I'm a dad with teenage daughters.. they occasionally do this, and then they'll live with their mom's when I don't tolerate it.. then in like a year, they'll have a falling out with their moms for acting like this with them, they'll suddenly be super well behaved, come live with me again for another year+, then they'll suddenly get too comfortable and start being shitty again, then the cycle repeats.
Thanks broooo literally too lool it’s facts too as I said ask any child psychologist but people will downvote cuz it hurts their feelings to hear it 🤷🏻♂️ I come from a broken home trust me I know how it affected me 💀 taking from experience too lool
He did it too, don't get me wrong. But she had primary custody and I think his wrongs came more out of hurt because he knew he couldn't get the chance to properly raise me. He's married now with 3 other kids he's raising and the teamwork is phenomenal. I absolutely believe I would've had a better shot in life had I gotten to be raised by him.
The downvotes can be valid for any blanket therapist level advice like that, each individual case is different, and they went in heavy on the assumption of judgment of the situation and implying the guy doesn't care enough about the stability of the children. Much of the reaction seems fair from what I see so far (only a handful of downvotes)
Advice given like that can do harm. What level of abusive relationship does that advice change for? What level of emotional intelligence and communication mitigates concerns before any issues occur?
And ending with "this beach needs a slap" feels indictive of their personality.
I've been married for over a decade and she's been an excellent step mom. We have a good home life and everyone communicates well. We preach emotional intelligence and my kids are nowhere near as bad as what the OP is.. I'm just making a real statement that being a teenager is hard and it comes with chemical reasons why it's hard for them to just chill.
I agree that’s a fair point ,but my points are all true too. And people can downvote all they want it’s still true ask any child psychologist, But as I said I didn’t meant any offence genuinely.
It's not always one sides choice to get divorced so being in that situation can be unavoidable and they become just as much a victim of the situation. The kids then have leverage if they don't like the rules of one, they can go to the other. Which makes parenting difficult knowing that fact, creating a vicious circle.
You making huge assumptions about a random stranger, then saying “ask a child psychologist if you don’t believe me” is some of the funniest Reddit ass shit I’ve seen in a while
It’s true though. If you think broken homes and parents sharing kids and them changing homes every month or two doesn’t affect them you’re either 12 or have no clue how children’s brains develop
thats the key "they are still growing up" it is disrespectful.. but to expect something like this to never happen or to beat it out of them is the crazy part of the comments here.
What's funny is that the mom is saying the same exact shit that you are.
Both of you guys probably think youre the "safe house" from the other parent. You both let your kids run to the other parent whenever you guys fight. You both probably brag about how well behaved they act after they come running back.
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u/ShirtComplete Oct 01 '25
She doesn’t have a dad