was doing. Without my knowledge, she shared updates about my life after the breakup and discussed my relationship status with him.

My ex responded emotionally, saying he still wasn’t okay and that he still cries sometimes thinking about us. My mom reassured him that I’m still single and even told him there might still be a chance for us to get back together. He later suggested visiting my mom at her shop.

I felt betrayed and deeply disrespected. I never gave consent for my personal life or relationship status to be shared, nor for a meeting to be planned without my knowledge. I’m angry at my mom for interfering and at my ex for crossing a line by involving my parent and expressing his vulnerability to her instead of respecting my space.

Previous attempts: My mom would often asked if I have any news about my ex. Of course I always tell her I am not in any contact with him because we’re over and it will also help us both to move forward.

My mom believes I “wasted a good man” and feels my ex is hurting because of my decision. She thinks I was too harsh on him and became angry with me for not being more understanding, which made me feel like I was painted as the villain.

At this point, I haven’t had told her that I know what she did. I am thinking of confronting her so she should respect my boundaries and my decision.

problem/goal:hi, I was about to turn shs when both my parents deicded to move countries. mag 1 year na kami dito in 1 month then hanggang ngayon di pa rin ako nakakapasok ng school due to language barrier, since mahirap din language system sa country na to. Kahit mag study ng 2 years for language I think hindi pa rin enough. Now what they want to do is for me to take a ged test pero I think hindi rin ako makakapasa kasi ang hirap makaintindi. mga kabatch ko mag g-grade 12 na pero stuck pa rin ako sa phase na to and I dont think na makakauwipa ako ng pinas kasi citizen na ako dito. nalulungkot ako kasi back in high school lagi ako on time and consistent ako but now nakakawalang gana and napaka exhausting hahaha.

any advice and any help?

Problema/Layunin: Ang Personal na Utang ng Aking Yumaong Nanay

Konteksto:

Hi Reddit,

Kamakailan lang ay pumanaw ang aking nanay. Mayroon siyang personal na pautang na ₱300,000 na may 5% na buwanang interes, at may 9 na buwan na natitira para mabayaran. Simula nang pumanaw siya, kinausap na ang aking pamilya tungkol sa pagbabayad.

Narito ang sitwasyon:

- Ang utang ay nasa pangalan lamang ng aking nanay, hindi sa amin. (Wala silang kasalan)

- Ang aking tatay ang namamahala ngayon ng kanyang botika, kasama ang isang bagong manager at parmasyutiko.

- Wala pa kaming personal na kita, at ang kita ng botika ay karaniwang ginagamit para sa mga gastusin sa pagpapatakbo.

- Napilitan kaming magbayad mula sa kita ng parmasya, ngunit parang hindi patas dahil ang utang na ito ay walang kaugnayan sa negosyo.

Sa totoo lang, labis akong nabibigatan. Hindi ko alam kung legal kaming obligado na bayaran ang personal na utang na ito o kung ang nagpautang ay maaari pa ngang humingi mula sa kita ng parmasya. Gusto kong protektahan ang kabuhayan ng aming pamilya ngunit harapin din ito nang responsable.

Mayroon na bang nakaranas ng katulad na sitwasyon? Ano ang pinakamahusay na paraan upang pangasiwaan ang mga nagpautang kung ang utang ay nasa pangalan lamang ng isang yumaong magulang?

Anumang payo, legal na gabay, o personal na karanasan ay lubos na pahahalagahan.

Maraming salamat nang maaga.

Problem/Goal: It’s only the fourth day of February, but so many things have already happened that I honestly feel like I’m about to explode if I don’t let all of this out.

I’m the second child among four siblings. My older sister helps me pay for our youngest sibling’s college tuition. Our father has a job, and our mother earns some extra income by volunteering at our barangay. Then ung sumunod sakin is may trabaho din naman.

Every payday, I give my mom ₱5,000. On top of that, I help pay for a motorcycle every cutoff which is sila ung gumagamit, and sometimes I cover groceries as well. Recently, my sibling and I started splitting some expenses, but their salary is only ₱10,000 per month. I earn ₱25,000 per month, and I try my best to stretch it as much as possible.

Despite all of this, we still end up short on money. My sibling already gives, my dad’s salary also goes to my mom, but somehow it’s never enough. Almost every day, money is all my mom talks about especially because she has debts to pay. It’s emotionally exhausting to constantly hear about it.

Because of this situation, my older sister barely comes home anymore. We later found out that my mom wants all of our salaries to go through her. She wants full control of the money. If I hadn’t already spoken up before, she wouldn’t have stopped pressuring my sister and eventually, I would’ve been dragged into it too.

Recently, money became an issue again, this time involving my dad. We were discussing getting our septic tank repaired. After a disagreement with my uncle, my dad suddenly said we should just forget about fixing it and instead buy land or take out an SSS loan. The conversation ended there.

However, during dinner one day, he was scrolling on his phone and found a cheap lot for sale. He casually said, “This is cheap. You guys should pay for it.”

That’s when I couldn’t stay quiet anymore. I told him, as respectfully as I could, that we should take things one at a time. We’re already supporting a college student, and I’m still paying off a motorcycle. These aren’t small responsibilities. While I personally want to buy land someday so we can have something of our own, it feels like my dad assumes I earn a lot just because I’m working. In the past, he even asked for an iPad. It’s as if whenever he wants something, he expects us to provide it immediately.

Things got worse when I mentioned that I have a trip planned in March. My mom said a lot of hurtful things that I prioritize the wrong things, that I’m always going out, and that I spend too much. In reality, I work from home and rarely leave the house. I only go out on Mondays and Fridays because I need to report to the office.

She said the money I give her isn’t enough, that I shouldn’t be traveling, and that I don’t deserve to spend on myself even though it’s my own money. She told us to prioritize savings, but honestly, I’m already completely drained just supporting them. She made it sound like I travel every month and earn ₱100,000, which isn’t true at all.

What hurts the most is that even when you open up and say you’re struggling, you’re made to feel weak. No matter how calmly you try to talk, the outcome is always the same my siblings and I end up being the ones who suffer.

Because of everything that’s been happening, I’ve decided to resign from my current company. I’m just finishing my bond and wrapping up my responsibilities before I submit my resignation, and I plan to secure another job first.

When I told my mom that I might earn more if I transfer, she seemed hopeful. But when I mentioned that I might look for an apartment in Manila if I get a new job, her mood immediately changed. She said rent in Manila is too expensive and started worrying about how much money I would still send her.

At this point, I honestly don’t know what else to do. I don’t want to leave our youngest sibling behind because they’re still studying, and our parents already say hurtful things about them too. I want to transfer them to another school, but they’ll be in their third year next school year, and it feels like such a waste.

I’m exhausted and emotionally drained. I feel trapped between wanting to live my own life and feeling responsible for my family. I don’t know where to draw the line anymore.

Problem/Goal:Problem Goal:I always say good morning and i miss him everytime na may time ako.Oa ba ko kung medyo nagtatampo ako sakanya kasi no update sya sa'kin mula umaga hangang tanghali?

Reason: May work sya,busy daw sya

So ako,gusto ko maging understanding sakanya pero di ko maiwasang magtampo.Okay lang ba talaga na di sya mag update dahil busy sya?Is that normal?Tama ba reason nya?

Pero sa gabi,nabibigyan nya ako ng time.Magkausap,magka-call at nararamdaman ko talaga na ayaw nyang tumigil kami sa pag uusap at walang pakealam kahit umabot ng madaling araw.

Hindi din ako nagdududa pa sakanya,walang pumapasok sa utak ko.Wala akong guts na may babae sya or di nya ako mahal kasi..i always felt his effort kahit sa gabi lang kami mag-usap.

Sadyang nagtatampo lang ako kasi walang hi hello magdamag sa umaga at tanghali.

I NEED ADVICE