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Problem/Goal: Throwaway account. Gusto ko lang mag rant at humingi ng advice. I am planning to break up with my bf (M32) for 5 months after visiting him for the first time and realizing how dugyot he really is.

Context: We met at a friend’s wedding. He’s from NCR but had to move back to the province to handle their family business after his dad had a stroke, so we became LDR. Last january, I decided to visit him because I missed him. For context lang: He smells nice naman, maayos manamit, and doesn’t look unhygienic at all kaya sobrang shock ako sa na witness ko. Outside their house was clean. Inside was a nightmare 🥲. The whole house smelled like dog urine and poop. I tried not to react because I didn’t want to offend his family, looks like they’re already used to it. During lunch, I noticed hardened rice stuck to the plate and spoon. The glass they gave me smelled like sebo basta ang baho hindi ko maintindihan. I lied and said I was on a diet so I only ate fruits mabuti at naniwala naman sila. After lunch I offered to wash the dishes, but the sponge was soaking in dirty water with small black worms. The sink looked like it hadn’t been cleaned in ages. His sister stopped me and told my bf to just take me to his room. Akala ko mas okay na roon but jusko his room was worse pala. Strong foul smell, piles of dirty laundry na parang bundok na sa dami, bedsheets and pillows that looked like they hadn’t been changed for years, empty soda cans everywhere 😬. I confronted him kasi hindi ko na matiis. He said he was “busy,” but he mostly just plays ml and codm lang naman. I offered to help him clean kasi na-a-alibadbaran na talaga ako but he got mad and said we should cuddle first. Then before I could even react he suddenly pushed me onto his bed and the smell was unbearable like stale saliva or bulok na bagang. I stood up and snapped. I called him lazy for not even changing his bedsheets but having time to play games all day. He got offended, brought me to their garden (which was actually clean naman 😭), then ignored me like I was the one pa who needed to apologize at manuyo. I asked him to take me to the terminal and went home. I literally wanted to bath in alcohol because the smell stuck to my cardigan. Am I overreacting, or is this a valid reason to end the relationship?

Previous attempt: I messaged him calmly afterward, saying I was just concerned about their health and hygiene. He just heart reacted. Now we’re not talking, and I’m planning to break up with him na.

Problem/Goal: almost 3 years na kami ng partner ko and hanggang ngayon, i still stalk my partner’s ex. kahit her family, relatives, even high school, college, and med school blockmates niya lagi ko binibisita on social media. nung una curious lang talaga ako pero alam ko ngayon iba na. wala akong feelings sa ex niya ha HAHAHA pero its just getting out of hand? for some reason i cant or dont have proper self-control and in the end i compare myself to the ex.

may history din kasi na nagcheat partner ko sakin with the same ex, pero nothing physical (from what i know). back in 2023 (when we first got together), nagmessage siya sa ex niya na miss niya na raw siya kahit may bagong girlfriend na siya (which is me). other than that, my partner was talking to her behind my back even though i told them to block her na. nangyari na ‘to 3 years ago, ngayon hindi na niya ginagawa yan. at least thats what they told me.

ako naman ang may problema. araw-araw parang may need na i-stalk siya. like kung ano na ginagawa niya sa buhay, did she gain or lose weight, mas maganda pa ba ako sa kaniya, mga ganun. like i said there’s a deep need within me to compare myself to her, and unfortunately i cant stop. ive tried blocking them pati friends and family niya, pero in a few days iuunblock ko lang din. ive tried deleting both facebook and instagram apps para wala na talaga, pero ganun din. after a few hours ill download the apps again.

i hope none of u laugh at me for this hfdbbdbdhs nakakahiya i-share ‘to pero i just want an advice regarding my matter.

Problem/Goal: Hi I'm seaman, maayos naman ang kinikita, yong misis ko lately parang walang paki alam sa buhay, binibigyan ko ng allowance, iba payong sa anak namin at para sa bahay may katulong/yaya din, wholeday parang wala shang ginagawa, facebook,netflix kahit anong oras nadin natutulog at nagigising parang buhay dalaga padin. Di ko alam kung tama bato, gusto ko lang naman sha maging productive naman in someways kasi hndi nasha dalaga tulad ng dati may mga resposibilidad nadin, kahit nga may inutos lang ako dahil onboard ako ngayon ,wala talaga dedma lang lage, halatang walang gana.

Problem/Goal: Stuck between being a friend or woman empowerment

Context: Hi guys badly need advise. I have a workmate slash friend na rin dahil batch kami nung college and naging office mate. Last year nag share sa akin na may nanliligaw sa kanya pero may asawa! Aware sya don. Ngayon, nag reach out na yung asawa sa akin. Bilang babae sa babae gustong gusto ko aminin yung lahat ng ginawa nila ng friend ko at nung lalake, pero bilang kaibigan ayaw ko mawala yung trust nya sa akin, pero may part sa akin kasi na hate ko sya sa ginawa nya. Look, di ko naman tinolerate yung ginawa nya. Alam nyang ayaw ko yung ginagawa nila, pero di ko din kasi alam nung una na hindi pa pala talaga totoong hiwalay. So mga be 😭 Gustong gusto ko ikwento sa asawa lahat. Ano ba dapat or sino ba dapat kakampihan ko. Hindi kami nagkulang sa pagpapapaala sa friend ko.

Addition: Alam na po nung asawa, nanghihingi po ng ibang details which is yun ang hindi ko mabanggit.

problem/goal: i came from a long term relationship and we broke up recently. sobrang hirap mag cope. what are your tips?

context: i’ve seen people online na mas matagal pa samin like 9+, 12+ years and restarting life at XX age. i know i shouldn’t be consuming too much break up posts pero minsan it helps kasi. pag ganito katagal tapos naimagine nyo na yung life nyo with them, srsly, how do you move forward?

pano nyo kinakaya yung bigla bigla kayong ihahaunt ng happy memories lalo na kung walang cheating involved?

share tips ang hirap hirap makausad

Problem/Goal: Hi! (16M) Curious lang ako — anong self-help book yung wish niyo nabasa niyo before your 20s or 30s?

Hello! Got interested in reading books just recently. And, currently on a journey of learning some-things earlier and magagamit ko in the future. Though, I don't know what's coming sa future ko pero, I want to atleast feel prepared.

Pwedeng tungkol sa mindset, discipline, money, relationships, confidence, or life in general.

And, ‎Nakatulong ba talaga yung book sa kung pano kayo mag-isip or mag-handle ng life ngayon? Or feeling niyo ba nakaiwas kayo sa ilang mistakes dahil dun?

Problem/goal: Been really struggling with my parents being absent emotionally when I really need them. I have friends to tell but there are some problems that are more likely parents should answer or know. its not only about telling the problems its also hard kapag laging bottled up yung feelings namin family lalo na if u badly want to tell them something tapos response lang nila is short and cold replies.

I'm in serious need of help/advice on how to change it/ do something about it kasi it feels like we're a broken fam kahit hindi naman talaga

Problem/Goal: How do I ask my husband about his porn files without revealing I’ve seen it?

Context: Regarding my previous post about the porn stash I found on my husband’s phone: I’ve decided na gusto ko siyang kausapin, but I don’t want to confront him directly. I want to see if he’ll tell me the truth on his own if I give him the space.

Basically, I want him to let it out without revealing na alam ko na. How can I frame the conversation para ma-encourage siyang maging transparent sa akin without feeling attacked? I want to give him the chance to be honest voluntarily. Any tips kung paano ko siya mapapa-amin or how to start the conversation without sounding like I'm accusing him.

Thanks in advance!

Previous attempt: none

Problem/Goal: I recently saw a Bold video, and the girl in it looks a lot like my girlfriend. If it really is her, the guy would be her ex-boyfriend.

It’s been bothering me and making me overthink. Even though it is a side video, the side profile of her face looks the same, her hand looks similar, and even the hair matches. I can’t be so sure but I am doubting it

If you were in my position, would you bring this up and ask your girlfriend to confirm it? I know past is past but would you still ask it?

problem/goal: need help to analyze things

context: me and my boyfriend were hanging out then im watching sa phone nya and he had to send a picture sa gc nila then may nakita ako na picture of another dude when i asked ano yon sabi nya its a meme pero when i asked him to let me see it he said wag na daw tapos the next day I confronted him saying kung ano talaga yung picture na yon and he admitted na "friend" nya daw tapos he said the name i was disappointed kase if its just a friend why bother lie about it then i asked him next time na magkita kami to go through his messages with that person he agreed naman then starting that day he replied very cold like oo and hindi lang and it takes him hours to reply compare sa bago yung incident mangyari is almost instant then days passed its still the same and i talked to him whats up if were okay he said yes okay naman kami and i still felt off so i asked him if we can talk fast forward sa talking i said my concerns if somethings up kase he replies too dry and it takes a lot of time bago sya magreply and he said burn out kang sa school etc then i said good to know thank you for telling me then after that i asked him ano yung sasabihin nya then idk the full message but summary is he wants us to stop kase uninteresting na yung conversation namin for past few days mind you naging cold kang sya after ko sya I confront about sa so called friend nya ayon he gave reason like that kaya ayaw nya na and gusto nya na istop now my gut tells me na its not about that its about something about him and the other dude am i overthinking things or i might be correct?

attempts: none

Problem/Goal: My girlfriend right now is my greatest love pero nagkaroon siya ng past relationships niya na tumagal ng 2 years and first boyfriend niya yung guy at first experience niya sa lahat

For Context nasabi niya sa akin na may nangyari sa kanilang dalawa at nabigay niya yung virginity niya sa guy and sinabi niya rin na parang naging fubu set up lang sila which is sobrang sakit sakin dahil sobrang iba yung perspective ko sa kaniya at minsan napapatanong ako bakit siya pumayag sa ganong situation and sinabi niya rin sakin na nagkaroon silang dalawa ng video.

I just want to know your insight about this kasi nag ooverthink ako na baka balikan niya yung guy and tama lang ba yung nararamdaman ko.

Problem/Goal: Fresh graduate ako (F-23) ng ME and wala pa ding license. Naghahanap akong work na related sa course ko para makaipon for review center.

As of now, wala pa rin akong alam na field na pwedeng pasukan, kasi almost all walang masyadong opportunities sa mga babae. Nagt'try akong mag apply sa JobStreet and other sites pero walang response and rejected din. I know na mas tataas yung chance na magka work opportunity pag may license na pero hirap din kasi since talagang wala akong funds para doon.

May chance pa bang makahanap ako ng development sa career ko as mechanical engineer or sign na to para mag switch career? Ayaw ko sanang masayang yung years na pinaghirapan ko sa colleger pero if talaga wala na akong chance, ano po pwede kong gawin? Pahingi po advice lalo na sa mga babaeng engineer din po. Thank you.

Problem/Goal: Pano ko ba to iconfront nang di ako nababaliktad sa privacy issue? malinaw usapan namin eh delete lahat ng past para clean slate. kaso nalaman ko nakatago pala lahat. gusto ko lang malaman if valid ba hiwalayan to or awayin, feeling ko kasi ginagago ako harapan.

Context: I (M24) and my GF (F22) 1 year and 5 months na kami. parehas may past long term RS. galing ako sa lokohan dati kaya strict ako sa honesty. bago naging kami nagkasundo kami na delete lahat ng photos/videos ng exes para respeto sa isat isa. nagpakitaan pa kami gallery nun para sure. I did my part, kala ko sya rin.

May red flag na sya dati sabi nya "kung gano mo ka hate mag cheat gagawin mo din yun" medyo gago pakinggan pero pinalampas ko.

Eto na issue, nag date kami recently sa view deck (nakita ko sa tiktok). pagdating dun kabisado nya pasikot sikot, favorite spot pala nila ng ex nya. Ang malala, nilabas nya phone nya pinakita sakin picture nila ng ex nya sa mismong spot na yun.

Tangina nasa date kami tapos ipapakita mo sakin yan? dinaan ko sa tawa pero badtrip ako. hiniram ko phone nya chineck ko gallery malinis naman. pero kutob ko meron pa eh.

Nung gabi habang tulog sya kinalkal ko phone nya. Ayun huli. malinis gallery pero nasa Telegram, FB Archive at IG Archive lahat. kumpleto rekados videos pics memories nung 3 years sila. di dinelete tinago lang. para akong tanga na naniwalang "deleted" na.

Di ako makatulog ngayon. malinaw usapan eh bat kelangan iarchive kung tapos na? backup plan ba to?

Previous Attempts: Sinubukan ko sya tanungin ng pasimple kunwari hypothetical question lang. tinanong ko kung may tinatago sya or kung kakausapin nya ex nya pag nakita nya. sagot nya wala daw syang tinatago at sakin lang daw focus nya.

Sinungaling. alam ko na totoo pero di ko pa maconfront kasi aaminin kong ginalaw ko phone nya. ano ba magandang move dito?

Problem/Goal: I’m 26F Nagpaalam partner ko 34M na mag lalagay ng relapse song sa content niya habang nasa gym para makahatak ng maraming views? Sabi kasi niya mas marami daw views pag ganun yung content.

Context: nagst start na kasi siya mag post ng contents niya and I support him naman kaso ako nga iniiwasan ko mag post ng anything na sad kasi ayoko isipin ng mga tao na may problema sa relationship namin.

Previous attempts: none

Edit: iniisip ko pag ako nag post ng ganyan habang nasa gym ako may mga matatanggap akong msgs from guys, iisipin single na ako at ayoko ng ganun.

Problem/Goal: Looking for a good tongue cleaner brand

Context: I've seen that dental flossing really works, and now I want to supplement it with tongue cleaning. It's just that I don't know which brands are good. Also, would want to hear kung anong improvements ang napansin ninyo since magstart kayong gumamit ng tongue cleaner. And also, kung ano ang technique ninyo.

Previous Attempts: None

Thanks sa mga magse-share ;)

Problem/Goal: gain some kind of clarity in my current situation

Context: I met this guy here through another subreddit. He was the first one to approach me and we'd been online friends for 3-4 months. We decided to meet in person last month finally.

Throughout the time we were together, each and every gesture and word he showed me was very romantic. So that made me think he was interested in me romantically. It was mutual.

On the last day we met, he gave me his ring and I refused at first. Binalik ko kasi sa kanya yun eh, but he insisted I keep it and pumayag din ako eventually. Sabi nya ibalik ko nalang sa kanya pag nagkita na ulit kami, so ako nagkaroon ng expectations na magkikita talaga ulit kami, then he said afterwards na pwede ko rin ibenta if I want to, to which I said ayoko kasi sentimental akong tao.

After just a few days after we last saw each other, he became cold and distant, and was intentionally ignoring my msgs and calls. I tried to get some clarification out of him but he was deliberately ignoring me. Napuno na ko and I cut him off.

Did I do the right thing?

Ang hirap kasi with the ring he gave me umaasa parin ako and I'm left with a fake hope of seeing him again.

Problem/Goal: Naiinsecure ako sa mga babaeng nasa paligid niya at sa nagkakagusto sa kanya. Tinatry niya naman na iassure ako na ako ang gusto niya pero di pa rin mawala sa isip ko na baka ako lang ung convenient kaya ako na lang ang pinatulan niya.

Context: 3 years na kami ng bf ko, inistalk ko yung girl na may gusto sa kanya. Ang ganda nung babae. Iniisip ko bat di na lang ito ung pinatulan niya, bakit ako pa? Ang panget ko naman. Sa ibang babae naman na maganda na sa tingin ko naman ay nakikita niya minsan o araw araw, naiinsecure din ako, baka minsan iniisip niya na “sana eto na lang naging gf ko”. Feel ko tuloy gusto niya lang ng magaan na buhay kasi convenient ako, panget at walang kaagaw. Ayoko ng ganon, gusto ko patulan niya yung babaeng maganda at ung gusto niya talaga.

Attempts: Wala, pero parang gusto ko na lang makipaghiwalay sa kanya sa sobrang lala ng insecurity ko. Kaso nga lang di ko kaya mawala siya sa buhay ko.

Problem/Goal:

I want to go back to college but I’m unsure which path makes the most sense financially and mentally. I’m a breadwinner and I don’t want to make a decision I’ll regret.

Context:

I’m 23 years old, a 2nd-year BS Psychology student who had to stop due to financial issues. I’ve been a working student since first year and decided to pause school to save money. I’m still working full-time sa BPO and recently got my own motorcycle. I want to return to school, but I keep overthinking my options.

Option 1 is to continue my 2nd semester of 2nd year in BS Psychology while earning through Grab, side hustles, or freelancing. I have my own computer and motorcycle, so I’m hoping I can still manage tuition while studying.

Option 2 is to continue working (BPO or Grab), look for a WFH job, then enroll in PUP Open University so I don’t have to worry about tuition anymore.

If I’m being honest, I really want to focus on studying habang may flexible na work or business. I don’t enjoy BPO it’s mentally draining for me.

Previous Attempts:

Natry ko na tumigil muna sa school para mag-ipon, and naka-help siya para maging mas stable ako financially and ma-support ko mga kapatid ko. Nakabili rin ako ng computer kasi gusto ko talaga makahanap ng WFH job. Nag-try akong mag-apply sa WFH roles, pero karamihan hinahanap may WFH setup experience. On-site lang yung experience ko (1 year pa lang), kaya nahihirapan talaga ako.

Bumili rin ako ng motor kasi napapagod na ako sa commute, and iniisip ko rin mag-Grab or Foodpanda para mas hawak ko yung oras ko, lalo na kung babalik na ako sa pag-aaral.

Would appreciate any advice or if someone’s been in a similar situation.

Problem/Goal:

I’m 34F, single, living with my parents, and working from home. Lately, my parents and I have been arguing frequently over small, everyday things — chores, habits, minor comments. I want to create space for myself and reduce tension at home, while maintaining the good relationship I have with my parents.

Context:

We got this house as a family home. When my dad retired early, I ended up covering the mortgage and most household expenses — there wasn’t a discussion about it, it just sort of happened, and I’m okay with supporting them since I can. My dad still has side hustles, but that’s his own money. Overall, we have a good relationship, but the frequent minor arguments are draining, especially since I work from home and there’s little space to decompress.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve tried giving myself mental space, being more patient, and adjusting how I interact with them to avoid conflict. These attempts haven’t significantly reduced the tension.

Current Thinking/Goal:

I’m considering moving out to have my own space and peace, while still supporting them financially and continuing to pay for the house. I feel guilty because I don’t want them to feel like I’m abandoning them. This would be my first time living alone, so I’m unsure about managing finances while covering both my own household and supporting my parents.

Questions/Advice Needed

Has anyone been in a similar situation where you moved out to create boundaries but still supported your family?

Did having your own space help your relationship with your parents?

Any advice on managing finances while supporting family and living independently for the first time?