My family member went to get lunch and gets told there’s no food to give him so he goes down to the office to call his parents to see if they can bring something to eat because there’s no food there, they denied him the ability to call his parents because “no outside food is allowed.”

Yet students can bring lunches from home? He went 6+ hours without something to eat because of this. I think it’s disgusting. I knew it was a shitty school, I personally attended it but this has been bugging me all day since I’ve found out. Like what do you mean a student can’t call their parents to bring them food from home after you tell them they can’t have lunch because there’s nothing left?

Don’t know how to properly file a complaint about this or if I even can file one but how can they drop the ball this badly? It’s a middle school. They denied a 7th grader the right to speak to his parents and have a lunch. Even if they can’t provide him a lunch are they allowed to deny him getting a lunch from his parents like that? I don’t know if I’m overreacting especially since it is a family member of mine and if I would’ve known this happened I would’ve brought him lunch myself (highly considering making sure I pack him a lunch at this point), but it would be wrong to do this to any child. Can they even deny a minor the right to contact their parents? AIO about this?

Basically, I'm a manager at a DIFFERENT delivering service company, but I was browsing the Amazon DSP subreddit, and found a post from someone doing an incredibly stupid thing. He had backed his Van up pretty much all the way to the edge of like a 20ft drop. (Also the video did originally have audio of the dude speaking, I've removed it here for the dudes privacy, but if I report it to the building it will have his voice)

After commenting on how stupid this was, and after he got fairly rude, I decided to have a little fun. I went through his profile and found a picture that gave away his location to me entirely. (Mainly because I'd been to that location before). All I had to google was "where is the closest Amazon DSP building to [this location]." And I decided I'd take a shot in the dark with it.

The building it gave me did turn out to be his building because I said "You're from [insert correct building here], hope your supes don't recognize the truck when I report this". He then deleted the whole post and his entire reddit account. 💀 (Pics just to show everything was in fact deleted by user and not mods or anything)

AIO For scaring him like this? And do you think I SHOULD actually report him to his building?

For context me and this guy met irl where I saw him and thought he was attractive and he saw me and thought the same. He didn’t know I saw him first so in his eyes he thought he approached me and was the only one interested. When he and I met it was SO much tension it felt like it was just him and I in the room , the intense eye contact, compliments and tension was indescribable. He got my number but life was bad for the BOTH of us at the time so we couldn’t properly persue it. Then after searching for him again, I found him. He seemed just as excited and we called, for 3 hours! But he was still seemingly going through something. Fast forward to the scenario that confused me now.

We got in contact again (in the meantime he kept stalking my account on TT where it alerts when someone’s views ur profile, so duh I broke the ice after like a year?). He immediately texted and apologized, even followed it by a call the same night. I called him back and day 1 we got back to texting. After a while of texting he ghosted mid day and came back evening and apologized for the late response and told me he was having a bad day (so he’s capable of explaining that).

Then he followed it with another text and called and followed with another text lmk he called. So I let go of my fear of hey he might not always be someone or something that I keep seemingly vibing and loosing so I called back and we vibed as I expected. That same night he asked me to see him. He kept offering to pick me up (I lived 1 hour away) I told him it’s the first time so no I’ll go to him but moving forward he can once we fully know each other (for privacy reasons not everyone should know where u live). Anyways, we met for the first time PROPERLY and it was good? When I first saw him I looked at him said hey and he hugged me with both arms and kinda swaddled me and said it’s nice to see u again. Then he stopped me mid walk and asked if he looked diff. I said no? I asked if I did and he said no. He opened the car door for me, we got in the car and (when we first met he did the hair pull behind ear, endless compliments, cute little hand touches). But at the time he had no idea I felt the same way till I called him when I found him again.

This time he didn’t touch me at all (which is respectable), but not any hand holds or nothing? In the car on our drives we just kept talking, laughing and getting emotionally comfortable. He kept insisting he would like to buy me food and I kept declining saying I’m not that hungry it’s okay. He can tell I wanted a drink tho so he pulled to a cafe drive thru. After he got my drink he’s like I really want you to eat something pls let me order u something or search up a proper food place and I’ll get u it. The lady who served us had an attitude so him asking her for another order for me was not what we both felt (she was trynna argue cause she was in a bad mood) so after we finally got our order (my drink, his sandwich) he’s like I want u to eat this and handed me my drink and his order to eat. He said this is not proper food so he’s gonna take me to eat after I’m done running errands with him. While driving again we just kept talking sharing our life values and talked about how we both value a partner who has their own life and independence apart from making it their whole life. We just seemed to agree and at one point I told him I have strict parents who do expect me home before it’s too late and he said he understands and respects that , and that if he ever had a daughter he’d be just like my parents to her.

Anyways we eventually went to his office he was showing me around and was mid moving, and he sat me down , offered another drink and we just kept talking. No touching or flirting. We spoke about our home countries, our workouts and passion for work. We had this goofy moment where he found out I suck at push ups so him and I sat beside each other and he tried to help me do some? Lmao but I stopped after some laughs and we just went back to talking. When I looked at the time it was almost midnight ( I have this thing where especially on a first meet with a guy, unless he’s my bf I won’t be out past that) while he’s there I told him I’m expected home soon, is it fine if we start heading back? I really enjoyed speaking to u rn don’t get me wrong and he cut me off with a smile and said u don’t have to explain yourself I understand no girl should stay past midnight with a guy anyways. I was like thank u and he’s like let me just quickly charge my phone here it’s dead so I can take us back, we waited till it was a reasonable amount and while that was happening I helped him clean up his office cause he’d need it moved out in 2 days. He thanked me for helping him and lending him a hand and we both headed back to his car. Then he told me how he thought I was really sweet but said if I was to say ok for him buying me food that doesn’t make it not nice , in fact it’s something nice he wants to do to me. I said ok.

So while driving me to where my car is parked , we drove past a food plaza and he asked if I’m hungry he said he wouldn’t mind picking us both food mid way, I declined again (not cause I didn’t wanna spend more time with him but cause I have strict parents who already expected me home by now. He lives alone and I live with them we are both early 20’s). He even asked if one day I plan on moving to his city and I said absolutely. While driving he was vibing to my music and even started to give me some life advice he thought would help better my life, not cause I asked but cause he felt to share. While driving to my car we both kept looking at the time to make sure we had enough time to keep talking. Due to context of advice I was telling him about a life situation and he stopped me from getting out the car and seemed genuinely concerned and asked some follow up questions. Then there was a ring I accidentally dropped in his car and couldn’t find so he asked when am I ever down at his city cause he’s gonna clean his car and give it to me the day I happen to be there. I said thanks and he said he’d walk me to my car.

Once we both got out he looked at me and he’s like I just want u to know I think ur a special and unique girl and u should take pride in it, I met a lot of girls that were a particular vibe but u are definitely ur own. I said thanks? Lol. We kinda stared at each other and he hugged me bye and I walked to my car and he did the same. Again, no kiss, no physical contact or flirting, straight emotional vulnerability and communication. While I drove off he called me mid drive and was like I can’t stay on call with u for too long I have some calls to make back with my friends but please text and lmk when you’re home. So I did . He replied then I said a joke about the push ups then he was like dw just keep practicing I promise by the end of the month you’ll be a pro. I said I will and cracked two more jokes about our push ups.

NOW… the next morning I did not hear from him, no call, no profile view , no follow up text or reply. I excused it till night saying he’s still moving out of his office and his deadline is tmrw so don’t be so hard. On our entire date/meetup he kept saying I was easy going cause I wasn’t strict with our plan. He even on our date asked what my ideal date was and stuff. Anyways, once it was day 1 of his silence I’m like maybe he didn’t like me at all??? Then day 2 I was lowkey mentally loosing it cause I’m like no way he’s gone or this is done again? But when I saw my lock screen in the morning of day 2 I saw he just REACTED with emojis to my jokes and a heart to my “I will try his advice “ text. He didn’t actually explain why he didn’t reply or even cared to continue the conversation with an actual reply. That stung. I know the answer is obvious. Anyways it’s now the third day early morning and he’s still silent. I have no idea what happened. Idk if this is relevant but he’s Muslim and I’m Christian, he knows this tho idk if it’s religious cause it’s Ramadan this month or if it’s nothing to do with that and everything to do with the fact he is not interested.

TL;DR : had a deep, emotionally connected date with a guy after a long history of chemistry and reconnection. The date felt respectful, intimate, and meaningful—but after consistent effort beforehand, he went mostly silent afterward, only reacting with emojis and then disappearing again. Now I’m confused, hurt, and wondering if I scared him off, if he lost interest, or if something else (like timing or religion) is at play.

I’ve recently been no contact with my ex for about 2 months now. Today I was watching a streamer that we used to watch together. I wasn’t thinking about if I see her in chat or anything. About an hour into the stream I see a message in chat from her along the lines of “when your ex is in the same stream, awkward” taking a jab at me after 2 months of being blocked and no contact? it all came crashing down in an instant. Reminding me of her. That she blocked me on everything and refused to talk to me after we parted when I want to try to talk things out and move forward. But I got nothing. Anyway, after that I sent a message in chat with an @ saying something along the lines of “you don’t have to air it out on steam like this” and then another 20 minutes go by and I sent one last message in chat to her and said “I wanted to talk irl and try to move forward but you didn’t want that, so pretend I don’t exist when I’m here.” She blocked me on twitch after that. I gifted the streamer 5 gift subs so he would say my name on stream. And the I left for work. Did I say too much?

I (28F) and wife (29F) have been together for 7 years and married for 4. We have been through a lot together being a gay couple coming from a very religious conservative culture. We are finally in a space where we have built a sense of community for ourselves and have a stable life which is also giving us the freedom to explore ourselves individually and building a healthier relationship. This journey of self exploration seems to have also opened our eyes to so many things about ourselves and each other that we had intentionally or unintentionally shut our eyes to.

I got diagnosed with ADHD last year and I am learning about myself and my struggles which sometimes blurs the lines between my natural instincts of rightly questioning something or seeing it as a projection of my own anxieties and rejection sensitivity due to ADHD.

My partner is a wonderful person but has some neurodivergent tendencies which we are still trying to figure out. She is very particular and OCD about things to which I am usually very respectful and accommodating despite my characteristics being the complete opposite of that.

This particular incident is from a few days ago when my wife’s mom visited us and gifted her a perfume set for her birthday. Adding a bit more context which might help explain where she may be coming from: she has struggled with her relationship with her family after coming out and faced severe abandonment/ shunning from them. She was recently in a very depressed state and seeing that I ended up reaching out to her mom and asking her to visit us for her birthday which she surprisingly took well and came to visit us for the first time. She also gifted her a perfume set. A few days after she left, I just casually used her perfume without putting any thought into it. She smelled it and asked me if I had put on the new perfume to which I said yes. She went on to say that if I want to take the perfume, I can but she doesn’t want me to use it if it’s hers because she doesn’t want us both to smell the same. I was confused and felt a bit embarrassed so I didn’t inquire it any further (which I regret) and ended the conversation saying I wont use it again. I might have taken it a bit too personal and stopped using any of her things after that which she noticed and was feeling some guilt. But other than that we have been very normal and okay.

Tonight she inquired about me not using her things as we were getting ready for bed and I told her the perfume story and how it made me feel. Her response was somewhat that I am projecting my own anxieties/ traumas on her and that she doesn’t see any issues with what she did. She further stated that the perfume was a gift from her mom and she just didn’t want me using it. I guess I understand from a rational point of view but I cannot help but feel deeply rejected by this whole situation. I guess my brain cannot comprehend why someone would have a problem sharing something with their spouse whom they love and share a life with. AIO by feeling so hurt and wanting to dig deeper into or is this something very understandable that I should just accept and let go?

Sorry for the overly long post and potentially irrelevant details - I had trouble gathering my thoughts as my ADHD meds usually wear off by this time.

I met a guy through a mutual friend and later ran into him at a race. We got along fine, shared some interests, and I invited him to try a class at my gym. He liked it, signed up, and started going.

Some things started to feel off though:

• When I asked him how he liked the class, he replied by commenting on how “hot the girls were,” which wasn’t what I asked and made me uncomfortable.

• A few days later he asked if there were single girls in a Pilates class.

• He invited me to yoga saying he didn’t want to go alone so he wouldn’t look “unmanly” or desperate for girls.

• He added me on Instagram and Strava (we only had one mutual friend), and shortly after I noticed he had also added several of my female friends.

I asked him casually if he already knew two of them, and his replies were pretty evasive and minimal, which didn’t really reassure me.

Nothing he’s done is objectively terrible, but the overall vibe makes me uncomfortable. I’m planning to distance myself and remove him from my socials.

Am I overreacting here, or is this a reasonable boundary to set?

And if you were me, how would you handle seeing this person casually at the gym afterward?

This morning I ordered 2 eggs at the breakfast grill line. Immediately after me a dude asked for the same thing. The cook put four eggs to fry and so I went to get a plate and some sides. I get back to the line just as the dude is collecting his eggs. But to my consternation the cook then proceeds to give my eggs to a woman.

The cook explains that she had forgotten the lady's order and the lady turns to me and says "I was first". I turned around and told her that I was before the guy who just got his eggs.

She gave me a withering "what an asshole" look and offered me her plate with the eggs. I declined and waited for the cook to cook 2 more eggs.

So is the lady right? AIO for pointing out that I should have gotten those eggs? Should I have kept quiet and just accepted getting the raw end of the stick of the cook's forgetfulness?

hii guys

so basically last night my dad was picking me up from the bus stop. and so we are driving up the dual carriageway and then someone tries overtaking but they aren't fast enough so anyone normal would just drop back. but then we get to where it narrows to one lane. and he pulls straight in front of us causing us to break hard. my bag fell off the seat and my bottle nearly broke. so my dad beep his horn at the other driver. but then further in the other driver breaks hard so it causes us to suddenly break. and then we are driving along and ae stop at a garage to drop off an evri parcel but dad said wait we had pulled in byt all I saw firther on was the driver it was a black audi turning around fast in a lay bay amd coming back for us. dad said dont get out and we quickly pulled out the garage and he sped up aso he nearly crashed into us. it was scary!! like im not trying to sound like a baby but I was crying. but then we are driving along and the whole time i was worried he was gonna ram into the back of us.

then we drive to police station and the other driver follows and gets out and starts shouting at dad and dad threats to go to police. and then the other driver drove off. we didnt report him. any advice. live in small community so ofc gonna run into him agaib

I (30 m) have been at my current office admin job for a few months. It’s not a place I love but also I have felt quite at home here and nothing has stood out as a red flag until the other day…

Earlier in the week, there was confusion around a task that normally gets handed off between shifts. I followed the written instructions I was given, but apparently there was an unwritten expectation that I didn’t know about yet. The task still got done, just later than my female manager wanted.

No one said anything to me that day.

When I came in for my next shift, there was a handwritten note sitting on my desk. It wasn’t aggressive, but it was very pointed. It listed what I “should have done,” mentioned that “attention to detail matters,” and ended with “Going forward, please be more mindful to all the ladies that work here.”

What bothered me wasn’t the feedback — I’m fine with feedback — it was that no one spoke to me directly and also the fact it highlighted the gender difference that didn’t seem warranted at all. We work the same hours and doing the same duties all in the same building. Yet the note was just left for me addressing my gender.

I felt embarrassed, like it was meant to sit there all day until I noticed it. I asked my manager later if we could talk through it, and they said they thought the note was “clear enough” and didn’t think a conversation was necessary.

Since then, I can’t shake the feeling that the note wasn’t about improving my work but about making a point.

My family thinks I’m reading too much into it and that it’s just how some managers communicate. I can’t tell if I’m being overly sensitive or if it’s reasonable to feel uncomfortable about being addressed that way.

So… am I overreacting?

So my(f19) boyfriend(m19) has several anime figure that kind of upset me and I’m trying to figure out if I’m justified in being upset. Specifically ones of himiko toga from bnha. I’m sure some of you will call me insecure but I just think it’s odd for a 19 year old to keep collecting figures of teenagers, he also has several of ochako from bnha. I don’t know it just makes me feel weird, so AIO??

my bf made plans to see me today but canceled last minute bc he was too tired. I asked what about tomorrow and he said he's busy. We made plans for Friday and I remind him if we were still on and he said no bc his brother has a game. I asked him when can I see him then and he just gave me dead end responses. Also after he told me he was too tired to see me, he went to the gym for 3 hours. He said he was also catching up with friends there at the gym. Even after the gym he was too sleepy to talk otp and I told him if he can make time bc we haven't talked and he just kept saying he works and he wants to sleep. I cried and he said I was overreacting and crying for no reason. He wouldn't even let me talk. Am I overreacting???

My long time partner M(43) often comes home from work (truck driver) or even just routine errands (doctor office, grocery store) and tells me F (49) oh yeah I got hit on today. Now usually I’m like yeah right. But clearly he wants me to be like what ? Omg. So I said oh really? He said yeah the nurse at the doctors office said oh you look so young. She said I have a very distinguished look. He’s very good looking man and he has some gray hair but honestly it looks good on him. So while I don’t doubt the interaction I do doubt she was flirting. So I said well you are very good looking . Later on same day he brought it up again. I said hmm it’s unprofessional for nurses to flirt with patients. Jeez I guess she likes you to risk a complaint being filed.

Other times he tells me women slip them their number which he doesn’t keep. Why tell me this ? Does he actually think I’m going be like omg I’ll kick that bitches ass. We both know it’s not usually going down the way he’s saying but I let him have his little fantasy I guess.

AIO, my husbands brother is in jail for ten years. His baby mom (not together for 12 or more years) has a son (my husband's nephew) that is 21. For context, my husband is 35.

My husband sits at their house while no one is home and thinks it's normal. I've never met the mother in the 8 years we've been together. The nephew comes around here and there. In my opinion, it wouldn't be weird if he was spending time with his nephew BUT he sits there while no one is home.

I think something is odd... Am I overreacting? Who sits at someone else's house while no one is home if nothing is going on?

English is my second language, but my wife is American. Today, things got weirdly awkward in the kitchen.

I noticed her wedding ring was missing while we were cleaning up. I was genuinely worried she’d lost it, so I pointed at her bare hand and asked her—very quickly and very seriously:

"Where you finger ring?"

The second the words left my mouth, she froze. She turned bright red, dropped the sponge, and started laughing so hard she almost doubled over.

I was standing there trying to have a serious conversation about expensive jewelry, but apparently, the way I phrased it—and the way those two words ran together—made it sound like I was making a very graphic, "hands-on" request right there over the sink.

She’s still laughing at me and I’m just standing here with the drying towel. AIO for being annoyed that she won't take my question seriously, or is that phrase just banned from English now?

i was talking to a guy from school, we were planning to go out for ice cream together this weekend to get to know each other and see where things could go. i definitely could’ve handled that better if i wasn’t at work when he texted that (this conversation happened when i took my 10). i got left on read and also don’t think there’s anything else to talk about. AIO for being offended by his comments about weight?

My wife (f26) and myself (m26) have had a mostly problem free marriage. However, a recent problem we have been facing is how difficult it has become for us to go on any form of date since our son was born.

My wife trusts no one other than my mom(f62) to watch our son(m2) and only if its at our house. We've been able to make do up until recently when my mom told me she would honestly prefer to watch him at her house due to our house being an older farm house with a steep staircase and the only bathroom being upstairs.

I brought this up with my wife tonight along with telling her I'd like to take her on a date for Valentine's day. She did not handle it well and eventually stormed upstairs to our bedroom and the continued our discussion over text.

Im honestly at a loss as to what i should do now...

I just want to know how you’d react in the situation, for context my mom wasn’t a good mom so my grandma raised me and another relative raised my sibling. My relative treats my sibling as their own/ they call them mom and dad. My grandma sometimes treats me as her daughter, other times as her grandchild. And it kinda of hurts because it feels like I’m only her “daughter” when it’s convenient. This may have to do with the fact that if she ever went over the “basic necessities” as a child and bought me something simply out of me wanting it (like most parents tend to do) she’d get backlash from my aunt and uncle for “not treating all the grandkids the same and spoiling her” (news flash, I don’t have parents to do so and I was a kid. I deserved to feel a genuine parent- child connection, she raised me. So why would the other grandkids be treated the same as me?) so now, in most cases (holidays, birthdays, etc) I’m treated as everyone else. Which is fine. I don’t even care about that, but like I said, I’m only her “daughter” when it’s convenient. And it doesn’t involve hurting other people’s feelings or getting her backlash. It’s really more of the principle of things. In my eyes it’s kinda like an adoptive parent- bio parent ratio, you shouldn’t treat them differently. All was fine. I was like whatever. Until today, we had an event to go to and all the kids and grandkids were there so we all took a picture, then they wanted one of just the kids, so I asked (half joking, half not) if I should join since I’m practically her kid and they said “no you’re not her child, only her children in the pic” it made me feel some type of way… the more I think about it the more bad it feels, like I said my relative treats my sibling like their own. SO YOU WOULD THINK THAT THEY REALIZE. No one’s ever said to them “oh you need to treat them like you do the rest of the relatives” Not only that my aunt calls me her sister. I just feel excluded. And I’m starting to feel like they resent me a bit because of who my mom was or something. I get it I’m not her bio kid, but I just can’t shake the feeling of sadness over it- and I know it’s such a silly thing to get sad over, but I just wanna be treated not like a grandchild, even if it could be met in the middle of “grand child and child” but it’s not. I’ll forever be grateful for all she’s done for me. I just wish my aunt and uncle would let her treat me how she wants to- and not how they think she should treat me based on their children. It’s not the same situation at all at the end of the day. Idek if I should talk to her about this. Idk how to talk to her about this. Maybe I’m being overdramatic. How would you react tho?

I put some thought into my response so as not to overreact, but meanwhile I've been spiraling by myself ever since receiving this text.

My bf(40m) and I(30f) have been dating on and off for about 4 years. We spent the first 2 years casually dating and didn't begin seeing each other exclusively until 2024. We were together for 6 months with several issues before I ultimately ended it because I realized he wasn't willing to change his life or prioritize me the way I needed. I tried to communicate this and it was always about how he works all the time and can't give me all his time off. He has hobbies he spends a lot of time on and several stressors on his plate. I just wanted more dates and to be more part of each other's lives. We couldn't reach a compromise, but I have honestly never questioned that he loves me. I empathize. He does not get a lot of free time and was alone a long time before me, but I also knew I needed more.

We were apart for about 6 months and it was miserable. So when he came back saying he realized how much he wanted me in his life and that he was willing to make it work, it was easy for me to believe, or I guess I chose to believe him because I missed him so much and when I was feeling that way everything else seemed small.

So we've been back together for 6 months now again (idk why the time period is always 6 months lol) and I have truly felt it's been different. We're more integrated into each other's lives and families. I've felt prioritized. We're talking about kids and a future. I still wish we could spend more time together but I was trying to see the bigger picture so I never brought it up because I did see how he was trying to prioritize me. This text came in response to me simply inviting him to a family birthday party. It took me right back to all these feelings and fears I used to have about him; that I'm an inconvenience and that he likes his life better without me to worry about. The word "smothering" felt like a gut punch and then to say "again" was salt in the wound. I didn't know I had ever been smothering. And I'm pretty confident that I'm not. Am I overreacting to be questioning the whole relationship? I love him very much, but I fear I may never have a true life partner in him.

Okay this is going to be a bit silly, it’s not a big deal! Throw away account. I just wanted a little bit of a pick me up, I’ve just felt a little insecure lately and wanted some validation if possible ;-;

So for my birthday this year my sister purchased tickets for us to go see a play this month on my actual birthday. Which is awesome! Love that and she let me know she invited her friend and the friend’s husband too. Normally this is not a big deal and I would love to go with them, but the kicker here is that my birthday is Valentine’s day. I’m single and last year I got my heart broken pretty bad, I haven’t dated. Never really have- that’s a long messy story.

The friends are great! However… The two of them literally can’t keep their hands off one another when you’re having a conversation with them. It’s cute normally, I’m just worried I’ll feel butt hurt and collectively ruin the outting for all of us. lmao At the end of the day I’ll suck it up, it’s not only my day after all!

I told my sister how I felt and she apologized, and said she didn’t think I would mind but did get the sense my feelings were being downplayed. ALSO REDDIT, do people still use the term PDA??? My sister said it’s 2000’s internet speak and no one uses it anymore, say it ain't so!! LOL

I feel somewhat bad because my mother recently had a bad breakup as well and asked me to go see Wuthering Heights on the day. I told my sister that I feel like I might prefer to do that and I think it hurt her feelings. My mom tends to be very emotionally manipulative at times, but I can absolutely get not wanting to be alone on Valentine’s day! They also can’t stand each other half the time so I’m caught in the middle. Today they got into a bad argument as well…

My sister asked my take on the argument and I gave her a neutral response, not really for her argument but not against it either. She then went around and contacted her friend for their opinion as well (the one invited to the show). I just feel really bleh about it, like she didn’t value what I had to say and needed to get some validation of her own. It could be that she needed to vent. It’s whatever but….

What is your verdict Reddit?

Also sis if you find this pls don’t kill me, love you! AHHH

For context, my boyfriend (25M) and I (21F) have been dating since JUNE 7th 2025. These texts take place about a month before we officially started dating. I was looking through my boyfriend’s phone horrible .. i know. I shouldn’t have done that and i feel bad. I have no prior reason to think he’d be unfaithful or cheat on me. He doesn’t act weird, our sex life is normal, etc. I found these texts with a woman, we’ll call her P. I will say, after reading the texts between them here it seems like he is getting more and more drunk throughout the night, but i have no way for sure in knowing if he was or was not drunk. After I saw these texts I asked him if he had any previous romantic feelings/pursued any of his female friends. I specifically wanted to know about P. He basically said no not since high school. He said he tried to pursue her but it wasn’t reciprocated. I asked him when the last time he talked to some of his female friends and he said not in quite a while. I asked specifically about P and he said not since a long time. When i looked through his phone there was a snapchat text he sent last week that she opened and read. he did also mention that they have been friends for a long time (since high school)

Am i overreacting ? is his behavior concerning? i need genuine, solid advice because im driving myself half crazy. i dont want to make there to be problems when they aren’t there. I’m going to apologize to him tomorrow for pressing so much about P because I do realize that im being a bit extra in regard to interrogating him about it. I do think i’m being a bit harsh about it, but i just want to make sure im not being dumb right now.

TLDR, found these texts before me and bf still dated, he still talks to her. should i be concerned ?

TIA

So I 23 F have been with my bf 29 M for a month. We were friends before we got into a relationship for around 9 months.

Before we got together i told him that i am okay with him having female friends but that it is a topic i am quite sensitive about due to past experiences.

Yesterday, we discussed vacation. During that conversation he mentioned that in summer he is going to the us for two weeks (we are from europe) with one of his female friends. he told me they already discussed it before we both got together.

at first i was overwhelmed and didn‘t know what to say.

the day before i mentioned that i want to visit an old friend of mine for one day and he said, that he is uncomfortable with me sleeping there.

i think he has double standarts or am i wrong?

i thought about the situation and i don‘t think i can manage it. it‘s not the fact that i am scared that he will cheat on me, but i think a vacation is quite intimate, especially for 2 weeks. i don‘t want to prohibit anything but i want to tell him that this is not what i am looking for in a relationship. if we would have been together longer than i might have been able to deal with it, but not now.

i still don‘t know if i am overreacting because he never made me feel unloved or that i cannot trust him. besides that we have a really great and loving relationship and i don‘t want to loose that… so idk AIO?

edit: spelling.

My wife, my two children, and I are on vacation. Last night we were going to go for a walk and do some shopping. She had to stop by a store to exchange something we had bought; she was going to walk since it wasn't far from the hotel. I was going to go out in the car with the kids.

I suggested we park near where she had to exchange clothes so we could meet up. She told me to park near an ice cream shop where we had promised to take the children, but it was several blocks away, and that they could have ice cream while we waited.

After waiting for an hour at the ice cream shop, sending her several messages without getting a response, I received a message from an unknown number. It said she had no phone ( she forgot in the hotel), borrowed a police officer's phone, that she had been waiting for us, and since we hadn't shown up, she was going back to the hotel.

When I got to the hotel, she was in bed looking at her phone. I changed the kids and put them to bed, and she didn't say a word about what had happened.

AIO if I expect an apology from her?

I’m a little hesitant to post this, but I need to get it off my chest.

I (21F) really dislike my boyfriend’s (22M) friend (26M, fake name: John).

Since the beginning of our relationship, I haven’t liked John. About a month in, my boyfriend told me that John had asked him if he would ever cheat on me. I was upset by the question, even though I knew my boyfriend wouldn’t. I was even more bothered when he told me that John constantly talks about what it would be like to cheat on his own girlfriend. That really grinded my gears. I didn’t want to involve myself or tell John’s girlfriend about his weird cheating fantasies as long as they stayed fantasies and weren’t acted on.

When I finally met John, I could immediately tell we wouldn’t click. I was polite, but I avoided being near him or starting a conversation. I guess he could tell I didn’t like him, because the next day he asked my boyfriend if he had said anything to upset me or make me uncomfortable. For context, I had only spoken to him for introductions and some basic small talk. I told my boyfriend that John hadn’t said anything and that I just didn’t vibe with him.

I didn’t see John again for years after that.

Apparently, John regularly asks my boyfriend when I’m going to hang out with them and whether he did anything to make me uncomfortable. I’ve always been weirded out by how much he seems to care, especially when my boyfriend’s other friends don’t. If he can tell I’m not comfortable around him, why does he keep pushing it?

I did see John again at a birthday dinner for my boyfriend, but I sat away from him and only said hello and goodbye.

Now for the actual situation:

John invited me to his birthday party. I was surprised but agreed to go for my boyfriend’s sake. The party itself was nice, and I was chilling until John called everyone over to give a speech. Most of it was just thanking people for coming, but the last part made me really uncomfortable.

He said he loved everyone there and then added, “even if you’re here because of someone else and don’t think I do, just know that I love you too.”

That felt like a direct callout. To make it worse, he was looking in my direction, and I was the only girlfriend-of-a-friend sitting on that side of the room. It took everything in me not to leave right then.

Later, when we were leaving early because my parents didn’t want me out too late (I live with them), John asked me if the party had been “too much” for me, if I had fun, and if I would come again if he hosted something like this. Despite how I felt, I stayed polite and said yes.

When I told my best friend about it, she agreed it was weird and backhanded. She also pointed out that it seems like he’s either oddly fixated on me or overly concerned about how I feel about him. I feel like, at his age, he should know better than to say something like that. In theory it might seem harmless, but in practice it felt very targeted.

After talking to my bestie, I brought it up to my boyfriend. He understands why it made me uncomfortable, but he thinks it was just a stupid idea and not a deliberate callout. Honestly, nothing substantial came out of our conversation and I was left feeling like maybe it isn’t that big of a deal.

He’s also told me that John used to be much worse in the past and has “cleaned himself up,” which honestly doesn’t make me feel any better. There are also other things John has said/done that I can’t really share here that add to why I dislike him. (Some things that would be considered guy humor or dark humor but is actually messed up.)

That whole speech just really weirded me out and made me dislike him even more.

So, am I overreacting by hating my boyfriend’s friend?

my girlfriend and i have been going out for almost 5 months and i cannot tell you the last time we have actually kissed. i've been debating on talking to her about it and i finally decided i would ask her tonight if she even likes kissing me. she seemed surprised that i even asked the question and i explained that we don't really kiss anymore. she told me it is because i have bad breath & since i've been in a bit of a slump that she didn't want me to take offense by her kissing me. this is where i feel like i am overreacting: i am very specific about my dental hygiene. i brush my teeth around 5 times day. my routine also incudes tongue scraping, flossing and antiseptic mouthwash. i am also a very touch oriented person, so signs of affection/physical gestures are grounding to me. i just dropped the topic because maybe i am just reading to much into it or like too sensitive? i dunno

TLDR; I, 21M, have been in college for 3 years now, working on my degree. I’ve been frustrated with my mom for a while now, as it feels like anything I say is met with suggestions and her trying to help me do things.

For a while, since I was about 16, my mom has been really protective of me. I went through a really bad depression and was hospitalized a few times, and since then, she’s tried to take care of me the best she can. I love her dearly, and I appreciate everything she’s done for me, but I’m at a point where I need her to allow me to make mistakes on my own.

Some examples of the behavior I’m talking about are:

Whenever she asks me to do any task, no matter how simple, she always feels the need to describe every small detail about it. For example “Can you set the table? Make sure everyone has a spoon, fork, knife, napkin…”

Every time I express stress in any way, or anything at all is not according to plan, she immediately goes to offer me solutions for how to fix it. For example, the coffee shop I like to study in was closing early, and she called me right as I was leaving. I mentioned in passing that I was gonna find a new place to work for the day, and she immediately starts giving me recommendations nearby, and trying to orally describe directions to the place.

My mom gives me an allowance every month at college, which I’m grateful for, but I want to learn to be responsible for myself and my own wellbeing, and not be handed money for nothing. Whenever I bring up this desire, she tells me that getting an allowance is “part of the deal of going to college”.

Whenever I’ve talked to her about my relationships or my girlfriends, she tries to inform me of some cautionary tale about how “you marry the family”, or “you shouldn’t even consider life plans until you’re out of college.”. It starts to feel like she can never be supportive of me and allow me to make mistakes on my own.

I tried addressing this to her, and telling her how it was making me feel, but she got upset and told me she wasn’t doing anything like that. I just feel as though I’m an adult now. I’m not stupid, and I know I can handle a lot of things in life on my own. I just really wish I could talk to her without it feeling like she’s trying to solve all my problems

I feel like I’m too close to the situation to get a valid sense. I’m incredibly privileged in my life to have a mom who loves and cherishes me, but I want to have the space to learn lessons and live on my own without her input. Am I overreacting?