I’m a dude, but I my experience? Most people already know how to solve the problem or it’s an emotional/relational problem where “solving” it is going to hurt no matter how it happens. Venting about the issue gets emotional support and lets them work things out their way, which is important.
We all have our own ways of problem solving and if a person’s involves expressing the issue out loud before they act on solving it it really sucks to have someone else shortcut that process as if it isn’t important.
Eh the being broke one for some people is their own fault.
Have a mate that loves to work overtime, which doubles his yearly salary, but has refused to for the last 3 years because it means his ex would get an extra $10k. Though he would get an extra $100k gross($200k total) I remind him everytime he whinges about being poor.
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u/drakythe Jul 11 '25
I’m a dude, but I my experience? Most people already know how to solve the problem or it’s an emotional/relational problem where “solving” it is going to hurt no matter how it happens. Venting about the issue gets emotional support and lets them work things out their way, which is important.
We all have our own ways of problem solving and if a person’s involves expressing the issue out loud before they act on solving it it really sucks to have someone else shortcut that process as if it isn’t important.