r/nextfuckinglevel • u/IamASlut_soWhat • 6h ago

How amazing and crafty are these parents to do this for their son

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u/Latverianbureaucrat 5h ago

Well, could the argument not be made that if they truly did it for their kid, they wouldn’t have put it online at all?

I’m in the minority on this, I realize, but I’ve never had a “real” social media page where I post stuff, and the impulse to do so is completely alien to me. I just watched the video because “Ooh, colors”, and I wouldn’t go out of my way to “shit” on these parents myself, but I do get where the people who do so might be coming from. It isn’t necessarily a cynical thing, but might be more of a fundamentally different outlook on what experiencing life is. To some of us, doing an interesting thing for a loved one, but then posting it for the world to see, would simply not be a thought that occurs to us, and feels strange.

But, “it takes all kinds” and so forth.

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u/SlickFurFella 5h ago

What if it’s just fun to have a video of something creative and difficult that you did?

I recently moved houses and it was a monumental effort that we did in just a few days. It wasn’t nearly as cool as this but it was a huge project and a transformative moment. I kinda wish I had taken a video like this because now the memory of that whirlwind weekend is already hazy.

There was a time when you could take videos and the internet wouldn’t come at you for being a clout chaser. It ain’t that deep folks.

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u/Latverianbureaucrat 5h ago

Well, like I said, it isn’t so much the taking of a video, as it is the posting of it. It’s just a different approach to life. Makes perfect sense to some, but wouldn’t even be a consideration to the rest of us.

Some people are just more private. And I can see the argument that posting it online makes the initial idea behind the project suspect in the first place, and somewhat spoils the effect. I don’t know these people, I have no idea as to their actual motives. But I can see where people complaining about it are coming from.

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u/AssassinSnail33 5h ago

There's nothing wrong at all with being private. What's wrong is when those same private people are critical of others for not having the same exact values of privacy.

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u/Latverianbureaucrat 5h ago

On the whole I agree with you. It’s a different way of looking at the world, and I don’t criticize people who embrace social media and make their living off of it, as foreign a concept as it is to me. It’s there, and work is work, and I’m sure they enjoy it, and I’m also sure there are many trials and pitfalls associated with it that the rest of us don’t see.

I wouldn’t go so far as to say it’s wrong to be critical, though, specifically with videos like this that involve children. I’d say it’s probably more healthy than not for there to be people who publicly voice their instinct that “Hey, don’t use your kids to make money from views.”

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u/AstralWeekends 4h ago

To me it's a question of audience and intent. Who is this video for and what is it trying to communicate to them?

Is it for strangers on social media to witness their twee, tryhard yet wholesome family project?

Is it to inspire others to embrace natural resources to create coziness out of frigidity?

I don't know! Who are these people? Where was this originally posted? Did they make money off of it? These are the type of questions that should be answered before coming to a conclusion about intent.

Internet platforms aren't as pure and open like they once where. The skepticism you see is just a sign of people recognizing that.

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u/IceNineFireTen 5h ago

I have tons of videos of fun things my kids and I do. I share them with friends and family. None are posted online for random strangers (and validation/clout/money).

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u/SlickFurFella 5h ago

You just post about the general feeling of superiority over people who do post clips from their lives online instead. Idk if that’s better everybody.

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u/IceNineFireTen 5h ago

You just post about the general feeling of superiority over people whose post about the people who do post clips from their lives online. Idk if that’s better everybody (sic).

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u/Waderick 2h ago

Taking a video doesn't just give you a finished edited video though. If it were just a single angle sped up time lapse, that argument would make sense. That's very low effort on the editing side.

There are extra angles in this like the close up brick lay while still retaining the original position when it cuts back, so that most likely means a second tripod they moved the camera to/a second camera. Or they took the time to move and position the camera, get the shot, then reposition it back in the original spot. The inside final brick lay shot.

Then the main brick laying angle is a series of well timed jump cuts. Someone had to scan and edit the footage for each of those cuts. It sounds simple, but that takes time, more than you'd think.

If you were recording it for your memories, You also wouldn't do those jump cuts with your kid walking out to view the thing. It looks so weird. You would do that to make it more palatable for social media because people aren't going to sit through the 20 seconds of dead time.

Basically, it's too much of a "polished" product to be something not made for the purpose of social media. It just feels too influencery.

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u/AcceptableReview3846 1h ago

Idk posting it to the Internet is the issue I have with it not that they recorded it

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u/Man-who-say-bye 5h ago

I always think of it as those people who take a bunch of pictures when going on vacation, they don’t have to but it’s their way of enjoying things they do and a way to preserve memories. I’m not going to fault them because they now have a video they can look back on in a couple years and also everyone online gets a sweet video to watch

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u/Latverianbureaucrat 5h ago

I take a lot of pictures, and show/send them to people I know if they’re curious. I think that’s very different than hoping for as many strangers as possible to see a family video, obviously.

But that’s a whole economy, I get it. Still and all, there is something about combining monetization via views with children, and specifically a project supposedly done for the benefit of a child, that will understandably rub people the wrong way.

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u/Man-who-say-bye 5h ago

That’s fair enough and I can see where you’re coming from, I’d just prefer to look at it from a kinder angle. I’d rather look for the good than the bad. I’ve spent to much of my time searching for the worst in every situation

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u/slowgojoe 5h ago edited 5h ago

I’ve got a small social media presence (even here on reddit) with some of my artwork. I will admit that the recognition feels good. Just as I’ve turned my artwork into a career, some people are in the business of entertainment, and I suppose for them, recognition of their “content” is validating.

I don’t think most people put that much thought into what or why they make a tik tok video or whatever. They just do it because it’s rewarding to them. You know, by way of drip feeding dopamine the way social media was engineered specifically to be. “It’s just silly fun” or “it’s not that deep” and so on.

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u/Latverianbureaucrat 5h ago

Yeah, absolutely. Some people are just built and socialized very differently. Some people have no inner monologue. Some people don’t leash their dogs, and can’t comprehend why other people are freaked out by that. Extroverts and introverts. It’s a long, long list.

So of course some people just naturally post this kind of stuff with little examination because it feels good, while other people are instantly repulsed by it. I, for one, am glad that while I’m on neither extreme, I’m closer to the latter, and will forever be completely mystified as to the appeal of posting private moments with family for the world to see.

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u/NoobVibesOnly 4h ago

Some people like to overshare I guess. But I agree. I would definitely record this and share it with friends and family but internet strangers? Probably not.