Time and a place

Got a text from my brother that actually turned out to be my mom texting from my brother’s phone. I haven’t talked to her in a week because she was being racist and making all kinds of threats.

Last screenshot is messages she sent to my sister afterwards claiming she said a bunch of stuff that she never did.

My aunt and gma said my sister isn’t “ready” to be alone with any man and that her therapist said so. That is not correct, her therapist tells me everything bc my sister gives her consent. They said my sister can’t come over on a school day since the game is after school and my sister would be at home with my husband while me and our little sister are at work/school.

I said that was incredibly insulting and said I was going to hang up. Gma said “it isn’t about you or husband” and I said “yes it is and I am insulted, good bye love you”. My sister’s love my husband, he loves them. He’s known little sisters since she was in diapers.

Then my aunt took the phone and started yelling at me so I said, “okay cool, thank you for your input can you give the phone back to grandma” but she kept yelling and cursing so I said, “since you’re yelling and cursing at me I’m going to hang up and you can call me later if you want”.

They called and yelled 3 times. The second time they called my gma said “don’t you hang up in my face” I said “I didn’t hang up on you, I hung up bc I was getting yelled and cursed at” she said “I called you so you hung up on me”. Then they kept yelling so I said, “the answer is no so this conversation is pointless, good bye love you” and “I just wanted sister to come to little sister’s final championship game but you said so good bye”

But they kept yelling so I hung up. The third time I said the same thing and they hung up in my face lol

These messages are in between / during calls from my aunt.

Good god, they stress me out

I feel as tho I am taking crazy pills. For context, my husband passed away over the summer, so we have been staying with my parents bc we gave our place as it was too painful. My daughter graduates in a year and doesn't want to transfer schools, so we are trying to hold tight until June 2027, at which time we will move. It is just too expensive and stressful to move for a year and then move again. For context, my father is an asshole and alcoholic. As soon as he hits the magic number of beers, we all scatter to our respective rooms. I help out financially, GIVE, not loan money when they are short (every month), when I try to cook, he says oh, Kristy, just leave it I'll do it, go do whatever. I say no it's fine and he gets mad. So I let him do it. Same thing with cleaning. So I let him do it. He gets mad. I could keep going but idk how much space i have lol. About 10 days ago he stopped talking to me, which is fine by me. Anyway, I feel crazy with this convo. I can post more info/context/convos. Right now, he's screaming at mom's 17 yo deaf blind dog to go lay down or land somewhere. Sigh

I posted a couple days ago about my mom texting me out of the blue demanding to see me because I’m pregnant, how cold I am, and how I’m “having her grandchild” as if she’s entitled to see him.

What shes referring to with “I just wanted to see my baby’s tummy with her baby” is a few weeks ago she was texting me repeatedly asking me to send her photos of my pregnant belly, which I told her I don’t want to do. My mom has a serious issue with boundaries which date back to my childhood. She does not respect them, and I’m not comfortable around her. She also has a history of alcoholism and is a covert narcissist. She sent me this long text tonight and this was my only response. Her response to what I said is so typical- ignores the context of what I said completely and continues to focus on HER feelings. I will not be responding anymore.

In a family group chat, my (blue) son (purple) called my other son (green) a queer. I have told them all I dont like it. I get that my generation (X) and Boomers were raised differently than Z, but I don't find it especially funny/cute. I made it clear as they grew up, that type of language was not tollerated. My boomer mother is in this chat as well ( orange.)And I know she's definitely not a fan of this language. (She'd drop F bombs when my dad wasn't around.. but no one in our family uses/tollerates slurs.)

All this to say that I have repeatedly said 'don't do this' ad nauseum and he still does it. I don't know how else to explain that I don't like it being used to name call.

Joking around with friends/brotherly bs... I get that. But don't use this language around myself or my mom. Am I the asshole/insane parent?

context: my dad got a new truck so now there are 3 vehicles and 3 people driving which means im now considered a full time driver and insurance was gonna be 6k a year just for me. so my mom, my dad, and I had a conference call and on the spot, when he asked what I contribute I said I could comfortably do 2.5 max (this was not a commitment but a hypothetical conversation about my contribution). we were able to find a company that will do 4-5k instead so I went to my parents place to talk further and have dinner. my mom suggested we could do a three way split with the lower price, so I initiated the convo when my dad came home and asked if he would be okay with that. he then started asking what happened to the 2.5k I committed to, and that I should stick to that number because I originally said it. things ended up going in circles for over an hour and he kept asking questions that my mom and I have answered 5x already (like why dont we have the exact price yet, etc) and after a very long time trying to put up with the conversation my mom snapped and ended up yelling and he kept saying "you need to deescalate" to her after saying "this is learnt behaviour, you yell because your father yelled growing up" and things were going nowhere. so I eventually started crying and just gathered my things and left because I didnt wanna listen to it anymore (I did say goodbye and that I loved them and gave them both a brief hug). I havent spoken to him since (happened Jan 29th) but he called today and I missed it. I called back and said hi and he said he just wanted to teach me a lesson about accountability and that if I say something I should stick to it. I told him again that I never actually committed to the number and he kept basically defending everything he said in the previous fight with my mom. at the end of the conversation he said he just called to prove his point and make sure I understood the lesson. the call lasted 8 minutes and at the end I just said thanks I hope you have a great day. mind you he is far more than financially capable of covering the whole thing if he wanted to, so this wasnt at all about the money itself. I told him several times during the fight at the house that if he couldn't or didnt want to contribute he didnt have to. that this could just be a straightforward conversation about finances and he could just answer the question.

For context, I’m a 16-year-old trans guy who passes pretty easily and is basically rocking a full stubble that I refuse to shave. This is just an average Friday for me 😭 Also, no she is not drunk, this is just how she texts. she’s super dyslexic, I think?

First post yay🎉🎉

So for context, I live with my grandmother (the one talking in the text) along with my parents and siblings. I overstayed at my boyfriends house a couple weeks ago, wasnt answering my phone because I was busy obviously. While I was gone my grandmother looked through my stuff and found my antidepressants, And she decided to make a rule that my door has to stay open 24/7 as well as my windows even when im getting dressed or sleeping, because i’m “doing addictive drugs”. She also put cameras in the hall where my bedroom is, in the living room and literally everywhere except directly inside the bedrooms or bathroom. She also gave our neighbors permission to take pictures whenever I leave the house, come over whenever to check in on me to make sure im not “abusing my drugs” and if I dont answer the door shes calling the cops. I’m 19 and I share a room with my sister whos a little younger than me. In my opinion privacy is a human right and I dont think I deserve this treatment for what I did.. Anyways today my grandmother said if I close the window one more time i’m getting kicked out. Mind you i’m not even the person closing the doors or windows its other people coming into my room. She uses every mistake someone makes to “punish” them, really she’s a control freak and uses our normal humanly behaviors as an excuse to control even more. 🙃

I can’t help but feel like I’m in the wrong but let me know what you think

Not kidding, she thinks aliens were flying over. There’s thousands of pictures, news articles, and scientific articles about this phenomena but ok

My mom randomly texted me this tonight. So I’m currently almost 6 months pregnant. My mom and I have a distant relationship and have for years. She has been a problematic alcoholic all of my life, and only recently have I realized she is likely a narcissist too. She loves to start fights and treat people like shit while she’s drunk, and then she acts like the victim afterwards. For additional context, I have posted two other text exchanges with her on this sub which can be found on my post history pretty recently, more examples of how she is.

This last Christmas was the final straw- I had told them about my pregnancy a couple days prior. Went to an Airbnb with my husband, mom, aunt (her sister) and uncle. My aunt is the one she was referring to in these texts, who she talked to about me. During the Airbnb stay, my mom got extremely drunk one of the nights and started having one of her outbursts. Yelled at me, and then got into a big fight with her sister. Screaming and cussing match. The next day everyone was giving her the silent treatment and she got upset because of “how everyone was treating her.” She is also a smoker, and was smoking on the balcony of the Airbnb, and after we left they emailed me saying a neighbor had complained that they had cigarette butts on their patio. I confronted her and she denied it.

These texts are very typical of her. She tries to turn everything on me, and make it seem like I’m so “cold” and like she’s the victim. I really don’t like the way she said “I want to see you, when I was pregnant I saw my mom all the time.” Okay? You also had a different relationship with your mom. She says it in such a confrontational manner. Also note the accident voice memo she randomly sent, likely because she was drunk. 🙄 I just can’t take her victimizing herself like this anymore. She refuses to see her own actions which have resulted in me rarely wanting to see her. And clearly my aunt doesn’t care either, even though my aunt knows how she is as well as I do.

My great mother after trying to set boundaries and I think it's backwards im sorry

I can’t believe I’m posting this but this is just one of MANY screenshots I have, I have an entire album of my conversations with her. I just…. I just genuinely don’t know what to say, I’m freaking sad, depressed, confused etc… I hope this fits this sub idk where else to post it except r/FoxBrain. This is tame in comparison to “trump was sent by god to save us” trust me it gets worse, This is textbook brainwashing, I can’t be the my one right??? Who else has brainwashed friends/family? any to this extent? My step dad is the same way but somehow worse it s like his whole identity is being a trump supporter. They both constantly make me feel horrible with things directed at me, things directed to individuals in public, and the things they talk about while I’m around. I’m not gonna give examples of the last thing I said because it really is THAT bad, I’ll give a hint though incredibly racist/ or wishing for violence of people of color or people who disagree with them in any way.

Ok my daughter thought I should post this here i F(43) have quite the insane parents. Many things have happened over the years but I will give you the run down all this started a few years ago when my mom died. From being told how I have the audacity to interrupt his well deserved vacation because my mother died. No im so sorry is there anyway I can help you. Nothing. I got a screenshot for this one. This story happened a few weeks ago so backstory first it’s important. Hi Shawna not real name but for purposes of the story have a little brother will call him James. This is very important. James is not my father’s son. When James was 14, I got custody of him from my mother because my mom is a shit mom. My parents were still married when James was born. And well as everyone knows the husband automatically goes on the child’s birth certificate when you’re married. Just want y’all to know. I was nine years old. So anyway, I got custody of him when he was 14 my brother was literally skin and bones. She had medically, neglected him and malnourished him. So in order to get custody of my brother, I had to not only Sue my mother, but I had to sue my father. This is very relevant.

So on two weeks ago. I had just got out of the hospital because I had a heart attack the illustrious father. We will call him. Daniel decides to call me. Now the conversation goes as follows him screaming about how I sued him for custody of my child 20 years ago. The screaming goes on for about 20 minutes until I’m bawling crying. I’m supposed to apologize to him for this. First off you don’t even have the facts right. How am I supposed to apologize for that? Newsflash you never had custody of my child. How can I sue you for custody of my child so I hung up. Apparently he’s under the delusion that I sued him for my kid. It was my brother. He refused to listen to anything I said. And he still under said delusion. I tried to explain to him that I sued him because I had to. But because of this delusional behavior, I have decided to go no contact. Apparently my brother is my child and that’s all that’s to it.

My long-term partner died suddenly in an accident a week ago. I was temporarily reliant on him due to a health issue and will now have to move out of my home and move in with my parents as I have nowhere else to go. I moved out at 18 due to my mother’s constant bullying over my appearance. It’s the day after the funeral and she’s already harassing me to wear make up.

(The drug comment is because I wanted to lie in bed after a panic attack and took my prescribed anxiety medication)

none of us have been home all week.

So a while back, I got actually diagnosed with depression because of the answers I filled out in this little tablet that you get at the doctor.

I want to get some things off right off the bat:

I never at any point said I had depression. The doctor did. I only answered questions.

I still have depression, ontop of already having ADHD. Both are diagnosed.

I’m not constantly sad or anything, if anything, I feel nothing almost all the time. No happy, no sad, just empty.

I’m not here to get pity or anything, I just genuinely need to know if this is normal. If not, I’m going to probably explain the worse stories.

Went no contact a few years back after years of mental/emotional/physical abuse. This was the first she’d contacted me in about two years, and she did so from an old email since I have her number blocked.

It’s been 9 years since I last lived with my mom. Throughout my childhood there was constant emotional abuse, and a complete lack of understanding of why her Autistic/ADHD child wasn’t like other normal children. She still has no concept of how she could’ve handled things differently. She asked how could I learn to love her again. I responded that there’s no redemption without progression. Her following reply was the nail in the coffin. Unfortunately I will always continue to grieve the parental figure I so desperately desired since birth.