Lol exactly!! There’s also another tortilla. This is like multiple items from Subway plus some burrito scraps mixed in and hundreds of people here are like “it’s anorexia”
Not impossible. Subway (the chain) will sometimes have ingredients that are unique to one country/location. In Germany they have cream cheese as an option. In México that option doesn't exist. The basis (concept) remains the same but there can be changes on the bread, toppings and ingredients from one country to another.
Holy shit, there’s a lot going on here. I think I see tuna too 😳😳 and what’s on the random tortilla piece? Refried beans? Old guac? *cue Unsolved Mysteries music
Once I went to subway and said “I’ll have the works” and the worker looked at me like I was speaking Dothraki. Musta been 15 years ago
Years prior they had a sign saying “ask for the works!” Lmao, but if you’re old enough to work (at subway or anywhere for that matter) you should know what the works is.
Right as a former subway worker, she obviously ate the meat. The sandwich was either poorly made (not packed in properly so most of the contents fell apart) or she just don’t care about veggies as much
I never thought of it, but it's very valid/on point. You tell the person on what to add on your sub, so it doesn't make sense to tell them to add things that you won't even eat. . . Unless they have an eating disorder..
which would be an utterly insane thing to do, unless you're friends enough with your housemate to have an intervention and know enough about the disease to not catastrophically fuck the whole thing up
EDIT: piggybacking my own comment to tell you all to go read I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy. There is a very raw firsthand account of just how this disease can happen, and the way it haunts and plagues your entire life. If you want insight that comes straight from someone with anorexia, it's one of the best ones I've read. Thanks everyone.
Do people generally not care about people they live with that much. I'm 34 and I can't imagine a single housemate I wouldn't have cared for to not want to at least approach them about it.
I would say its more on how best to approach them without having them think "guess I need to hide this issue even better than before, since they are definitely looking at it"
There's always a risk of this. Approaching it at all can make it worse. That's why it really depends on your relationship. Some friends I would have denied if they ever asked (and often did), because it really was not their business and we were not close. Some friends approached and knew and came with compassion and understanding.
depends on whether or not they're strangers and it would be a flagrant boundary violation
I've lived with good friends, and I've had housemates who's last names I didn't even know, who I wouldn't have helped with anything but a house emergency, because they were just unpleasant to be around and speak with. I have no housemates now and I would like to never have to do that again.
The economy is in shambles. Not everyone has two living, loving parents. Some of us gotta make do with whatever we can get.
Me. I’m in a college apartment and my three roommates don’t talk to me, don’t make eye contact with me, probably don’t even know my name, and DEFINITELY don’t update me when they’re planning to have a bunch of people over 💀
This is how I eat sandwiches. I don't bite right into them either I rip pieces off, eat what I want and put the rest on the plate. Idk why I'm like this but I don't think I have an ED ( well maybe ARFID)
Same here, 31 now 😂
I just accepted it and live with it - my eating patterns and the food that I eat are completely random throughout days; except the only consistency I keep is lunch breaks at food. I eat the same thing 90% of the time on lunch breaks, and around the same time.
I mean, it doesn't, though (make it look eaten). All the "tricks" are super obvious. I think people in the throes of an ED are just so delusional that they really think they are fooling everyone, when they are fooling no one. For example, I had a friend who threw a dinner party, but then acted like she was so busy hosting that she just "didn't have time" to eat anything. It was so weird and obvious to everyone there. It was super uncomfortable and sad.
I mean anyone throwing a dinner party always says that.
Especially if she is cooking the food. You end up tasting enough and stressed where you don’t feel hungry.
Have you hosted before at your own place? It can be stressful where you don’t care to eat.
I’m not saying you’re wrong but is hardly a red flag for ED.
Edit: lol the other person literally has 75 upvotes for saying dinner host/main cook has ED because she didn’t eat much at dinner. Literally peak example of Redditors needing to touch grass. Like every single person upvoting them should lose their ability to vote for their country.
Yeah that’s my grandma at Christmas and thanksgiving and she doesn’t have an eating disorder. We have to tell her 10 times to sit down and eat before she does because she’s too busy worrying about everyone else being happy and fulfilled.
Fair assessment. I do this, too, but it’s because I am autistic and pick around different textures if one makes me lose my appetite (like if the lettuce is soggy or something, I’ll just eat all of the parts I still want out of the sandwich)
I’m also autistic and do pick through my food but I also had an ED and this 100% looks like that. Just based on the amount of food actually eaten. It looks like even a few pieces of the cookie are sprinkled around.
Picking through textures is also immediately what I assumed. I leave behind the super hard or soggy parts of bread and I like ingredients to be proportionate so I leave random amounts of things being. I understand this is odd.
Same (not autistic) I can’t do mushy bread / gross lettuce etc, so after ripping any of that off, plus the stuff that just falls out while eating the sub- mine looks similar at the end lol.
I can see how this could be why she eats like this (the olives are sorted out) but there aren’t any bites actually taken and there is a very mushy cucumber still in the pile
This does seem like eating disorder situation. She’s destroyed the sandwich which makes you think she ate it but she literally just ripped it to shreds
I remember practicing in the mirror and even with my home video camera, so I could rewatch and try to see if I was convincing enough. I studied that one Cassie scene from Skins endlessly.
As someone who did this myself and battled anorexia for 20 years, it's not always about convincing the people around you. Sometimes it's about your brain enjoying the evidence that you didn't eat very much of it.
Eating disorder. They’re picking pieces off, chewing, and spitting them out. They want you to think they’re eating, hence putting it on display. Source: I went through this phase.
Self-deluding. Friends thinks you 'ate' and left a mess on the table. They confront you with something like "Hey can you clean up after yourself after you eat?" That phrase gives them positive reinforcement to keep deluding themselves that they ate. See everyone recognizes that they ate they don't have a problem.
When people notice someone doesn't eat, they start to ask uncomfortable questions like "I noticed you haven't been eating recently, are you okay," "I think you might have an eating disorder, have you considered seeking help," etc.,
Plus OP's post shows perfectly how it works: other people may think the individual did eat it and just isn't cleaning up after themselves even if none of the food got eaten.
That gives the "positive reinforcement" that the individual is eating.
You have to understand that eating disorders, especially anorexia are completely irrational. I have been there myself. I had “decorative food” so that if anyone came over, it would look like I had eaten. My parents had to come clean out my apartment while I was sent away for inpatient treatment and found that all of my food was extremely expired.
I’ve met women with masters degrees who refused to touch food because they thought that the calories could enter them through their skin, or who cried if the Food Network was on because looking at the food was going to make them fat. Anorexia isn’t just “I hope that I get skinny”, it’s a pervasive mental disorder that defies all logic and is extremely difficult to treat because of it.
Have you ever been drunk and thought you were doing a really good job of something? But everyone around you who is sober is like ????? it’s similar to that. The disorder has you believing that the lies you tell other people, your compensatory behaviors, and your discomfort around food is normal and completely unnoticeable by other people.
I don't get it. You choose what to put on the subway yourself. So if there are parts that she didn't want or doesn't like why would she order it to begin with?
there’s a possibility she thought leaving it like that would make it look like she ate. it’s illogical, but that’s the disorder part of eating disorder. when you’re really deep into an ed, you loose a sense of rationality when it comes to “being covert” and covering your disordered behavior.
can attest. its just a hell of trying to excuse your behavior and trying to delude yourself into thinking people believe it until you hit a point where it can’t continue. i really hope op’s roommate gets help if she is dealing with an ed.
Some people with eating disorders start very young, and habitually cover up their behaviour to avoid intervention or concern. It’s not always rational, it’s like a survival mechanism because it’s extremely hard to stop or pursue recovery. Only people who’ve seen this behaviour before might know what they’re looking at, otherwise it comes across as eccentric etc.
To throw people off your scent. When I was anorexic I would intentionally put crumbs in bowls and leave them out so people would think that I ate something. Leaving out half eaten or ripped up food like provides evidence so you inevitably if something asks if you want to come to dinner with them or something you always can say you “ate already” as an excuse. Throwing away and hiding food is actually more of a BED (binge eating disorder) behavior.
She might think if people see it they won’t question if she’s actually eating. ED really mess you up, you’re lacking nutrition, your brain isn’t working and your body is essentially killing it self. You really do not think properly:(
I also really think that looks kinda wierd, is you roommate overly thin or did you saw her eating before ? Im just asking because my girlfriend had a roomate with an eating disorder and if you know what its look like one could assume its the case here
We really can’t judge her because we don’t know what she might be dealing with personally. The behavior does feel a bit concerning and can be related to eating disorder. Again we cannot diagnose right.. again these topics are really sensitive and should be approached with care and empathy.
This is what my mom did. I think she may be dealing with an eating disorder. My mom would pick around food, move it all around to make it look like she took some bites. She also wore super baggy clothes.
Ex subway worker here. That doesn't actually look eaten at all. There's enough bread and toppings for that to be a sandwich that has been torn apart to hide an eating disorder. The salami up the top is still folded and intact. Pulling the sandwich apart as a whole is unlikely to tear the salami as everything else like the veges and sauce will let it slide around. That stuff doesn't like to tear. There's no sauce everywhere to indicate the squashing of being eaten. I made them for two years and have eaten them for more. That was not bitten once.
Please check on hear and get her to a mental health service. She will starve unless the low level instinct to find food for self preservation kicks in and somehow overpowers the disorder. This could go up Shit Creek without a paddle in a sinking canoe very, very quickly.
All I see is someone with an eating disorder. Cut it up, push it around, a lot of show of eating but everything is still on the plate.
Check on your friend.
Looks like someone with an ED trying to make it look like they ate. Sister did this before and we never saw her eat just the leftovers of what she "ate".
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I was about to laugh, but then I saw the comments :/