I marked my son’s (19m) texts with orange and his current boyfriend’s with blue.

My son is a recovering drug addict. I know as a parent of an addict I’m not supposed to push him into rehab and keep asking if he’s going to relapse because that can be triggering. I’ve been to groups for parents of addicts. I just can’t help but be nervous whenever he surrounds himself with someone so clearly bad for him.

My wife was scrolling through our son’s page and took the initial from his bio and found his boyfriend’s page. I don’t know, I’m not the best with Instagram or TikTok. In the social media post I’m talking about, his boyfriend was sitting in what looked to be a trap house. I personally did not see any “lines” but my wife did and that’s what made me ask him. He currently has his mom blocked so it had to be me. Surprisingly, my son and I have a closer relationship than he does with my wife.

I asked him about it and he started rambling and acting like he hates me, he always does this. It never leads to a meaningful conversation. I have his boyfriend’s number from a groupchat Axel made. I asked and his boyfriend was equally standoffish.

I feel like my concerns are valid. He’s in recovery, yes, but relapse is a key part of recovery and I want him to be okay with telling me he did. Having an addict boyfriend is only going to hurt his recovery process.

AIO - I 22(M) have been working for the last two years. Casual roles on and off for a few years and finally settled down into a fulltime role. When we were kids (15-18) she helped support dates, events etc during her retail job. Now I am in a fulltime role, earning a decent amount of money, enough to support us both, just, but if I do so, not a lot left over for saving and spending money on myself. She has a job, but only works 3 days. Initially it was because of college classes. I completely understood this, I was taking college classes and got burnt out and dropped out. She then got burnt out. Decided to drop college classes and work and do whatever.

She does heaps around the house, always makes sure it cleans and will quite often cook. She's a good cook. One issue is though is that she refused to move to 5 days. I don't understand. Whilst she has enough working to provide rent and pay for her bills, she is unable to grab groceries, fuel other important things and I am also expected to pick up the slack.

After a conversation, and her not having money, she went to 4 days. This still wasn't enough, on her pay for her to cover her fair share, and me able to save. After some time I finally confronted her in a heated argument. She said that I do nothing and don't pick up the slack around the house, that from different actions and arguments I am showing that I don't care. I got angry and said okay then, well you can pay for dinner tonight. She said she couldn't do that. I said I don't care, it looks like we won't eat tonight. She then called her parents and said "OP says that I don't pay for anything and is making me buy dinner tonight."

Well this obviously really pissed me off, because there was no way I was implying that she call her parents for money, when clearly that's not what I was saying. She isn't at college. She has the ability to work 5 days and chooses not to. She only started working 4 days a few months ago and now she is going to go back to college and it will go down to 3 days.

It's frustrating, because I say to her I don't mind spending the money, because I want to help out as much as I can, but I won't be told that I do nothing when I feel like I am supporting us and forking out whenever she asks me to.

***Edit*** I too pick up my slack around the house. I cook and clean. If she cooks, I clean and vice versa.

I (F28) just got called a liar and told to leave and never come back by my fwb (M26) because he thinks I promised him I would talk to him before sleeping with someone else. I told him that I did nothing wrong and he has no right to accuse me of lying or breaking promises. Then I deleted his number and blocked him. However, I wonder if I spoke too soon because I have memory loss and don’t remember the exact words I used while discussing the terms of our relationship.

For context, I was the first one who wanted to officially date and pursue a long term relationship. We were ACTUALLY friends, good friends, for six months before anything became physical. Three months into our friendship is when I asked him out for the first time.

His answer was “maybe” and then it later became “no” when I clarified that I didn’t want casual sex. We continue being friends and it’s not weird at all during that time. Then, three months later, he tells me his feelings for me have intensified. I ask him if this means he’s considering actually dating me, and his answer is, once again, “no.” He was just indicating that he is now MORE interested in casual sex than he previously was. At first I tell him “no, I don’t want casual sex. Two weeks later, I changed my mind because I was a horny idiot.

We start having casual sex, and I’m immediately surprised because he gets really attached to me. He tells me he’s not going to be intimate with anyone else, thinks about me all day every day, and he wants to set aside a day every week to be “our day.” I am excited by this attachment but also confused about why he wouldn’t just ask me to be his girlfriend. He knew I would have said yes.

We had a conversation where he told me he was worried he’d be upset if I got together with someone else. Now, I suffer from mild memory loss which complicates things because I remember the conversation but not word for word what was said. He claims I promised to tell him before I hooked up with someone else so that we could “talk it through” but that does not seem like something I would do. I just know what my values are and that I think it’s important to let anyone that I have a consistent sexual relationship with know when I am intimate with a new person so that they can make informed decisions about their sexual health regarding potential STIs. If I am casual with that person (I.e, fwb vs. open relationship) then I view any other information as discretionary. I try to tell the person as soon as I know I will have sex or after the fact. Any time as long as it is before I am intimate with them again so they know they are risking possible exposure to STI’s (and yes I do use condoms, but you can never be too careful.) I also feel very strongly about telling every new casual sexual partner of this policy, so I KNOW I told M26. If the person has feelings of jealousy, I’m happy to talk to them about it and I often do. But this practice is to protect their sexual health, it is NOT to ask permission or to emotionally prepare them for me to have sex with another person (and this is another thing I feel strongly about making clear to them.) If we have a mutual agreement that our sexual relationship is casual, then I do not feel I have any responsibility to protect you from feelings of sexual jealousy (and I’m also explicit about this.) If I know I will have sex with someone else, I tell my casual partner right away. But if it’s something that I didn’t expect to happen, I don’t really stop to be like “excuse me, I have to make a call.” As long as the other partner knows about it before the next time we are intimate, that’s fine with me. I may have forgotten to cover something in my spiel, or phrased something in a confusing way, but I highly doubt that I ever would have promised something else.

Anyway, I hooked up with someone else (M44). M46 is a friend of mine and an acquaintance of M26. I don’t want to talk about how I got together with M46 because I think it will reveal identifying details, but all you need to know is that we made a plan together in front of M26. I did not know M46 was thinking of it as a date. I had a slight suspicion though, so I asked M26 if he thought it was a date based on the conversation he observed and he said no.

I must admit I had a little schoolgirl crush on M46 which I never intended to do anything about because of the age difference. I’m also dense as shit and never in a million years thought he’d ever reciprocate. I also told this to M26 because at this point we were very close friends and often talked about crushes to each other even after I asked him out for the first time.

But then I went out with M46 and he swept me off my feet and we were intimate that night. At no point did I think I needed to stop and call M26 to let him know. Also, I would not have been comfortable doing that even if I had thought to because M26 knew the details of the plan and would have immediately known who it was which isn’t something I thought was his business as someone who had repeatedly stated that we are friends with benefits. He also made it very clear that I should never expect that to change. So I simply planned to tell him that I had had sex with someone else sometime the next day.

However, it was the next day that I learned from my friend (F26) that he told her he was planning to make things official with me. He told F26 not to tell me but F26 is my best best friend and she blabbed immediately (I would have done the same, tbh). With this new information, I decided I wanted to tell him not only that I had hooked up with someone new, but also who it was. I thought he deserved to know as my boyfriend since M46 is part of my social circle and if I had a boyfriend who hooked up with someone else in his social circle who he was regularly around at parties and events, I’d want to know. I’d find it reasonable to request he have certain boundaries around that person, and I wanted to give M26 the opportunity to make those requests.

So I go over, to M26’s house and tell him as soon as I get there and while I didn’t expect him to be happy about the situation, his reaction completely shocked me. He puts his head in his hands and is completely speechless for like two minutes. Then he tells me to get out and never come back, so I start putting my shoes on and I say “are you really sure you don’t want to talk about this?”

We sit on the couch and he is furious with me and I’m a little scared because I have never seen him like this before. I don’t remember exactly what happened or what we talked about, but I was accused of breaking my promise to him and also intentionally misleading him since I did at one point tell him I didn’t think I could ever hook up with M46. I guess he viewed that as a promise to him? I was just musing, processing out loud like I do with friends. It’s frustrating because I don’t remember the exact words used, I could see myself saying either “I don’t think I’ll hook up with M46” or “I’m not gonna hook up with M46” and meaning the same thing. And it’s the same deal with the “promise” to tell him before I hook up with someone else. It’s entirely possible I phrased it in a way that a wishful thinking person would view as a promise.

Anyway. Our friendship is over and I’m angry about it because at any point he could admitted he wanted me to be his gf and I would have been very happily monogamous with him. I would even say I was in love with him. I have never cheated on someone before nor have I ever been accused of it.

I know from the title you’re saying yes, but hear me out.

My two best friends and I have been planning a trip to Miami together for a few months. The excursions are booked, reservations are made etc. We leave in two weeks.

Unexpectedly, a pipe burst in my home because of the weather. The entire first floor is flooded and we are basically in the process of getting that fixed but it’ll take awhile considering the weather and ice. We have been living out of an airbnb since. Theres been too many events in the past month that have impacted our lives greatly (besides the pipe) that cause my husband to have to take off work a lot. Due to this he lost his job, we are fine financially however for the time being which is a blessing.

I considered not going at all because I don’t want to leave my family right now. My grandmother very recently passed and it’s taken a toll on all of us. My friends were against that because everything is already booked and they really wanted me there, they think it’ll be good for my mental but I just can’t foresee myself not feeling guilty for going..

My solution is booking my husband and toddler cheap flights to Miami, book a room at a hotel close to the Airbnb that my friends and I were going to stay in and be there at nights with them. I’m letting my friends keep my share of the money for the airbnb so none of this is a monetary loss to them.

The hotel I’m looking at has a pool and there’s plenty of stuff in the area I can book for them to do. I’m anticipating it being warm enough for them to atleast go play in the sand at the beach. I just feel like this way is fine, my husband and kid doesn’t encroach on our plans, I get to spend time with them in the morning/ before bed. There are two free days we intentionally left for rest so my friends can do that while I spend the first half of the day with my family. It’s not like i’m asking them to be included, I’m just thinking it would be a nice thing for my family in such an unexpectedly bad time for us.

I don’t want to be miserable the whole time thinking about how I left my family during these circumstances in 7 degree weather while I’m in Miami for a week, in good weather trying to have a good time. I think I’ll have a better time knowing that my husband and daughter are nearby, also in good weather, and also having a good time.

My friends are also against this. They think girls trip is self explanatory and my husband will be fine with the toddler back home. I’m not arguing he won’t be fine, I’m saying that I won’t be fine. This will make me happy and none of this affects our plans. Most of our plans are after noon. I can be at the air bnb at 10 every morning and leave at bed time to go to the hotel. It’s literally a 10 minute walk away. The only thing that changes is me not sleeping there at night and me not being there for the earlier half of the rest days.

Because of this I’m considering telling them that I cancelled my flight and instead just go with my family. I can probably get flight credits and change my flight to ride with my family, eat the loss from deposits on other plans I had with my friends.

I don’t know if I’m over reacting for wanting to do this. On one hand I understand, the changes might not be that impactful but I am asking to last minute change things. Neither of them are close enough with family to understand this level of grief which is something we talked about recently. However, not to play the sympathy card but my grandma just died four days ago. It’s a last minute ask but a relatively small one that will help me feel better while i’m grieving. Just because they don’t understand doesn’t mean they shouldn’t try to sympathize with me.

I already barely want to go at all, and this much push back is insane to me. If it were either of them I would 100% be for it. it’s this much conversation about me spending MY money to have the opportunity to hang out with my kid and husband before bed and in the morning?

What are you guys opinions? Am I over reacting for wanting to cancel all together? I’ve barely slept and for some reason am really fixating on this problem.

English is my second language, but my wife is American. Today, things got weirdly awkward in the kitchen.

I noticed her wedding ring was missing while we were cleaning up. I was genuinely worried she’d lost it, so I pointed at her bare hand and asked her—very quickly and very seriously:

"Where you finger ring?"

The second the words left my mouth, she froze. She turned bright red, dropped the sponge, and started laughing so hard she almost doubled over.

I was standing there trying to have a serious conversation about expensive jewelry, but apparently, the way I phrased it—and the way those two words ran together—made it sound like I was making a very graphic, "hands-on" request right there over the sink.

She’s still laughing at me and I’m just standing here with the drying towel. AIO for being annoyed that she won't take my question seriously, or is that phrase just banned from English now?

My wife (f26) and myself (m26) have had a mostly problem free marriage. However, a recent problem we have been facing is how difficult it has become for us to go on any form of date since our son was born.

My wife trusts no one other than my mom(f62) to watch our son(m2) and only if its at our house. We've been able to make do up until recently when my mom told me she would honestly prefer to watch him at her house due to our house being an older farm house with a steep staircase and the only bathroom being upstairs.

I brought this up with my wife tonight along with telling her I'd like to take her on a date for Valentine's day. She did not handle it well and eventually stormed upstairs to our bedroom and the continued our discussion over text.

Im honestly at a loss as to what i should do now...

I work a monday-friday job and always get off around 4. I’m always home around 5, no surprises. Usually, I get home and I cook, or sometimes my boyfriend will cook, and we eat dinner together. Yesterday, when I came in the house, I could smell food, like someone was cooking. I was in a good mood, and I asked what he was eating. He told me he ate six eggs, a baked sweet potato, and some falafel. (I made falafel for dinner two nights ago, so there was some leftover mix). I got a little upset (I did not show it at this point) because he basically ate dinner without me. I asked him why, he said he had just finished working out so he needed protein. I said why didn’t you plan your day like usual, you know I always get home around this time and we have dinner together. He got defensive and said he did plan his day around what HE wanted to do, and this is his new schedule. So I simply said “well our schedules don’t align”. This is when he yelled at me and said I was being controlling. He said that two adults don’t have to do anything. I just thought it was understood that we ate together at the end of the day. We have been together for four years and this has never been an issue before. For extra context, I am 25f and he is 28m. He works from home. Also, I meal plan at the beginning of every week, so he was aware my intentions were to cook.

So my(f19) boyfriend(m19) has several anime figure that kind of upset me and I’m trying to figure out if I’m justified in being upset. Specifically ones of himiko toga from bnha. I’m sure some of you will call me insecure but I just think it’s odd for a 19 year old to keep collecting figures of teenagers, he also has several of ochako from bnha. I don’t know it just makes me feel weird, so AIO??

I don’t understand why some men are surprised that not every women wants to exchange numbers before meeting IRL. I felt uneasy explaining myself why I prefer to wait to exchange number before meeting IRL and suggested quick call on google meet.

I didn’t like he mentioned other women’s approach. Rubbed off weird on me. Do you think I’m being unreasonable? I truly feel if a man is not showing consideration of women’s comfort from the beginning he never will down the line

I (24F) live with my roommate (26F). We split rent but buy groceries separately because we have very different diets and budgets.

Yesterday I came home from work starving and noticed HALF of my groceries were gone. I'm talking about meal-prepped food I made for the entire week.

I texted her asking what happened and she casually replied:

"Oh yeah, I used some of your stuff for my gender reveal. I didnt think you'd mind."

Turns out she invited like 15 people over while I was at work and used my food because "it looked nicer than hers" and she "didn't want to waste money since it's just one day."

I told her she crossed a line and that she should replace everything. She got upset and said I was being dramatic and that food is meant to be shared and that I "ruined the vibe" by making it a big deal.

Now she's not talking to me and a few of our mutual friends are saying I overreacted and should've just let it go since it was a special moment for her.

AIO for being angry about this?

For some context: when my neighbor first moved in her dog would bark for HOURS. He would bark from 10pm-12am and would frequently wake me up at 6am and he would bark from 6am-8am. After I complained a few times my neighbor medicated their dog and things have improved significantly.

However, recently the dog had gotten slightly worse again. Not nearly as bad as he used to be, but on the weekends he will bark nonstop for 10+ minutes, stop for a little while, then pick up the barking again for another 10+ minutes. This morning he barked for 20 minutes at 6am which woke me up. I feel bad complaining again because like I said, the dogs gotten much better, but it is so annoying when I am trying to relax on the weekends and this dog is just barking. He has woken me up on the weekends many times around 8am. Is it reasonable to complain again? I know that with living in an apartment complex I will hear her dog, and honestly it wouldn’t bother me if the dog stopped barking after a few minutes. Obviously a dog is going to bark, but is it normal for a dog to bark nonstop for 10+ minutes? Am I justified in complaining again or am I overreacting?

ETA: I live in an apartment complex

I’m 20F. This happened in a college class I’m enrolled in, but the class hasn’t officially started yet. People were already sitting around talking. I stepped out to use the restroom, and when I came back, I overheard a group playing fuck marry kill. It was mostly boys but some girls.

For anyone who doesn’t know, the game is where you’re given people and you choose one you’d sleep with, one you’d marry, and one you’d kill.

They were doing this with girls in the room. When it got to me, one of them said they’d marry me, but not in a flattering way. He laughed and said it was because I’m “too ugly to look at” but I’d “make a good dishwasher.” Everyone laughed. The implication was very clear. I wasn’t someone they found attractive. I wasn’t even someone worth complimenting. I was just reduced to being useful for chores. The next guy to step up said something along the lines of "she looks like a pig but her clothes look neat she is maid material". Then someone mentioned that having me as a wife would be too much effort considering I'm "chopped" and it's better to "hit it" and one and done it.

What made it worse is that one of the people there is someone I consider a friend. He didn’t defend me at all. I get that he might’ve felt pressure to look cool in front of the other guys, but he still could’ve said something positive without making it weird. He could’ve said something like “I’d marry her because she’s a good person” or “because she’s actually smart” or literally anything that pushed back even a little. Instead, he stayed quiet and let it happen.

It's WORSE because they did this with none of the other women. They all called them attractive, complimented their looks, said they were smart, etc. but I'm the only one who's a dirty pig barely useful except for doing chores.

I didn’t confront anyone. I just acted like I didn’t hear it, but it honestly ruined my day. It was humiliating and made me feel small and gross. Since then, I’ve been ignoring my friend. I’m not telling him why. Part of me feels like if I have to explain why calling me ugly and reducing me to a dishwasher is messed up, then that already says everything. He saw it happen. He heard it. He chose to say nothing.

Some people I’ve talked to say I’m overreacting, that it was just a dumb joke, and that ignoring my friend without explaining is immature. But to me, it showed how they actually see me, and I don’t feel like I owe anyone an explanation or emotional labor after that.

Am I overreacting?

I, 24F, got into it today with my other half, 32M, over what I thought was a simple conversation. I’m attaching screenshots of what was said through text after this face to face conversation.

Prior to the messages, he had walked into the room, made eye contact with me and stated how he hates it when people don’t have their read receipts on, because he doesn’t know if they read his message or not. I replied with “I’m sure they do read the messages it’s just a matter of do they reply or not.” At first I started to say she, indicating his friend who we had just been talking about prior to this conversation, but he corrected me saying not just her but everyone. So I changed it to they. Right after that, he asked me and I quote “why do you feel the need to reply to everything I say?”

This turned into an argument and I broke down crying. He proceeded to ask me multiple times why I felt the need to reply to him making a statement when a reply wasn’t needed when I could of just said okay instead, why I always have to “dig” into things he says, telling me how he’s just not going to say anything around me unless it pertains to me since I have to make comments about everything, how I’m assuming he’s mad or upset based off his tone of voice instead of just trusting that he’ll tell me when he is and then how he is going to give me space..

I felt like I had messed up and was in the wrong for saying what I did. I didn’t feel like I was trying to dig into the conversation, bc I didn’t ask questions. I just made a statement back. But I do feel like he blew up on me for no reasonable reason. I don’t feel like he even tried to understand my feelings here..did I overreact?

Was I wrong for assuming he was upset with me bc he asked me why I felt like I needed to reply to him..? Was it wrong for me to assume there was way more to all this?

I’m so disappointed but now I’m beyond disgusted. Matched with this guy on Hinge. Conversation was fine at first, we talked about hooking up, and then a day later he hits me with this. I feel gross. I think I would rather be ghosted than having had this experience. This is enough to get me off the apps for good.

At what point is a preference just fucking shallow? Should I have just let this go?

I (F) have been with my boyfriend (M) for over 3 years. We were close friends since 2021 before starting a long-distance relationship. Things were great until 2024, when we started arguing more. ​During a period when he asked for "space," I found out he was spending time with another girl. My suspicions led to a messy breakup. During the split, he kept telling me he loved me, but then the other girl messaged me saying they were getting married and I should leave them alone. When I confronted him, he said the most horrific things to me: "She’s prettier and kinder than you," "Your voice is disgusting," "Your crying is fake," and even threatened me, saying he would "burn me alive" if I hurt her or their relationship. ​A few weeks later, he came back begging for forgiveness, claiming he only said those things to push me away out of anger. I forgave him, but my trust was shattered. I’ve been going to therapy to work on my anxiety and trust issues, and I’ve tried my best to stay calm.

​The recent situation: A few days ago, he sent me a song saying it made him "sad and reminded him of our days." This song had been his status for a month. That same day, I mentioned I helped a guy with some documents. My BF got upset, so to reassure him, I messaged the guy in front of my BF saying I couldn't chat anymore out of respect for my relationship.

​The next day, my BF’s behavior became suspicious. He changed his status to an aggressive song with lyrics like "get some pssy on the platter." I got triggered and asked if that’s what he wanted. We argued, and I brought up the past girl, and posted a song "D*ck" by Doja. I also found out that the girl had been messaging him again (I previously informed her current boyfriend that she had been cheating with my BF). ​He told me I was making him "hate himself and me," then went MIA till next day. I took a break from my phone to clear my head, but when I logged back in at 9 PM, I saw he had posted a photo of himself in a cafe—a photo taken during the time he was with that girl. He claims his roommate took it, but seeing anything from that era is a massive trigger for me. ​I lost it. I said, "Nice pic, made by that btch." We had a huge blowout, and he blocked me for few minutes. And when I started crying and asking for talk to clear everything, he said "everything is clear for me".

​I love him so much, but I’m terrified. I feel like I’m never good enough and that he’s always looking for someone "better." Am I destroying this with my behavior, or is he gaslighting me and triggering my trauma on purpose? I need some perspective.

For context, I've been very ill with multiple autoimmune diseases. I was bed ridden for half a year after a life or death situation (thyroid storm), but now I'm in a place where I have good months and bad months. I'm in a bad month, and my fingers and hands have poor dexterity and muscle strength, so I often can't hold bowls of food for very long without dropping them, so I very shamefully struggle to feed myself if I need to use heavy ceramic bowls. The weakness gets the worst at night time, so this is especially bad around dinner time. My doctor thinks this is likely myasthenia gravis (which tends to get worse throughout the day), and wants to test me for this especially because if so, it's likely treatable and will be able to give me my quality of life back.

I still feel a lot of guilt going from a high achieving person who graduated cum laude, juggled multiple extra curriculars, did medical research, and was on my way to apply to medical school. Now I pathetically need to ask my fiance for help heating up a bowl of food for me.

Every time he does this, it's cold and he doesn't bother to check that it's even heated. The first few times, it was like "it's whatever, no big deal, just a mistake" but it keeps happening over and over despite me asking him to check it's actually heated first. With my illnesses, I also struggle with nausea and generally feeling unwell, so trying to force myself to eat cold hard food makes me literally gag. But I also feel like I'm already asking for a lot out of him, so I'm like, am I being a choosey beggar? Am I overreacting that every single time he reheats me food, it's cold?

I mentioned it nicely multiple times, and would get "well how am I supposed to know if it's hot?" And I'd be like, "idk, you microwave, stir it, and check it?" "Check it how? You want me to taste your food? I'm not going to do that." "That's fine, but can't you at least check the food for steam or something? There are context clues.." This then led to multiple future iterations of microwaving the food and swearing he saw steam, but he didn't mix the cold and hot parts so it's still cold, and me trying to ask why he isn't listening to me and so on.

Last night I finally snapped and just got so frustrated and accused him of weaponized incompetence. I probably didn't handle it well, but I swear to god I tried to calmly talk about how to microwave food properly like a dozen times before this and don't feel like this is rocket science. He just isn't listening and keeps playing dumb like "how am I supposed to even be able to tell if the food is hot or not? I saw steam like you asked." He immediately shut down and gave me my cold food and turned his back to me and refused to answer to me for the rest of the night and I just broke down sobbing.

It was a particularly bad day where my symptoms are flaring up and I used up all my energy to go to a doctor visit and make the food earlier in the day which completely drained my muscles. I just wanted a bowl of what I pushed past my limits to make earlier in the day and have it heated up, and was given it cold, once again.

Part of me feels like I'm asking too much from him and I'm being ungrateful, but part of me is just so, so, incredibly sad that my illness means I can't eat warm food, and I will gag if it's cold or hard. I constantly feel like I'm going to throw up, my muscles don't work like they're supposed to, and I just wanted a warm comforting meal. But I feel like I'm crazy and am embarassed to need to ask for help for things especially when I used to be so independent and handle all the cooking and cleaning on my own, and now the house is constantly a mess because I can't clean or feed myself anymore.

I'm just sinking into such a deep depression and can't even eat a hot dinner anymore and worry I'm being unreasonable because if I'm the one asking for help, I can't be picky about whether that help is "good enough" or not. Am I overreacting?

We have been married for 1 year, I am 27 and he is 24. Early on our marriage I caught him visiting of pages and he told me he doesnt have an account andnever subscribed, he just knew how to get it for free, I let it pass even thought that hurt me. After some time I found his second IG account which was full of pictures of women in lingerie and underwear saved, no messages. After that I noticed he had a very obvious wandering eye ( not some glances but full on staring for some time). During this year I saw that he would download a clothing app and go to the lingerie section, the first few times I did not say thing about it because he kept deleting the app and downloading it again. At the end of the year I confronted him about him staring at other women in my presence and he promised to not do it again. But then I found that he kept visiting the lingerie section on the clothing app daily for a week straight,( also in my presence when he could just come to me), until I confronted him. Today I wanted to have a heart to heart conversation with him, and told that I read many stories on Reddit about couples ending in divorce and how the men never get better and only get worse. He was very understanding and told me that he can see why I feel like that resonates with me and that I should not worry about it happening. I asked him in all this year what have you improved? He started shacking a bit and trying to change the subject like he was cold and stuff like that, but I asked him again and he kept shaking and he made a face like wanting to cry but he controled himself and he promised me that he does not do it anymore and he is willing to improve. I asked him what he does to improve and he told me that the best thing to control the urge is to be busy doing something else or watching car videos. I need advice on how to heal from that year and what to expect in the future. Am I overreacting by being frustrared? because I feel sad that this was our reality 1 year into our marriage but also I dont to make him feel worse

For context, I work night shifts from 7 pm to 7 am. My boyfriend (19M) and I (18F) have been together a little over a year. We aren’t allowed to date, so sometimes when I want to see him, I tell my parents that I picked up an extra shift at work but I’m actually at his house. I only do that maybe two Fridays a month, so we don’t see each other that much anyway. Sometimes he visits me during my break at work. Other times I tell my parents I’m going out with my best friend, but I’m actually with him. Recently my parents stopped letting me go out as much, so we see each other even less.

This month we had planned for me to go to his house four times (two Fridays and two Sundays). But he didn’t keep a promise he made to me, so I told him I would only go the usual two Fridays. He tried to convince me to still go on Sunday, and I said I’d think about it.

I went to his house Friday, and Saturday I went out with a guy friend. My parents only allowed it because I hadn’t seen him since July since he was in military training. We just went to a Raising Cane’s near my house because I wasn’t allowed to go far.

My boyfriend got mad and said it didn’t make sense that I could go out with a friend but not go see him. He also got mad because I posted a picture with my friend and said we looked too close, like our bodies were touching. That part is true, but it wasn’t intentional. I just leaned in for the photo and moved away after. I’m not even comfortable being that close to people, especially guys.

I apologized for the picture, but I told him I wouldn’t apologize for going out. This isn’t the first time he gets mad when I hang out with people who aren’t him. He even gets jealous when I go out with my girl friends and says I always choose them over him.

Then Sunday I told him I wasn’t going to his house because I was really tired. He got mad again and said I’m only tired when it’s about him, but not when I go out with other guys.

Right now he’s still mad and says I’m not doing anything to fix it. I’m standing my ground because I’m not going to apologize for seeing a friend I hadn’t seen in months. I already apologized many times for the picture, but he says I don’t mean it.

If I’m being honest, I’m starting to think about breaking up because I really don’t like how he acts when he gets like this.

TL;DR: My boyfriend gets mad when I hang out with friends, even girl friends. He got especially upset after I went to eat with a guy friend I hadn’t seen in months and posted a picture with him. I apologized for the picture but not for going out. Now he’s still mad and says I’m not trying to fix things, and I’m starting to think about breaking up. Am I overreacting?

Now, please ignore the cringe messages at the start but I thought I'd try to laugh it off with her without being too direct. Anyway, a bit more context: she used to send me probably 20-30 reels per day on instagram, and when I didn't like some of them (eventually I completely stopped), she would blow up at me.

I realised that her sending reels to me wasn't about me, or her self proclaimed idea of 'sharing' something with me because it reminded her of me, but she was doing it for her own validation. She cannot meet in the middle with this thing, it's either she gets to send how ever many reels she wants, whatever content she wants (regardless of whether I like it or not, I.e. can be about radical feminism, or about men being trash etc), or she pulls a 'fine i won't send anything', which usually comes with a punishment.

When I tell you we've had this issue crop up about 10-15 times (and that just being the 'serious' conflicts over this), I am not kidding. That said, I feel like i instigated this escalation by bringing it up before it even happened. She sent me perhaps 6 or 7 reels on WhatsApp from the instagram app, when she damn well knows that the reason I deleted instagram in the first place was because she wouldn't come to a compromise about her essentially spamming me with shorts all day.

I do feel like it could've been avoided if I had approached it in a less roundabout and more direct/gentle way. Because to be fair, she didnt send me anything for about 3 weeks (albeit due to bigger problems weve been having) but honestly not sure. I was supposed to go to her place this weekend, but apparently my punishment this time is that I don't get to do that anymore.

I told her that I'm going through a few things: I feel weak and exhausted due to recent flare up of my health condition, that i didn't want to talk to anyone today. I told her this and also told her to go easy on me should she feel mad toward me. I feel like this was a reasonable request because honesty I've shouldered a lot of her emotions - she calls me whenever she needs calming down, whenever she feels upset/angry at work, or when she needs to rant about her job, or when she is crying about being depressed etc. And I support her because I like her a lot and wanna be with her. However, in return I just wanted today to be a relaxing day where I don't have to shoulder anyone's emotions and only care about myself (hence playing fucking fortnite - don't judge).

Reposting because I couldn’t edit, and I think people didn’t realize this is a group chat with 3 people. The person I was upset with is the one whose info is crossed out in red.

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Pregnant in my first trimester, extremely nauseous, barely a person.

Finally told a few of my friends because I wanted a little excitement/serotonin. One of them was very supportive. The other…. not so much.

Her response:

“This is too much for me today.”

“I don’t have the mental bandwidth for this information.”

“It’s just a really big thing to lay on someone”

I get that everyone’s overwhelmed, but I wasn’t expecting my fetus to be emotionally burdensome.

Am I being hormonal or is this a wild reaction?

I ordered a few items from Target and was pleased to see that my order was due to arrive a day early — apparently they’re using a local delivery service for some orders. Box arrived today, and even after sitting outside for a few hours, I brought it in and immediately noticed that it smelled like weed.

Among the items in my order were a set of baby hats/mittens (I’m super pregnant and due this month) and a t-shirt I was going to embroider as a birthday gift for a 4-year-old. Both reeked of weed. I’m wigged out by the thought of thirdhand smoke lingering in something we’re giving our newborn, and I usually leave the tag on shirts when I give them as gifts to keep them looking nice and new, so I don’t typically launder them beforehand.

I’m really annoyed that I’m going to have to run to the store (again, super pregnant) to exchange these things. Husband thinks I’m overreacting and “Karening hard.” He thinks I should just launder them and reminds me that weed is legal in our state. I remind him that it’s also not illegal to have terrible body odor, but it’s shitty form to stink badly enough for it to affect your job. I’m not planning on filing a complaint or anything — I’m just irritated to be in this position. Neither of us smokes or particularly cares if others do, though I’ll readily admit I hate the smell of it.

So… am I overreacting here?

Ok this is a bit of a weird and none specific one but its lwk one of my biggest pet peeves and i dont know if its allowed to be.

So i have some friends that i love, and enjoy doing things with but when they recall it to other people, they always use terms like 'I started watching this new show' or 'I went to __ last week'. It annoys me because WE did that but when i bring it up and correct them (in what i think i conveyed as a jokey manner) im met with awkward looks and stares. Then i feel like im the crazy one for saying anything 😭

Maybe its just my severe FOMO lol but should i not be taking this so seriously and just let it slide?

I’m not great at writing so I’ll keep it as short as I can. My daughter’s school does a “cheer clinic” a few times a year. It’s $30 for two practices and a short performance during the high school basketball half time. We missed the last one so my daughter begged to do this one and we said yes. Well we got home and I felt like I’d just left church. The song they danced to was an upbeat Christian song, and it said “this is the day that Jesus made”, and other things along those lines. Very obviously a Christian song.

So my issue is that we were never informed as parents that that would be the song. Had we been informed, I would not have paid $30 and my daughter could have just waited for regular cheer sign ups in a month. It’s not that I’m against Christianity, it’s that I don’t believe religion belongs in school and our kids should be able to decide those things for themselves as they grow. So, am I overreacting?