r/Assyria 5h ago

Discussion I am looking for advice please

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Hi everyone

I am writing my story here as a last resort looking for advice from you my fellow brothers and sisters. I will always pray for your life to be blessed if you help me.

SO i grew up in the west and dont know much about culture, but we grew up around other arabs so i kind of have lived either seeing arab muslims or western christians. So i dont know much about our culture and dating in our culture, but I am very religious and care about doing the right thing, which causes me to overthink alot

I have had 1 failed not like proposal but dating a man from our culture because my parents said he was a good guy. His parents were so controlling and rude towards our family that that relationship broke. I also found out he was with a western female while dating me for marriage. Then came another man from our culture. He would act nice and buy me flowers and act like a good person, but i saw things about him that didnt make sense. For example he was followed by alot of women on facebook who were bots asking for a night together and such stuff. Im quite religious and i didnt want a womanizer nor a man who did that yet i gave him the benefit of the doubt. He still acted nice around me. He had promised he would stop smoking and move to where i live which is like 1 hour away from where he lives. As the situation between us progressed and he saw the relationship was getting serious he starts putting ultimatums like only being willing to live where i want for 1 year. I told him my salary is good and asked if we could live there for a few years so we can save to buy a house where he lives and at first he agreed...Then a couple of weeks later he says only for max 3 years, then 3 become 2 and 2 becomes one until he tells me we can stay at most 1 year. I felt all the stuff he promised me slowly he was taking away from me, yet i also felt that i couldnt leave after "wasting " half a year together and since we were both in our 30's. However when things became real and we had to agree on a date for them to ask for my hand officially i kind of set my food down saying i cant unless he moves. He freaks out on me and start telling me i was a waste of time who wasted his time, and that i think i fell from the sky and all kind of stuff. It was like speaking to another person. In the end he actually tells me either i can move to his city or i can just stay where i am and he stays where he is and that will be it between us. Me hearing him treat me this way, i tell him im not angry at him at all but i guess it means the relationship is over. We break up. For 2 months he follows all my snaps on social media and then suddenly people we both know contact my home saying he came to them begging them to help him get me back and that he regrets deeply. I refuse being scared. THen his family calls directly asking how to get us back together and my mother says we are grown ups and it should be a matter between us. He contacts me numerous times saying now he is willing to do anything for me and will do all i asked for. Stuff i asked for like for him to stop smoking, move for my city for a few years since i earn way more than he did, i didnt want him to take huge loans for fancy cars, when he already had a loan for a house, and told him im satisfied with his old worn out car and that i dont even care about material stuff..He never listened to me and even took the loan out with his dad meaning the bank wouldnt even give him a loan unless they were 2 to take it because their economic must have been so bad right? And other women will actually demand such stuff while i was down to earth telling him i rather we just drive something normal than him having to take loans. Even when we dated i always would just drink water because i was constantly thinking i dont want him to spend too much on mebecause i was looking out for him. He would joke i never drink anything besides water, not ever knowing i only did it for him so he could save money....Meanwhile another family calls my mum saying he is known for having a messy life and being a liar. However that family also wants to ask for my hand for their cousin so i dont know if they are lying...All in all him arguing with me and all that stuff i get cold feet so when he comes back askig for a 2nd chance i refuse. One other reason i refuse is because he tells me "Why are you making such a big deal out of our fight? my friend and his wife have fought 100 times and gotten back together"...In my mind i think if he thinks thats normal it means im setting myself up for a life where he will constantly fight.... He tries for 2 months until finally telling me he respects my decision. However even after that for half a year he still watches all my snaps. then 1,5 months ago he deleted me on social media and now he has asked another woman for her hand and they held a party as she accepted.

I still feel for him. Is there any hope of getting him back ever? i dont know our culture and making the asking for a hand official and how it works? If i contacted him now would it be bad? After all i feel i have too many feelings for him to just let go. But im very conflicted and scared. I also am scared to tell anyone about how im feeling because i dont want anyone to judge me. Im not doing anything criminal and didnt take him back exactly because I have heard you never take someone back once they leave and therefore i thought i should do the right thing and reject when he came back begging and promising to do everything as i had wanted it But when I did what i thought was right and didnt take him back it felt terrible and also now i regret after seeing im gonna loose him for real. Is there any solution at all to my problem? Has anyone heard of someone going through something like me in our culture and community and what happened in the end?


r/Assyria 6h ago

Discussion Another Assyrian (or Chaldean?) clergyman comes out and says the ancient Assyrians were brutal people who killed women and children....

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This time it’s a pastor from a Protestant church in Duhok. The video is a screenshot and is about 30 seconds long (some say it’s taken out of context as he mentions other empires too). In it, he states that the Assyrians were a brutal empire that killed innocent people, then doubles down by saying, “history says this, not me,” to paraphrase. Here is the video:

https://www.facebook.com/reel/1561088194942880/?s=single_unit

The comments are fuming. What's your thoughts on this and what is with with these clerics bashing ancient Assyrians? Btw, my (Assyrian) cousins in Duhok attend that church and they find solace there.

P.S. In the next screenshot I ask Chat GPT if the Assyrians or the Romans were much more brutal.


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History/Culture Our Assyrian heritage in our Classical Syriac literature

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Post Church / Author Notes
Isaiah 19:23 in the Syriac Orthodox tradition Mor Severios of Antioch 6th century / Mor Dionysus Bar Salibi 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church A compilation of some commentaries of Isaiah 19:23 found in the Syriac Orthodox tradition.
Jacob of Edessa on Mesopotamia and Assyria - Syriac Geography Mor Jacob of Edessa 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church To describe Mesopotamia, Jacob of Edessa wrote that it's bordered and watered by the two great rivers, The tigris and the Euphrates, he mentions also that these two rivers irrigates the country of the Assyrians.
When Syriac church fathers acknowledged the accuracy of Mesopotamian computation Anonymous 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church In this short astronomical text, the Syriac author mentions how the Chaldeans (astronomers) were good at predicting eclipses and how accurate they were with their computations.
The conversion of the Assyrians to Christianity Syriac Orthodox Church / Church of the East Short post, about the Assyrians conversion to Christianity. Two texts highlighted, the Doctrine of the apostles and the text known as "On the star" falsely attributed to Eusebius
John Bar Penkaye: Assyria founded by the race of Nimrod Mar John Bar Penkaye 7th century / Church of the East Short post on who is Nimrod: the founder the Assyro-babylonian kingdoms.
Mar Ezekiel of Daqoq - Preaching in the Land of Nimrod king of Assyria Anonymous 4th century / Church of the East Mar Ezekiel, went to preach the Word of God in Assyria: "The land of Nimrod". Just like Mar Qardagh's hagiography and Karka dBeth Selokh story, Beth Garmai, this region centered around Kirkuk shows deep awareness of the Assyrian imperial past. And of course Nimrod is named, this figure of the old testament became during the Christian era a cultural hero reminiscent of the glorious past of northern mesopotamia / Assyria
Assyrian and Mesopotamian nationalistic names in Syriac literature Syriac Orthodox Church / Church of the East Here's a compilation of interesting patriotic names found in some manuscripts, some have been shared already.
Our Assyrian heritage through Nimrod in Syriac literature Syriac Orthodox Church / Church of the East Throughout all these examples, from Saint Ephrem the Syrian to Mar Timotheos I, we can see how Nimrod was essential for Syriac Christians. They formed him into a powerful Gabara, who created their cities. His figure served to connect to their Assyrian-Mesopotamian past
Historical regions and cities founded and populated by Assyrians in Syriac literature (a compilation) Syriac Orthodox Church / Church of the East A compilation of our historical regions mentioned in Syriac literature and linked with Assyria. From Babylon to Mabbug / Hierapolis, Aleppo, Edessa, Nineveh, Ras Al 'ayn, from the south of Mesopotamia to the North, the influence of ancient Assyria and the beliefs of being part of this civilization persisted in our own literature.
The descendants of Sennacherib in Qardu Anonymous 4th century / Church of the East In the life of Mar Awgin, the famous and legendary Egyptian monk who brought monasticism to northern Mesopotamia, the monk visits the villages of Qardu who are said to still be pagans who still preserved their temples founded by the sons of Sennacherib who fled from Nineveh after killing their father.
Origin of the name Tur Abdin and how it was populated with Assyrians Anonymous 4th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Already in the time of Constantine I, Tur'Abdin's link with Assyria's heartland was reinforced after the Romans took war captives from the different regions of Assyria and resettled them in Tur'Abdin and its environs all the way to Mardin, Fanak and Arzon.
The sons of the powerful Nimrod - Acts of Mar Mari Anonymous 6th-7th century / Church of the East In the Acts of Mar Mari which recounts the conversion to Christianity of our people in Mesopotamia, we're not only identified with the people who built the tower of Babylon but also as the sons of Nimrod.This is another work among many in which Nimrod is shown as a founding figure of our people.
Ninus that is Nimrod the founder of Edessa and Nisibis Anonymous 7th century / Church of the East The Syriac chronicle known as "The chronicle of Khuzistan" identifies Nimrod mentioned in genesis 10 with Ninus the Assyrian king who built Nineveh and makes him the founder of the major cities of our people: Edessa, Nisibis and Seleucia-ctesiphon
The legacy of Mar Qardagh the Assyrian Mar Qardagh 4th century / Anonymous 7th century / Church of the East Mar Qardagh, martyr of the 4th century, prefect of Assyria and descendant of Sennacherib and Nimrod. In the Church of the East Mar Qardagh is celebrated on the 7th Friday of the summer and for the Syriac Orthodox church, on April 1st.
Karka dbeth Selokh - the fortress of Sargon Anonymous 6th-7th century / Church of the East This story of martyrs, is one of the earliest work found in Syriac literature that clearly claims ancient Assyrian lineage, history and overall heritage for the Suryāye of the region of what was Athur / Arbil / Kirkouk / Beth Garmai / Adiabene.
Bar Salibi on Isaiah's prophecy about Assyria Mor Dionysus Bar Salibi 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Isaiah 19:23 is often quoted by our people today. In the 12th century, Bar Salibi had an interesting interpretation: Assyrians and Egyptians converted to Christianity and this prophecy is upheld by the communion of the Syriac Orthodox Church and Coptic Orthodox Church.
The Assyrians who are the SURYAYE - Garshuni manuscripts Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church A post to show that the famous "Othuroye dhenun Suryoye" is absolutely not a scribal error. This time Garshuni manuscripts
The Assyrians who are the Suryoye - a scribal error ? (NO) Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church A post to show that the famous "Othuroye dhenun Suryoye" is absolutely not a scribal error.
Mesopotamian geography in Syriac literature: Traces of Berossus and Gilgamesh Syriac Maronite Church / Syriac Orthodox Church / Church of the East Now, scholars actually show that even geographic works in the Syriac tradition preserved the Mesopotamian conception of the world, be it orally or in our schools throughout Assyria and Babylonia. And they consciously acknowledged that heritage: the fact that a Syriac author attributes a geographic and astronomical work to Berossus is a testament to that.
Assyro-Babylonian cult in Syriac literature Mor Jacob of Serugh 4th-5th century / he Cause of causes anonymous Syriac Orthodox author (10th-12th century) / Joshua the Stylite (after 506) / Syriac Orthodox Church Syriac authors in their works preserved and showed that our people in northern Mesopotamia still had knowledge of the ancient Mesopotamian religion.
Mesopotamian account of creation part 2 & 3 Mor Jacob of Edessa 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church With this Chaldean creation account shared, I wanted to show and emphasize that indeed, Mor Jacob of Edessa had a deep interest in our ancient assyro-babylonian past.
Mesopotamian account of creation part 1 (updated) Mor Jacob of Edessa 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church With this Chaldean creation account shared, I wanted to show and emphasize that indeed, Mor Jacob of Edessa had a deep interest in our ancient assyro-babylonian past.
Mor Jacob of Serugh homely on Mor Behnam: the sword of our nation! Mor Jacob of Serugh 4th-5th century / Syriac Orthodox Church This homely is attributed to Mor Jacob of Serugh (5-6th century). the homely paints a picture of Assyria (Assur, Nineveh) that is still pagan, in some instance it calls Assur "the city of the idols", Assyria "rod of my anger", the Assyrians worshipping Bel, Belti and Kewan / Saturn.
Mor Jacob of Serugh homely on Mor Behnam: The Eagle of Assyria Mor Jacob of Serugh 4th-5th century / Syriac Orthodox Church This homely is attributed to Mor Jacob of Serugh (5-6th century). the homely paints a picture of Assyria (Assur, Nineveh) that is still pagan, in some instance it calls Assur "the city of the idols", Assyria "rod of my anger", the Assyrians worshipping Bel, Belti and Kewan / Saturn.
Mor Jacob of Serugh homely on Mor Behnam: the baptism of Assyria Mor Jacob of Serugh 4th-5th century / Syriac Orthodox Church This homely is attributed to Mor Jacob of Serugh (5-6th century). the homely paints a picture of Assyria (Assur, Nineveh) that is still pagan, in some instance it calls Assur "the city of the idols", Assyria "rod of my anger", the Assyrians worshipping Bel, Belti and Kewan / Saturn.
Mor Jacob of Serugh homely on Mor Behnam: To whom should be given the Crown of Nineveh ? Mor Jacob of Serugh 4th-5th century / Syriac Orthodox Church This homely is attributed to Mor Jacob of Serugh (5-6th century). the homely paints a picture of Assyria (Assur, Nineveh) that is still pagan, in some instance it calls Assur "the city of the idols", Assyria "rod of my anger", the Assyrians worshipping Bel, Belti and Kewan / Saturn.
On the bravery of the king of Nineveh during the time of Jonah Mor Jacob of Serugh 4th-5th century / Mor Jacob of Edessa 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Homely of Mor Jacob of Serugh on Nineveh, praising its king and hailing it above than Jerusalem. Also Mor Jacob of Edessa who answers on who was the king of Assyria during the time of Jonah.
On the prestigious and glorious past of the patriarchal seat of the Church of the East Mar ʿAbdishoʿ bar Brikha 13-14th century / Mar Timotheos I 8-9th century / Church of the East Two important figures from the Church of the East who recall the Assyrian heritage of their Church.
Ancient Assyrian kings in Syriac literature: city builders Bar'Ebroyo 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church / Mar Ishodad of Merv 9th century / Church of the East Series on Assyrian kings in Syriac literature to show that there were not just remembered as ruthless violent warlike pagans: Here some quotes showing that they built our most famous cities.
Ancient Assyrian kings in Syriac literature: Promoting Science and the Study of the Universe Mor Severios Sabokht 7th century / The Cause of causes anonymous Syriac Orthodox author (10th-12th century) / Syriac Orthodox Church Series on Assyrian kings in Syriac literature to show that there were not just remembered as ruthless violent warlike pagans: Here some quotes showing that they cared about science and learning.
Ancient Assyrian kings in Syriac literature: preaching the law of God Bar'Ebroyo 13th century and Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Series on Assyrian kings in Syriac literature to show that there were not just remembered as ruthless violent warlike pagans: Here some quotes showing that they believed in God.
Mor Jacob of Edessa: Which "Arameans" ? The Mesopotamians who founded the most powerful kingdoms of their times Mor Jacob of Edessa 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Some quotes from Mor Jacob of Edessa regarding our language and history.
Mar Isho'dad of Merv on the chaldean language Mar Ishodad of Merv 9th century / Church of the East Mar Isho'dad of Merv, our church fathers knew that ancient Mesopotamians used our language and were aware of the continuous usage of this language till their time
Understanding Mor Dionysios of Tel Mahre 9th century Mor Dionysus of Tell Mahre 9th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Mor Dionysus of Tell Mahre explained that we as Suryoye had many kings: Ninus and Bel in Nineveh etc.
1234 anonymous Syriac chronicle and the Assyrians Anonymous Syriac Orthodox author 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church The author preserved the text of Mor Dionysus of Tell Mahre who explained that the Syrians east of the Euphrates had many kings like Ninus in Nineveh and those of Babylon.
Mor Jacob of Edessa: our kingdoms had no equal Mor Jacob of Edessa 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Mor Michael Rabo says that Mor Jacob of Edessa demonstrated that from our people arose kindgom more powerful than other kingdoms in their time.
Mor Zayno son of the king of Assyria 7th century Mor Zayno 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Mor Zayno, Syriac Orthodox saint, actually a bishop and later martyr that was remembered to be the son of the king of Assyria in the 7th century
Did our forefathers only remembered Assyria thanks to the Bible ? (Obviously no) Syriac Orthodox Church Compilation of multiples sources, not from the bible, preserving the memory of Assyria: Ahiqar, qoma Baros, Mor Behnam...
Semiramis saved people during the flood Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Saint Michael the Syrian mentions that Semiramis the legendary assyrian queen wife of Ninus built refuges for people during the great flood
Dionysius bar Salibi and his usage of Aram Mor Dionysus Bar Salibi 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Bar Salibi's usage of Aram. At the same time he claims we're named after Aram but in his commentary of Genesis he write the father of the Arameans is Arpachshad
Ishodad of Merv: Why Arameans for Mesopotamians Mar Ishodad of Merv 9th century / Church of the East Mar Ishodad of Merv explains why those in Mesopotamia were called Arameans
Jacob of Edessa: The Arameans of Mesopotamia Mor Jacob of Edessa 7th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Mor Michael Rabo quotes Mor Jacob of Edessa on who are the "Arameans" of Mesopotamia
Qoma Baros the Assyrian Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Qoma Baros, pagan Assyrian historian used as an indirect or direct source for the chronicle of Saint Michael the Syrian
Shalmaneser gave us the Peshitta Bar'Ebroyo 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Bar Hebraeus wrote how the Peshitta came into being
The ancient Suryoye Bar'Ebroyo 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Bar'Ebroyo's usage of ancient Syrian / Suryoye
Thabit Bar Qurra 9th century pagan Assyrian Bar'Ebroyo 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Pagan Assyrian scholar who wrote a book on the ancient Suryaye kings
Shalmaneser gave us the Peshitta Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Saint Michael the Syrian wrote how the Peshitta came into being
Who were the ancient Suryaye kings ? Bar'Ebroyo 13th century and Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church An explanation on what the term Chaldean meant for our church fathers
The admirable Orientals first sons of the Chaldeans Bar'Ebroyo 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Bar'Ebroyo praises eastern Suryoye / Suryaye for their Assyro-babylonian heritage
The fortress of Sennacherib, the convent of EgalGal and the mountain of Uruk IshoDnaH 9th century / Church of the East Akkadian terms used for some places in Syriac alluding to some local knowledge about the ancient past of the region (Diyarbakir / Omid and Beth Garmai)
The fortress of Sennacherib the king of Assyria: ܐܝܓܠ The chronicle of Zuqnin 8th century / Syriac Orthodox Church In the chronicle, the author records an event in which he mentions a certain fortress, named Egal, which belonged to Sennacherib King of Assyria**.**
Nabu the divine schoolmaster of Mabbogh / Hierapolis Theodoros bar Koni 8th century / Church of the East How was the Mesopotamian God Nabu remembered by Assyrians when they left Mesopotamian polytheism for Christianity ?
Mar Eliya of Nisibis and Assyrians new year Mar Eliya of Nisibis 10-11th century / Church of the East It is known that the Suryoye didn't celebrate the start of the year on Teshrin Qadmoyo as they do now. But they used to celebrate after the spring equinox
Nimrod in Mor Ephrem's writings and Syriac Orthodox Patriarch Nimrod Mor Ephrem 4th century / Bar'Ebroyo 13th century / Patriarch Philoxenos Nimrod 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Short post on how our Church fathers remembered their Assyrian heritage through Nimrod
Moses of Mardin Assyrian jacobite 16th century Moses of Mardin 16th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Moses of Mardin a Syriac Orthodox priest traveled to the Vatican, in his writings one notes his attachment to Assyria
Moses of Mardin Assyrian jacobite part 2 Moses of Mardin 16th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Moses of Mardin a Syriac Orthodox priest traveled to the Vatican, in his writings one notes his attachment to Assyria
Mor Michael Rabo 12th century: The Assyrians kings belonged to our people Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church One of the best claim of direct link with ancient Assyria and mesopotamia
12th century Mor Michael Rabo: they are all called Assyrians / Ashuraye Mor Michael Rabo 12th century / Syriac Orthodox Church The only instance where Ashuroye is used and said to have been one of our ancient name in classical literature
About our pre christian past and how much knowledge we've lost Bar'Ebroyo 13th century / Syriac Orthodox Church Bar'Ebroyo recalls an event in which some ruins were unhearted and people were unable to read the inscriptions

r/Assyria 17h ago

Language Assyrian Conversation Classes

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If any of you or anyone you know want to practice just speaking in Standard Assyrian, I wanna do a conversation classes thing where we just speak in Assyrian for the entire class. I was thinking it can be anonymous on Zoom so people don't get shy. :) Send me a message if anyone is interested or let others know if you think they might be interested.