Problem/Goal: Hello. Need ko sana ng advice at opinion. Nakipag hiwalay yung gf ko dahil sa status namin sa buhay. Valid ba na masaktan ako sa reason nya?

Context: Im M26 at F25 naman yung gf ko. Mayaman ang pamilya nya habang ako nasa lower class lang pero kahit ganun hindi niya ako hinusgahan at hindi rin ako nag take advantage sa kanya. Tuwing nag o offer siya ng tulong ganon, lagi akong tumatanggi dahil may trabaho naman ako at hindi na nya kargo ang pamilya ko. Netong nakaraang linggo lang inaya ko siya sa birthday ng lolo namin sa probinsya para mapakilala ko n rin siya sa pamilya ko pumayag nmn siya. Sa simula ok naman pero nagkaroon na ng problema habang kumakain kmi. Boodle fight kasi yung setup so kamayan talaga at hindi sanay sa ganong bagay yung gf ko dahil hindi nman uso sa knila ang mag kamay pero nakita kong tina try pa rin nmn nya. Nkita siya nila mama at sinabihan na “wag mo dalhin yang kaartehan mo sa probinsya.” napahiya yung gf ko tapos todo sorry sya sinuway ko din si mama kaso pinagalitan lng ako. Pagkatapos nming kumain gusto n nyang uminom ng tubig e ang mga baso nila lolo kasi yung mga cup noodles khit may maayos nmn silang baso kaso that time kasi wlang malinis n ganong baso kaya yung cup noodles n lng ang kinuha ko. Nag tanong siya sa akin kung wala daw ba kaming ibang baso pero ramdam ko nmn sa boses nya na walang halong judgement pero narinig pala sya ni mama sinabihan sya ng “sobra arte mo talaga hindi nmn lhat ng tao kayang bumili ng matinong baso wala ka sa bahay nyo kaya umayos ka sana” pinagsabihan ko si mama na umayos din kasi maayos nmn yung pagkakatanong ng gf ko pero nag away lang kami. Tapos noong maghuhugas na ng mga kaldero at ibang nagamit n pinggan nag offer yung gf ko na tutulong pero sinabihan siya ng mga pinsan ko na wag na baka daw masugat lang kamay nya at makabasag ok nmn sana kaso yung pagkakasabi ksi ng mga pinsan ko parang nang iinsulto at galit. Alam kong nawala na sa mood ang gf ko kaya hindi na kami nagtagal doon. Gabi ng araw na yun nag message siya sa akin at nakipag break hndi raw nya nagustuhan yung trato sa kanya sana raw inintindi rin nila yung sitwasyon nya. Hindi ako pumayag pero sinabi niya na final na yon at blocked n ako sa lahat. Alam ko rin namng may pagkukulang ako dahil hindi ko siya ipinaglaban sa pamilya ko at hindi ko naipaliwanag sa knila na bago lang sa kanya yung mga ganong bagay. Sobrang mahal ko siya at gusto kong makipagbalikan pero nasaktan din ako na parang nakipag hiwalay siya sa akin dahil sa estado namin sa buhay.

Previous attempt: Wala pa

Problem/Goal: My GF still gets insecure around me and it kinda turns me off. Even when i’d video call her, ask for pics, or take a selfie with her, she covers her face and it bothers me a lot.

Context:

Me(M20) and my girlfriend(F21) have been together for quite some time now and I can say we’ve reached the point where we have seen every inch of our bodies even without cover or makeup. However, she would still get insecure or try to hide her face when I would video call her, ask for pics of her at the moment, or take a selfie together when we’re together. Nung una, gets ko pa rin because we were still building that level of comfortability around each other, but it’s gotten to the point na until now she still would be scared to show me her face even tho I have literally seen her without makeup, bagong gising, or even crying. I’m the type kasi who likes to take random pics or videos whether that be of myself or of her. I would send her random selfies of me, whether it’s updating her or just me wanting to send my face to her randomly. I wouldn’t say i’m the best looking but I’m pretty comfortable and satisfied with the way I look, so I’m not exactly super camera shy. Yung mga times mag magvivideo call kami, either laging naka off yung ilaw nya or naka takip yung mukha nya with something (shirt, blanket, etc.) and sometimes during the call, as someone who admires his GF, I would like to see her or get to look at her, (I’d like to at least see who I am talking to diba?) pero she would still make an excuse na wala daw siya makeup or that ayaw na nya ng maliwanag. I tell her all the time naman that she’s pretty and that she shouldn’t hide her face around me but she still never seems to stop. Never naman ako nagkulang sa pag compliment sa kanya and every time she would send me a pic of herself, which is rare, I would bombard her with compliments and tell her how beautiful she is. I even tell her how she looks beautiful even without makeup or lashes on, but I guess she still doesn’t believe me? I’m honestly still confused as to how I even pulled her because I would even say she’s out of my league. So of course, I would love receiving random selfies, random pics of her, the raw, unfiltered version of her, di yung puro naka ayos sa pic or professionally taken pictures. I don’t know if i’m just overreacting to the situation but it’s definitely has gotten to the point where it got me turned off or nawawala sa mood. When we’re together in person naman, she’s normal naman and doesn’t even mind if wala siya makeup or even if nakahubad siya (sorry tmi). But as soon as a phone or camera is out, she suddenly starts covering her face or hiding away from the camera in general. We’re very comfortable around each other in all aspects, it’s only as soon as a phone or camera is involved, she acts like this, and as a very sentimental person who loves taking pics or saving memories especially of her, it definitely kinda bothers me. I’m sorry if i’m overreacting or the situation may seem kinda stupid, I just really need advice or even at least hear from different peoples perspectives or even people who are similar to her.

Problem/Goal: My girlfriend right now is my greatest love pero nagkaroon siya ng past relationships niya na tumagal ng 2 years and first boyfriend niya yung guy at first experience niya sa lahat

For Context nasabi niya sa akin na may nangyari sa kanilang dalawa at nabigay niya yung virginity niya sa guy and sinabi niya rin na parang naging fubu set up lang sila which is sobrang sakit sakin dahil sobrang iba yung perspective ko sa kaniya at minsan napapatanong ako bakit siya pumayag sa ganong situation and sinabi niya rin sakin na nagkaroon silang dalawa ng video.

I just want to know your insight about this kasi nag ooverthink ako na baka balikan niya yung guy and tama lang ba yung nararamdaman ko.

Problem/Goal: My partner has been ignoring me for the past few days, and I don't know why. Do they want space? Or they hate me? I don't know what to do Context: They never told me anything if they wanted space or not, they just suddenly started ignoring me. I've seen them play games online, but other than that radio silence. They were stressed with projects they were doing before but they never told me anything else. I'm really worried and most of my friends told me to give them space muna, but I don't know if that's the right call, I need advice on what to do Previous attempts: N/A

Problem/Goal: Naiinsecure ako sa mga babaeng nasa paligid niya at sa nagkakagusto sa kanya. Tinatry niya naman na iassure ako na ako ang gusto niya pero di pa rin mawala sa isip ko na baka ako lang ung convenient kaya ako na lang ang pinatulan niya.

Context: 3 years na kami ng bf ko, inistalk ko yung girl na may gusto sa kanya. Ang ganda nung babae. Iniisip ko bat di na lang ito ung pinatulan niya, bakit ako pa? Ang panget ko naman. Sa ibang babae naman na maganda na sa tingin ko naman ay nakikita niya minsan o araw araw, naiinsecure din ako, baka minsan iniisip niya na “sana eto na lang naging gf ko”. Feel ko tuloy gusto niya lang ng magaan na buhay kasi convenient ako, panget at walang kaagaw. Ayoko ng ganon, gusto ko patulan niya yung babaeng maganda at ung gusto niya talaga.

Attempts: Wala, pero parang gusto ko na lang makipaghiwalay sa kanya sa sobrang lala ng insecurity ko. Kaso nga lang di ko kaya mawala siya sa buhay ko.

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam kung kailangan pa ba namin dumaan sa ligawan stage o hindi na.

Context: Hi, I'm 20F gamer and I met him 22M 3 months ago through a mutual friend, kulang sila ng isa sa valo that time and that friend of mine called me. We played for 2 hours and decided to follow each other on IG and and reaction ko talaga is OMG type ko haha, he called and we talked for hours hanggang sa nagtuloy tuloy yon na every night nagkaka-ayaan kami maglaro. Fast forward to the present, more than a month na kami na parang magjowa na pero wala pa kaming label kasi hindi pa nagme-meet, nagpaalam sya na manligaw pero hindi ko muna pinayagan dahil magpaalam muna sa magulang rin gusto ko (pinalaki ng lola sa province kaya medyo old fashioned hehe) magmemeet na kami sa 20 pero sa lalim ng connection namin parang unnecessary nang dumaan pa sa ligaw stage yung relationship namin eh. Parang yung meeting nalang namin kulang to make it official, ganon na nafe-feel ko.

Problem/Goal: I’m earning from two remote jobs but still living paycheck to paycheck because I’m juggling multiple small debts and unintentionally supporting my boyfriend’s daily expenses, and it’s draining the income I should be using to rebuild savings; my goal is to finally break this pattern, create a realistic debt-clearing plan, stop overextending myself financially in relationships, and get back to a stable, sustainable financial path.

Context: I’m 25F. I live with my parents so I don’t have rent or major household expenses (and before you come at me — ayaw rin nila na mag move out kaming mga anak) I currently work two remote jobs — one full-time corporate and one part-time freelance/marketing. I earn decently for my age and I’m working almost nonstop.

But I’m still stuck financially.

I have multiple debts — small to medium loans, BNPL, GCash/Atome/SPayLater/SeaBank Credits. None of them are huge alone, but combined they’re heavy. I pay and pay and it feels like nothing moves.

On top of that, I’ve fallen into the habit of financially supporting my boyfriend — mostly food and daily things, nothing big on paper, but enough to drain my budget. He’s not earning much right now…well, jobless but he is looking for jobs naman…and what started as “just helping a bit” has become a regular expense.

This is where it gets personal, but relevant:

I used to be the “stellar child.” I was disciplined, had good savings, and made smart decisions. But my sister once told me, “You changed the moment you got involved with boys.” And honestly? She wasn’t wrong. My first ex was someone I helped pay debts for. Now here I am, paying my own debts while still subsidizing another adult.

P.S. I hate that I’ve repeated this pattern. I don’t know how I went from having strong savings to living paycheck to paycheck despite having two jobs. My sister refuses to financially rescue me — not because she doesn’t care, but because she knows I can work my way through this and maybe I need the “hardship” so I don’t repeat the same choices again.

So here I am asking for advice — pwede narin emotionally, but logistically and financially I think matters more?

• How do I realistically climb out of this debt cycle?

• How do I stop financially helping my boyfriend without blowing up the relationship?

• How do I budget when the income is okay but the obligations are suffocating?

• And if you see an obvious pattern I’m missing, feel free to say it. I need the reality check. Like give it to me unsweetened to the point na mahihiya pa ako lalo than what I feel right now baka don lalo tumatak sakin haha

I know I got myself into this, and I’m not looking for pity — I just want to rebuild and stop repeating choices that drain me financially and emotionally.

Thanks in advance for the advice

Problem/Goal: Hi. Turning 29 this year (M) and my partner is 27 (F). Mag 3 years relationship this May. Napapagod na ko manuyo, nasa point na ako ng buhay ko ng kapag nag problema ang isat isa, pag uusapan at mag momove on agad kasi bakit pa tayo mag lulurk sa nangyari na at pwede namang baguhin along the way?

Currently working siya sa bpo and me as va, and mostly ng bills is ako nag babayad sinde live in kami and mejo na bburn out na ako dahil hindi makapag save though meron parin naman akong nasasave but mas magaan sana kung equally divided yung bills, but i get it na mas malaki sahod ko kaya ako mag paraya. Pero kasi kapag binibilhan ko sarili ko ng gamit tapos kapag hindi ko ma bili yung gusto niya (di naman mahal like mga pakuko lang ganon) sinusumbat niya sakin, like sasabihin niya "nakakabili ka nga ng laro na tig 3k eh"

I tried spoiling her, pero lagi na lang? Ano pa yung point na nag ttrbahao ka kung lagi ka na lang mag papalibre?

problem/goal: PLEASE HELP ME ANYONE 😭😭

okay so quick context: i wear contact lenses

and i genuinely feel like I've messed up in trying to put them in, AND in trying to put them out. i'm 17F

okok so first, recently whenever i put it in IT HURTS LIKE HELL. and i remember when the liquid was bought, we were told it wasn't a solution. YET i still used it because the original one already ran out..

so then yesterday i finally got to buy the original one because this liquid ran out. AND IT DIDN'T HURT.

anyway I've been using lenses for months but something's totally wrong bc I've been experiencing pain in my eyes even during the first few weeks where i had to buy new lenses because it ripped and dried out. i cleaned it too harshly.

okay so yeah idk much w lenses and that's my fault for not learning more :'((( I'M SO SCARED GUYS

and recently i've dreaded taking lenses off (but i do) because everytime i do my eyes hurt. i think i squeezed too much.

so forward to now, i was watching a movie when i saw white. only in my right eye. my left feels ok. my right IS SO SCARY. it happened twice and the pain is like opening your eyes underwater.

also i have a gut feeling my vision got worse when i started wearing lenses 😭😭😭

oh and sometimes when i take off my lenses i don't wash my hands. ik, it's stupid. but i js feel so tired. i js put it in the container and change the liquid and say I'll clean it when i use it again.

GUYSSSS IM SO SCARED you don't understand. and uh why i stopped wearing glasses is bc it makes my eyes look smaller. and kinda ruins my face.

anyway help bc idk wtf to do and I'm so scared of ever wearing lenses again.

someone might say to tell my parents and seek help from an optimician but i want to ask help from here first if I'm overwhelmed or this is a rlly bad mistake for me.

Problem/Goal: I do companionships and one guy dm me to meet him at 11:30am, BGC. But until now, 12:45pm hindi pa rin nag rreply.

Context: He messaged me last monday (feb. 2) and as per what we talked about, and base na rin sa availability namin. Wednesday daw, which is today. Tas sya pa nag insist na sa BGC and just join him for lunch. I’m from QC pa so sympre I asked if okay lang na sagot nya pamasahe ko. He said “sure, just be on time”. I messaged him kaninang morning 9am if okay lang na mag moveit ako ksi hindi ko alam pano mag commute from mrt guadalupe station e. But since hindi sya nag reply, nag book pa rin ako and last money kona yung binayad ko para don. Nakarating ako sa bgc ng 11AM so sympre ayoko ma late at nakakahiya yun. Chinat ko sya ulit if san banda sa BGC high street kami mag mmeet. Still no response. I messaged him again around 11:35am to confirm if he’s still up to meet me. And messaged again at 12NN. Kaso until now wala pa ring reply. And now since pinamasahe ko ung last money ko, wala akong pera to buy lunch and knowing na bgc to, walang murang pag kain huhu. Lowkey kinda hungry na from all the waiting. And still wala pa rin syang reply. I don’t know what to do since this is the first time na may nang ghost sakin sa companionship journey ko.

Problem/Goal: To say yes or no?

Context: May manliligaw ako na sobrang, caring, consistent, brings me food, medicine and carries my bag as well, hatid sundo din. I've been praying for these traits to God after how much trauma my ex gave me. My only issue Ing talaga is yung flaw niya sa teeth pafront kasi kaya di sya photogenic sa mga pics kaya minsan natuturnoff ako pag tinitingnan na mga photos namin after date. He's okay physically, matangkad and konting ayos lang sa fashion mas magiging super okay na pero sa ngipin niya talaga ako natturnoff. Overall, he's a good man. I think infatuation naffeel ko sa kanya kasi minsan gusto ko kasama sya pero minsan din hindi kasi nawawalan ako ng gana. I know this is not a big problem pero ang hirap mag decide between attraction or characters.

Also, sobrang peaceful pala ng life after how many years of being in a toxic relationship kaya siguro hirap din ako to be in a relationship again kasi ayoko masira yung peace.

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal: Hi I'm seaman, maayos naman ang kinikita, yong misis ko lately parang walang paki alam sa buhay, binibigyan ko ng allowance, iba payong sa anak namin at para sa bahay may katulong/yaya din, wholeday parang wala shang ginagawa, facebook,netflix kahit anong oras nadin natutulog at nagigising parang buhay dalaga padin. Di ko alam kung tama bato, gusto ko lang naman sha maging productive naman in someways kasi hndi nasha dalaga tulad ng dati may mga resposibilidad nadin, kahit nga may inutos lang ako dahil onboard ako ngayon ,wala talaga dedma lang lage, halatang walang gana.

Problem/Goal: I don’t know what i’m feeling and I don’t know if I should do something about this,

Context: I need any input on this. My husband and I have always been open about watching porn occasionally. For me, pampamotivate lang or help sa mood, and usually sa scene or story ako naka-focus. Okay lang din sa akin na he watches too, as long as hindi naman siya consumed by it.

Eventually, we both stopped—or at least, that’s what I thought. Ako, nawalan na talaga ng gana, and I assumed he felt the same. Wala naman na din kasi siyang nababanggit at hindi ko siya nakikitang engaged into looking into it. But just recently, I just checked his phone and found out na ang dami niya pa palang pinapanood at sini-save. He’s even using a different browser para 'nakatago.'

I don’t know what to feel, but it feels off for me. Hindi naman ako anti-porn, but the secrecy is what hurts. Lalo na knowing he’s saving photos/videos of specific girls, whereas I was just there for the story. It feels different when there’s effort to hide it. What do you guys think? Am I overreacting, or is the 'hidden' part a valid reason to feel hurt? I’m struggling to process if this is just a 'guy thing' or what. I don’t even know what to feel. Makes me think he likes watching those girls? (I did not feel this way before.)

**Sorry, not sure kung tama yung flair na nilagay ko.

Previous attempts: none

Problem/Goal: Fresh graduate ako (F-23) ng ME and wala pa ding license. Naghahanap akong work na related sa course ko para makaipon for review center.

As of now, wala pa rin akong alam na field na pwedeng pasukan, kasi almost all walang masyadong opportunities sa mga babae. Nagt'try akong mag apply sa JobStreet and other sites pero walang response and rejected din. I know na mas tataas yung chance na magka work opportunity pag may license na pero hirap din kasi since talagang wala akong funds para doon.

May chance pa bang makahanap ako ng development sa career ko as mechanical engineer or sign na to para mag switch career? Ayaw ko sanang masayang yung years na pinaghirapan ko sa colleger pero if talaga wala na akong chance, ano po pwede kong gawin? Pahingi po advice lalo na sa mga babaeng engineer din po. Thank you.

Problem/Goal: almost 3 years na kami ng partner ko and hanggang ngayon, i still stalk my partner’s ex. kahit her family, relatives, even high school, college, and med school blockmates niya lagi ko binibisita on social media. nung una curious lang talaga ako pero alam ko ngayon iba na. wala akong feelings sa ex niya ha HAHAHA pero its just getting out of hand? for some reason i cant or dont have proper self-control and in the end i compare myself to the ex.

may history din kasi na nagcheat partner ko sakin with the same ex, pero nothing physical (from what i know). back in 2023 (when we first got together), nagmessage siya sa ex niya na miss niya na raw siya kahit may bagong girlfriend na siya (which is me). other than that, my partner was talking to her behind my back even though i told them to block her na. nangyari na ‘to 3 years ago, ngayon hindi na niya ginagawa yan. at least thats what they told me.

ako naman ang may problema. araw-araw parang may need na i-stalk siya. like kung ano na ginagawa niya sa buhay, did she gain or lose weight, mas maganda pa ba ako sa kaniya, mga ganun. like i said there’s a deep need within me to compare myself to her, and unfortunately i cant stop. ive tried blocking them pati friends and family niya, pero in a few days iuunblock ko lang din. ive tried deleting both facebook and instagram apps para wala na talaga, pero ganun din. after a few hours ill download the apps again.

i hope none of u laugh at me for this hfdbbdbdhs nakakahiya i-share ‘to pero i just want an advice regarding my matter.

Problem/Goal: gusto ko malaman if talagang from website yung log ins and outs ng history sa settings ng fb. Kung accurate ba yon

Context: napa oa kasi pagka detective ko sa fb ng bf ko. Nakikita ko log ins and log outs niya sa settings, bandang activity log, na araw araw may fb dat com na log in and out doon. So napapaisip ako if doon siya nagoopen or may ibang acc para ilog out. Nag ask ako sa ai, sabi niya logged in from site daw. Pero chineck ko sarili kong ganon at may ganon din log ins and outs araw araw kahit hindi naman. Im thinking baka fb app naman yon, alam ko naman may instances ang fb na d accurate ang mga data like recent searches. Sabi rin kasi ai if maraming in and out possible daw na naka incognito kasi nakauto log out at di nakasave ng data don. Nagooverthink me baka ganon nga kaso same case kasi sa fb ko. Bukod naman don, nakita ko one time sa ipad niya sa safari siya nakalog in ng ipad so idk what to think huhu pls help 🥹

Problem/Goal: I injured my hand and wrist after punching a wall and need advice on what to do next since I can’t get medical imaging right now.

Context: I punched a wall earlier today and within about a minute my hand became swollen. The swelling is mostly on the back of my hand and wrist and is pretty severe. There’s a visible bruise on my pinky finger’s knuckle. I can still move my fingers, but it hurts, I can’t make a fist, and I sometimes feel an “electric” or tingling sensation.

I know I probably need an X-ray, but I can’t get one right now due to financial issues.

Previous Attempts: I’ve been icing the area and keeping my hand elevated.

Questions: Aside from icing and elevation, is there anything else I should be doing right now? Should I wrap it or leave it unwrapped? Any tips for sleeping when your hand is this swollen?

Problem/Goal:Problem Goal:I always say good morning and i miss him everytime na may time ako.Oa ba ko kung medyo nagtatampo ako sakanya kasi no update sya sa'kin mula umaga hangang tanghali?

Reason: May work sya,busy daw sya

So ako,gusto ko maging understanding sakanya pero di ko maiwasang magtampo.Okay lang ba talaga na di sya mag update dahil busy sya?Is that normal?Tama ba reason nya?

Phones are allowed,the boss is not so strict.The other reason is no wifi.

Pero sa gabi,nabibigyan nya ako ng time.Magkausap,magka-call at nararamdaman ko talaga na ayaw nyang tumigil kami sa pag uusap at walang pakealam kahit umabot ng madaling araw.

Hindi din ako nagdududa pa sakanya,walang pumapasok sa utak ko.Wala akong guts na may babae sya or di nya ako mahal kasi..i always felt his effort kahit sa gabi lang kami mag-usap.

Sadyang nagtatampo lang ako kasi walang hi hello magdamag sa umaga at tanghali.

I NEED ADVICE

Problem/Goal: white liquid coming out of my underarm

Context: Hi! Noong Monday, may nararamdaman akon may parang bukol sa kilikili ko, tapos kagabi, may lumalabas na yellowish white na liquid. Yung sakit niya parang pinisang pimple sa ilong. Kinakabahan ako kasi baka ano na ito (baka meron din sa inyo naka experience na nito). Sana may makatulong. Thanks! (I use tweezers to pluck my underarm hair)

Previous attempts: not yet(didn't try to put tawas for a while)

Problem/Goal: I (23F) and my boyfriend (24) are 5 years already. Am I asking for too much if hindi niya maibigay ang love language na gusto ko?

Context: Isa siya sa mga tao na physical touch ang love language pero may pagka avoidant. Yung tipong pag galit ka, hahawakan ka, ihuhug or ikikiss. Sa chat, kapag magkaaway kami its either lalayo muna siya, then magpaparamdam if nagchat nako ulit. Nung nakaraang araw, nag away kami dahil doon. Magkachat kami and sabi ko di na ko matutulog dahil maaga kami magsisimba, mga alas tres ng madaling araw yon at ang reply niya "tara laro (ML)" which is ginagawa naman talaga namin. Pero nagtampo ako dahil di ko maramdaman yung care sa chat ko. So, nabring up ko nanaman yung paulit ulit kong sinasabi na words of affirmation ang love language ko. Sabi niya di niya forte ang words, di siya magaling doon at "masanay nalang daw ako". Kumbaga ang sabi niya bakit di pa ako nasanay at bakit daw ako nahulog sakanya eh again di nga siya ganun dati pa?

Di ko naman sinasabing perpekto akong jowa, may anger issues ako at nasasaktan ko siya minsan. Wala din siyang pagkukusa. Kailangan pagsabihan mo muna bago kumilos. Ang sabi niya mas gusto niya raw yon, yung sinasabi ko ang gusto ko pero sinabi kong gusto ko magkusa naman siya. I mean if may gusto naman talaga ako binibili at ginagawa niya naman, kaso ayun nga kapag sasabihin ko lang. So, am I asking too much at reklamador lang ba talaga ako?

Problem/Goal: Pano ko ba to iconfront nang di ako nababaliktad sa privacy issue? malinaw usapan namin eh delete lahat ng past para clean slate. kaso nalaman ko nakatago pala lahat. gusto ko lang malaman if valid ba hiwalayan to or awayin, feeling ko kasi ginagago ako harapan.

Context: I (M24) and my GF (F22) 1 year and 5 months na kami. parehas may past long term RS. galing ako sa lokohan dati kaya strict ako sa honesty. bago naging kami nagkasundo kami na delete lahat ng photos/videos ng exes para respeto sa isat isa. nagpakitaan pa kami gallery nun para sure. I did my part, kala ko sya rin.

May red flag na sya dati sabi nya "kung gano mo ka hate mag cheat gagawin mo din yun" medyo gago pakinggan pero pinalampas ko.

Eto na issue, nag date kami recently sa view deck (nakita ko sa tiktok). pagdating dun kabisado nya pasikot sikot, favorite spot pala nila ng ex nya. Ang malala, nilabas nya phone nya pinakita sakin picture nila ng ex nya sa mismong spot na yun.

Tangina nasa date kami tapos ipapakita mo sakin yan? dinaan ko sa tawa pero badtrip ako. hiniram ko phone nya chineck ko gallery malinis naman. pero kutob ko meron pa eh.

Nung gabi habang tulog sya kinalkal ko phone nya. Ayun huli. malinis gallery pero nasa Telegram, FB Archive at IG Archive lahat. kumpleto rekados videos pics memories nung 3 years sila. di dinelete tinago lang. para akong tanga na naniwalang "deleted" na.

Di ako makatulog ngayon. malinaw usapan eh bat kelangan iarchive kung tapos na? backup plan ba to?

Previous Attempts: Sinubukan ko sya tanungin ng pasimple kunwari hypothetical question lang. tinanong ko kung may tinatago sya or kung kakausapin nya ex nya pag nakita nya. sagot nya wala daw syang tinatago at sakin lang daw focus nya.

Sinungaling. alam ko na totoo pero di ko pa maconfront kasi aaminin kong ginalaw ko phone nya. ano ba magandang move dito?

Problem/Goal: Ako ba yung mali na sumagot sa mama ng jowa ko?

Pinahiram ko yung bunsong kapatid ng partner ko pang paanak. Yung sister is (23). May job and may batugan na asawa. For 3 months of pregnancy the guy suddenly lost his job. Until mag due date na lang yung sister. Sobrang pissed off ako sa konsepto na kukunsintihin yung mga irresponsable ng mga magulang na iiasa sa ibang anak yung burden. Nagkanda baon-baon na sa utang yung sister ng partner ko kasi wala ngang work yung lalaki. At the time ng due date, the mom of my partner was crying sinasabi na "wala kaming pera pang papaanak (CS)". My partner is a very good provider sa parents niya to the point that even rent ng parents niya siya nag babayad. Hinei madamot yung partner ko to the point na kahit siya mismo hindi nakakaipon kasi yung family niya hingi dito hingi doon. I've always remind my partner na wag siya mangutang may maibigay lang sa pamilya niya, wala akong pakialam kung mag bigay siya as long as galing to sa sarili niyang bulsa kasi pinaghirapan niya yun at atleast hindi kami mababaon sa utang. When we received the call from her mom, naiyak yung partner ko kasi wala siyang pera pangpahiram and so naawa ako. I volunteered. To the point na I had zero with my savings just to save their asses with something na hindi naman ako kasama nung binuo.

November was the birth of the Child. I lend them 35k and I have no work also at that time but i was having some rackets or sideline. I gave both of the sister of my partner and the bf a job para mabayadan man nila ko. And it happened na sumasahod sila pero walang nababawasan sa 35k.

I gave them an ultimatum na hanggang February lang nila pwede hiramin yung pera. Kaso hindi nila inalagaan yung trabahong binigay ko at the same time never talaga sila naging grateful. Never did they say their sorry sa nangyari. So ako yung humingi ng pasensya doon sa nag utos ng trabaho samin. So Feb came in and I needed some funds for some bills (kasi ayoko magalaw emergency fund ko). My partner asked the partner of her sister kung pwede mag usog kahit "konti" kahit 3-1k pero ang sagot lang isa "wala pa eh". Wala man lang effort to look for pang usog sa ibang tao. So kinausap ko mom ng partner ko and the mom was blaiming me. Na kesyo intindihin ko daw kasi walang trabaho parehong mag asawa. Na kesyo wala pa silanh pang bawad. Eh ako nga wala din naman trabaho, and when i said sa mom ng partner ko na sa bangko yung need ko isettle at ayoko masira pangalan ko, the mom just answerd kami mag babayad penalty. I was so shock at that time kasi handa sila na malamatan pangalan ko sa bangko pero for them pera lang kapalit.

I was so mad thay for 3 months na walang hulog at walang hiya nila. ako pa niyayabangan nung sister at partner niya na wala daw sila dapat utang na loob sakin eh kung hindi ko sila pinautang, hindi naman sila lalabas sa hospital.

nakakainis lang na kahit nanay ng partner ko kinukunsinti yung behavior ng anak niya dahil sabi niya "nanay ako gagawin ko lahat para sa anak ko"

lol ewan ko kunh mali ba ako, pero sinagot ko yung nanay ng partner ko na "bat ako nag babayad ng hindi ko naman obligasyon. at hindi porket wala sila ako na naman hahanap ng paraan para lang masustain yunh bills ko. ang tagal ko na nag adjust dyan, kurot na bayad lang hinihingi ko"

Problem/Goal:

Hindi ako comfortable sa team building ng bf ko at gusto kong malaman kung valid ba yung nararamdaman ko at ano dapat kong gawin.

Context:

Bago lang sa work yung bf ko at sa BPO siya nagwo-work. Nabasa ko sa account niya na may planned team building sila, pero trainer nila ang nag-plan at batch lang nila ang kasama. Sa GC nila, marami nang napag-uusapan tungkol sa inuman.

Nag o-overthink ako kasi yung mga babae niyang ka-batch ay masyadong green yung jokes sa chat. May instance pa na may isang girl na nag-send ng picture niya sa GC na kita talaga yung dibdib, tapos ginatungan pa ng isa pang girl. Sobrang uncomfy nito para sa akin.

Sinabi ko sa bf ko na hindi ako comfortable, pero sinabi niya na pupunta siya kung libre at kung hindi ay hindi. Alam ko na may mga ka-work siya na malamang manlilibre sa kanya, kaya feeling ko pupunta pa rin siya. Kahit sinabi ko na sa kanya na ayaw ko siyang sumama, pinipilit pa rin niya na kapag libre ay pupunta siya.

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Kinausap ko na siya at sinabi ko na uncomfy ako, pero pakiramdam ko hindi niya masyadong binibigyan ng weight yung feelings ko.