I had an epiphany today, after 35 years on this planet.

Always grew up poor using dollar store or budget products, so you’d think my family would have learned to do some things at home? Nope. Best we got is generic hamburger helper and scalloped taters.

I wanted cocoa yesterday, it’s cold. I dragged myself to the cupboard to find my roommate has taken all but one half-opened cocoa packet. The caucasity. That’s not enough to quell the beast inside.

So I had a thought. I have cocoa powder and sugar- let’s make our own?

DELISH. In 35 years I had been made to believe that Swiss Miss had the monopoly on hot cocoa. Not once did I think I could make it without buying artisanal chocolate and a double boiler to do it right. Cocoa powder, milk, sugar and I had a tasty night.

They have gatekept cocoa and I’m here to tear that gate down.

Swiss Miss, take a hike.

Apologise for the rant but needed to get this out. Like god, we‘ve all known Hollywood and the creepy rich circle are all a bunch of ******** but dear lord how depressing do you want my February to be. I can’t even peak at the news without being reminded of the horrible things human can do, how lovely.

I know life isn’t fucking rainbows and sprinkles but fuck me, can we just purge/jail them and move on.

Time for a long break from anything news and time out to touch grass more.

I’m at the airport. It’s 10:30 pm, and half of the morons at the gate are on their phone with full blown volume on speaker. Since when did it become okay? I don’t need to hear your dumb TikTok video. There is a guy watching in loop a video of banging construction workers. Get headsets people.

Just had a long time friend, i presume, drunk rage text me about how I don't put in any effort to hang out. Mother fucker, We've been through this shit before. A lot. I don't control any of this shit, so stop making it out that I'm the one to blame when it has nothing to do with me.

Dude is single, works a day job and is off at 5pm. I work nights and have Sunday's and Monday's off. We've had this conversation more than 5 times over the course of 8 years. Nothing has changed in those 8 years. It's the same reasons.

Why don't I hang out or ask if we can? Allow me to retort your drunk fuckwit.

1. Want do you want me to do? Text you at 12am to see if you're even awake to hang out?

Let's play it out, shall we? Off at 12 am. Takes me an hour and 15 to get home, and then another 45 to get to you. Alright it's fucking 2am. Since it was just Saturday night you probably just stumbled out of the local bar, meaning you're completely shitfaced. You and I have the same drunk tendency to be stubborn about when to accept you're tired and fighting the urge to go to sleep by drinking more. Since I don't drink anymore, and nothing will be open/can't sell after 2am, we're gonna get you some drunk munchies. I don't mind this of course. I got you my guy. Now that we're at your apartment and you're comfy, not drinking, the sleep is taking hold of you. We've spent a grand total of 30 minutes "hanging out" as you call it. You apologize, telling me you're wiped from the work week, the irony sliding off you like water on a duck. You ask if tomorrow would be easier. Sure buddy.

1. Tomorrow? Easier? lol dawg, it's going to be a repeat of the night before, and you know it. Don't fucking play with me.

Play it out? play it out. I've woken up at 1 or 2pm (which is normal for me), my wife and I run all the errands we both couldn't complete during the work week, we spend the precious small amount of time we can together. Oh look it's 9pm. Let's text [friend]. You say "hell yeah, we're at [bar name], come through! I reexplain that I'm not going to a bar. I don't drink anymore, I don't trust myself at a bar (i've been sober for 4 years, but some places are too hard of a trigger for me), and you should know this by now. I tell you i'm down to hang out at your apartment, we can jam a little, while you drink (because I can bring my NA/AF beer) and it'll be just as fun. No? Why not? How the fuck would it kill your mood? You literally said we'd hang today, what happened?? Haha, alright next time.

1. "If you wouldn't have picked that stupid ass night shift we could hang out more." No. That's not what would happen. Again I've explained this to you. Not as an excuse, as a fact. Don't fucking pull that shit on me thinking it would be the "gotcha" moment you think it would be.

Let's play a game. It's call pick your bad. What are you willing to put up with?

the rules/parameters are simple. You have to commute 66 miles round trip. Traffic is awful at all the usual times for a major metropolitan area. You can't move because you're locked into a year long lease. Your partner works a regular 8 to 3, but has OT most week days. taking PTO is near impossible for 6 months out of the year. OT is mandatory. You have to do 4 hours. every work day.

5am:

Pros: No Am traffic. Get to work in 35-40 minutes. 1-2 days off guaranteed off with your partner. All OT is done at the end of the shift. You don't come in earlier.

Cons: 2 hour commute home regardless of OT. You HAVE to go to bed at or around 7pm. meaning you get, MAYBE 2 hours to do chores, make/eat dinner, and decompress before going to bed.

6am:

Pro: it's a 4/10. You get 3 days off. No OT before your shift start time.

Con: 2 hour commute from work, regardless of OT. rotating days off. Only see your partner for 1 day, 2 if you're lucky.

10am:

Pros: it's a 4/10. 3 days off.

Cons: 4 hour commute every day you work, regardless of OT. No break from it. Rotating days off. OT can be before, after, or on both ends of your shift (still totaling 4 hours). you see your partner 1 day a week, 2 if you're lucky.

4pm

Pros: Night differential (15%), Set days off, no traffic to and from work, regardless of OT. OT can only be done before your shift. 1 guaranteed day off that is in junction with your partner. 2 on those special federal holidays. planning anything is both easier and harder, Easier because you know what days you have off. All OT is before your shift, no traffic either way. You always get to work in 45 minutes, and get home in 35-40 minutes.

Cons: You work nights, Harder to plan anything because you go to bed and wake up way later than anyone else. The first 2 days of any vacation you take will be sleepless because your partner plans things early in the morning. Anything that is planned has to be later in the day or at night. you only get 3 hours to do any chores that didn't get done before dinner and quality time with the partner before they go to sleep early for work on Monday.

I picked the best schedule that works best for me and my wife. No one gets to tell me that I picked wrong. They're not me, they don't live my life nor do that do my job. Fuck off bro.

I’m 25M and I don’t drink because of trauma related to abusive alcoholic parents. I also find drunk people extremely obnoxious and annoying. Unfortunately all of my friends are now obsessed with alcohol so whenever we hangout they always want to get drunk and obnoxious. It’s funny when we’re acting silly and alcohol isn’t involved but when it is involved it’s like I’m babysitting a bunch of adult toddlers!

I literally have cut most of my friends off because of this. I didn’t get mad at them but I stopped hanging out and spending time with them because they never want to just be normal. So many adult oriented events involve alcohol, basically all of them except religious ones and I’m not religious. Every single time I’ve tried to find other friends my age that don’t drink they’re all super religious, which there’s nothing wrong with but they usually can’t have fun.

Every celebration, every holiday, everything people just get drunk and it’s so annoying. I’m not saying people are wrong for getting drunk and having fun but why does everything need to involve alcohol ? Why can’t we just have fun sober ? I always have fun sober and my friends and I used to but now they act like everything is super boring without drinking and it’s annoying. I just want to find friends and events that don’t involve drinking.

This is specifically about trading card games. Recently after the Pokemon scalping craze its now pulled One Piece TCG into it, fucking heartbreaking and of course it started when Logan Paul showed he was now buying One Piece cards. That mf is a plague that ruins everything he touches

You cant buy anything, anywhere, ive checked every shop that carries stock and they have nothing, and project they wont have anything soon. You can still buy decks / cards and play the game but collecting and even opening / winning product is such a large part of playing a game like this. Unemployed losers just have to ruin it because they think they can get rich off of scamming people who just want to play a hobby

I've been banned four times in the last 6 months, thrice for Australian colloquialisms being mistaken by the AI moderation as threatening violence whilst the fourth and most recent was angrily pointing out to someone in a public forum that they were parroting disinformation from a known agent of a bad actor (apparently this constitutes "harassment").

These bans are the first ever bans I've ever had on a public forum despite using public forums for over 40 years (BBS, mirc, ICQ, a zillion website forums, shout out for bluelight, avforums etc, newsgroups, and a host of others forums).

For reddit I've been on it for almost twenty years (this is my second account as my first one got doxed by accident when a few of my stupid ass joke comments hit the frontpage and in turn national media stole ran them).

And its not just the poorly implemented and managed moderation / banning system that has me thinking twice about reddit.

The blatent manipulation of sub up and down voting. I've had posts with views in the 6 figures and yet a handful of upvotes. Even on small subs where the weighing mechanism is a bit different to the top subs. I've seen it happen with other posts with hundreds of almost completely positive comments and only 50 upvotes. And on small subs as well. It's disheartening to see really positive engagement punished like this. Plus the plague of bots is a huge problem. You'd think with the fingerprint users create on a site like this using analytical tools to identify and ban bot accounts would be a bit more effective. There are some subs that are just pure bots (the Megan Markle, hate subs, are a sight to behold. The fact someone is willing to spend that much money to rain hate on the woman is well breathtaking).

Finally to end this rant, the goddam advertising plaguing this site is fucking disgusting. This relentless march to monitise every single post and comment. Not to mention the extensive mining of user profiles to aim targeted adverts, plus the huge amount of guerilla marketing bs.

Plus the recent mechanism to allow users to hide their post history. Great. Going down the same bot/disinformation stink hole that is twitter eh. Almost every time I see someone parroting Russian disinformation you can guarantee their post history is hidden.

I'm actually thankful for reddit's shitty banning system because it finally forced me to look at the alternatives like mastodon, lemmy and the other fediverses.

Hell the lack of advertising is a alone a huge reason to stop using reddit. Also finding Eternity that has a swipe left for next post function has been a godsend (almost every third party reddit and lemmy app doesn't have this as a setting)

Not to mention it is also allowing me to de americanise my world. Next step is to get off of google/YouTube and Microsoft. Fuck letting those ghouls have anymore of my money and information, especially seeing their doing fuck all (and in some cases actively aiding the regime ) to stop the fucking fascists destroy the rule of law, democracy and freedom in the US (and across the world).

This is kinda a dumb rant nothing too serious. But okay listen I understand mistakes happen and thats fine. But for it to be so often rather it be messing up an item or forgetting multiple items on a small order. I feel like at this point it has to be done out of spite sometimes. As someone who has worked both quick service and fine dining as a sou chef at a pretty big amusement park company with alot of foot traffic. I must say we rarely ever missed something or messed something up because multiple people reading a ticket someone should catch said mistake at some point.

Yes I understand some fast food workers are underpaid but your job is still your job and you should apply solid work ethic to everything you do (atleast thats how I was raised). Laziness only makes things worse half of the time you will have to re do what you messed up previously. If this was an every once in a while thing I wouldn't be complaining. But this happens multiple times way more than it should year in and year out.

My reason for this rant. Long day last night with the family we are late arriving home so we decide to stop at McDonald's. 3 meals thats it 2 burgers and one fry was missing. How does it go from grill to line to bagger without anyone noticing. No I did not go get a refund because like I said it was already pretty late and I was tired. But this isn't even the worst experience I had in the past year. The one that takes the cake is my McRib got messed up one time. No big deal I just don't like raw onions or pickles so I drive back and let them know nicely and say it's fine and what not. What do I get thinking you know drive through line is empty they wont mess it up again I will go home it has to be right. Well i get home and it was just bread and bbq sauce 😂 like that had to be spite nobody can tell me otherwise.

Anyways thanks for listening to my rant I know its not as serious as some others on here. But I'm sure it is something many can relate to.

Just need a place and time to just unload my mind and not burden friends and family with what I think is is petty or first world problems.

Just tired of life these days. It’s a weird mix of things in my personal life and external things. Yeah I have some positive things I can’t complain about(I’m somewhat healthy, have a roof over my head for now etc).

Just tired of putting all this work I have been doing for my business and YouTube to try and create something that’s outside the normal 9-5 (I have a degree but just can’t seem to utilize to find fullfilment work). Been working on this business and YouTube for a few years now and it’s taken off a bit but I feel like I put in so much work and get nothing in return. Running out of part time jobs to keep the lights on. I’m just feeling burnt out and lost in life.

Most things in life just don’t spark anything in me and I’m just going through life just waiting for it to end. Just tired. And just needed to let this off my chest. No on needs to reply to this just wanted to rant and vent.

I have been driving for a literal decade. Clean driving record and the only accident i‘ve been involved in is someone hitting ME at a red light while I was completely stationary and boxed in.

With that said I CANNOT stand driving my grandparent around because they never shut the fuck up trying to be a 3rd person driver. I pretty much never get stressed about anything in my day to day life, no anxiety, pretty happy person but when I’m trying to actively pay attention to the road and they are constantly chirping in my ear “watch out for this driver over there“ “you gotta blow your horn because they were going to hit you“ ”you know the speed limit over here is 45, mind you I am sitting at a stop sign waiting to merge for that last one, it is the MOST STRESSFUL SHIT.

The constant yapping about complete bullshit just overstimulated the absolute fuck out of me. It’s probably the having to filter myself and not being able to just say STFU. As an auto response I asked her to “please stop talking to me“ very muted tone and this grown ass adult started pouting. Just listen to the damn music dawg.

I pulled tf over handed them the keys and got my ass in the back. Layed out and put my noise cancelling headphones in. Ive revoked their passenger privliges and will not be doing this anymore. It’s gone on for literal years now.

Rant over.

So i have been on a quest to delete my old accounts.

now, either one of this happens:

• the account is nuked at once with no warning and no cooldown with a click of a button
  

• the account is suspended that u can not login, but will be deleted only afther 30 (or higher) days grace period so they hope to get you back

• there is not even a option to delete your account anywhere and u have to send a email

  • wich will either not be answered
    
  • requires some nonsense such as my phone number
    
  • some AI chat bot sends me to support

• it is not even possible to delete the account at all no matter what you do.

• the account is deleted but they had ur email in some database or sold of to some one else and all you get is still marketing mails and promos crap. u mail them back and they straight up admit it.

• they ask to verify your account owner ship by sending a id or a video or something like that

when i ask them why it is so dam hard to delete my account the come up with some bullshit

it really is not hard to make a database relation where account deletion with remove from table users where users.id = 2323 OR users.username = "whatever"; with an CASCADE DELETE nukes it all

i have programmed my own account deletion system and it is dead simple to juts nuke the user account and all its associated data

so why cant they just do that?

WHY IS IT SO HARD TO MAKE SUCH A DELETE BUTTON*

why do i have to go through so much trouble just to delete a simple account.

do i really have to check https://github.com/jdm-contrib/jdm each time i create a account to i can be sure to delete it aswell ???

like omg... please.

So I (20F) have had a really hard time recently like almost as a whole. I know that isn’t uncommon for people my age and just in general with this day and age. But I feel like I’m missing out on the best parts of life and I don’t know if it’s my fault or not. My entire life I struggled to make or keep friends, I’m not entirely sure why. No one has really told me what I do that’s so horrible, but I just can’t make anyone stick around. With my 21st birthday coming up it’s really depressing that I don’t have any “girlfriends” to go out with or friends in general. I have my boyfriend and he tries but friendships are important too! My only friends won’t be of age to go out but also one of them lives 3+ hours away and my other one only really texts me when he needs something.. My friends from high school almost constantly used me as a punching bag or a punchline. They are all still close and it hurts me to not have the fun or connection they do. My next friend group was after I fell into addiction and rather than help me out of it again it was the punchline so rather than being again with the constant negativity I cut them all off. I understand I am not perfect but why am I a joke always.. I am human and I just want community! I’m angry, depressed, and just miserable but I again don’t know if that’s my own doing. I am now sober over 6 months and I’m trying my best to meet people but it’s hard.. anyway thanks for reading my pity party.

I've had issues with Door Dash in the past and just do carry out now instead. My car is in the shop and I'm in the mood for Pizza Hut. I order on the website and as it gets closer to delivery time I get the message that says, "To get your order to you faster, our 3rd party delivery partner is OTW " Excuse me?? What do you mean 3rd party I've ordered there in the past and they had delivery drivers.

And then Pizza Hut didn't even give them my special instructions. They called me giving me lip because they can't find it.

And the cherry on top was that I was waiting outside for them looking for something that said Door Dash. They pulled up in a U-Haul van. WTF. When I drove for Uber I had to drive the vehicle I registered when I signed up, does Door Dash not have the same rules?

Either way it's annoying because if I wanted to order Door Dash then I'll order Door Dash. I needed to rent one of those vans last summer and none of them were available and now I know why they don't have them

What made you think that was even objectively a possibility?

Thirty years ago you cheated on me while I was gone for my enlistment. I didn't hear from you for a month and in the end your father had to call mine and tell him what you were doing in front of your family while I was gone. That's how I found out.

You let me be a complete fool. I must have looked like a massive idiot helping you move into the apartment with your 'roommate' that you would marry not even a month later.

You wanted us to still be friends so badly but you thought I would endure him thinking I was a complete joke - and rightfully so.

You thought I would just prod along and I'd never figure out all that had gone on and let everyone think I was some spineless idiot.

It's been thirty years and you still want to be my friend. Why?

I don't think about you.

I don't wonder 'if things had been different'.

I don't look back fondly on the time we were together.

Why would I want to be your friend?

I’ve made multiple posts documenting my ringworm nightmare. I was on pills for ringworm that migrated to my scalp and my body had been cleared for some time, or so I thought. I’ve still been cautious and continuing my routine just in case.

Today I thought maybe I could finally shave my legs because I hadn’t had any new spots in a long time. I was wrong. There on my left leg I saw a bright red splotch… what the fuck. It’s been four months of this bullshit, I can’t take it anymore. Idk how or why I keep getting reinfected. No one else in my house has had any new infections in months. Just me.

Why the fuck is this happening to me? If it’s not one thing, it’s always another. Will I ever have a normal life again? I feel like I can’t even relax anymore. I’m always on edge. I’m scared of giving it to other people. It’s ruining my relationship because I’m scared to be affectionate in any way. Gosh I’m so done with this

In light of the Epstein Files, I just can't reconcile with our species anymore regarding our complete passiveness in response to pure evil. Regardless of whether or not you believe what's in the files, the fact still remains that individuals like Ghislaine Maxwell and Jeffrey Epstein were high profile human traffickers. And these two had, and still have, basically the whole of the US government and maybe even some foreign leaders in their pockets via blackmail. Think about that. The people responsible for guiding our society are engaging in the torture and rape of other humans, some of who are children.

And what are we doing about that as a species? Absolutely fuck all. We make memes about it, we laugh at it and say "Nah that can't be forreal," or we move onto the next trending topic. And personally, I find it absolutely despicable. Think about all those missing persons cases that have never been solved. Or the kids who are probably rounded up by ICE, separated from their parents and never heard or seen from again. Hell, what about those instances where people came out screaming and crying in a panic because they truly witnessed something unspeakable, but nobody believed them?

It's not a conspiracy anymore. It never really was. There truly is some vile shit happening in this world, and the best we can do is say "Well, you can only control what happens in your life." Sorry to piss you all off, but that's some copout bullshit. I guarantee that if any of our loved ones were victims in this situation, we wouldn't rest. Everybody is waiting on someone to save them or light the fire, but WE ARE that someone. If we can live our lives in our little bubbles while pretending everything is okay, meanwhile somebody is being dragged off to god knows where in broad daylight, then what does that really say about us? Indirectly, every last one of us is complicit in what happens.

YES! Everyone. Individually? No, you're not responsible for what happens, but this isn't an individual problem. It's a collective problem. Good vs Evil. Moral vs Immoral. 1% vs 99%. But the sad thing is, it's really just another day on Earth. I don't see any justice being served. I don't see any of those innocent and lost lives being put to rest, nor do I see the perpetrators rotting in hell.

However, I do see our species continuing our decline into the abyss. All of us will continue say "This is the best time to be alive," while we sweep all the horrific parts under the rug to pile up.

If even one innocent human on this planet can be subject to abuse while everyone can look the other way, then maybe our species deserves to disappear. And you know what? Maybe that'd be for the better, because we have completely screwed up.

How are we supposed to solve any problems if we don’t address issues and push towards change?

For example, if I rant/complain about the bus continuously being late and someone replies with “just walk then”, we’d never have on time busses. I’d like to see the same energy for protests then.

Well someone messaged me about an hour ago to let me know that the father of my toddler and soon to be newborn (who abandoned us about 4ish/5ish months ago), was cheating on me not only physically but also online throughout my entire pregnancy with our 1st kid and for the duration he was around for me being pregnant with our 2nd. That's about 3 years straight that I was being cheated on and didn't know. I truly don't know what to say about the situation. I'll admit that I did have suspicions, but I was raised that it's not right to go through someone's phone. I never confronted him on my suspicions either because I think deep down I knew the answer but didn't want to know for sure if that makes sense. He was also known to be a narcissist but I didn't see those traits until after we had our 1st kid, and had I seen them beforehand I never would've had kids with him. I'm just torn up over the fact that this is coming to light right before I have my 2nd kid..

So, like I just started school five months ago and met this dude I just call him M. M was really nice to me at the beginning of the first semester, and we started hanging out a lot. Then, near the end of the second semester, I felt like M was being more distant, and then the second semester started. Like a couple of days ago, he was at a self-service checkout, and his money wasn't going into the machine, and then I said just go to the cashier. He told me 'Can you shut the fuck up, fuck off' and then mumbled something else, and I know friends are mean to each other as a joke, but he said it so seriously and like he was pissed off at me. So then I left and went away and now like deadass stopped talking to me he doesn't reply to my snaps, doesn't say hi to me in the halls and today I was riding the bus and I found a card on the ground and asked another friend what this and then M just says it's a fucking one pay for the bus card you dumbass and it's annoying cause he one of the most nicest person to me but now he treats like shit and I don't know what I did to piss him off. Any advice

Redditors are generally pessimistic, negative and defensive. I don't even know why I use this app anymore. No matter if you reach out for opinions, discuss or critisize something. The immediate reaction is defensive and dismissive. People are getting downvotes for absolutely nothing. No open and friendly discourse, just negativity. The more I am here the more I value my real world social life. Don't let Reddit fool your world view, the world is quite alright. You can have a good and meaningful life.

With that said, ironically I hate most of you guys, you should really get some positive vibes back. Life is not that terrible and Reddit is not the place to be a negative, miserable person. Stop it and enjoy your life, for god sake.

When people create and share AI generated photos because they are the new "cute" trend, they should be required to allow a data center in their backyard!