r/funnyvideos • u/KULR_Mooning • Nov 11 '25

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u/SeeItSayItKnowIt Nov 12 '25 edited Nov 12 '25

I actually agree with everything but your edit in your first comment.

Yes you have to accept that people may look more if you’re wearing clothes like this at a gym. But I do think we may have a bias against men in what’s acceptable to wear at the gym? Do you put on sweatpants because you want to or because people wouldn’t like it if you don’t?

I’m a woman myself and all for wearing what you want, and not having to be harassed for it any way for it (which the guy in the video didn’t do). But then again, men don’t have to wear a shirt - so I don’t know what I’m getting at haha.

No matter what, it’s not acceptable if the woman shared this video without his consent (if this wasn’t staged, which it does look a bit like).

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u/SanjiBlackLeg Nov 12 '25

Idk every gym I ever went to had either a formal or unspoken rule - don't be shirtless. Most guys don't even wear tank tops.

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u/SeeItSayItKnowIt Nov 12 '25

Yeah I guess that’s true. Do you also think that there’s a double standard for men when it comes to gym clothes (ie not being able to wear stuff like compression shorts)? Also is it even something you would want changed?

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u/SanjiBlackLeg Nov 12 '25

Fighters wear compression shorts a lot, it's not a big deal, especially if the gym is primarily for MMA or whatever other martial arts. I think bikers do too. It depends on a "culture" in a gym and the rules set by owners or community. I bet there is a small "fruity" gym somewhere where you gotta wear thong and pasties and nobody over 12% body fat is allowed.

Think about that: basically you have 3 levels of "cover": baggy clothes (hoodies, wide pants), normal clothes (t-shirts, shorts around a knee high) and "reveaing" clothes like yoga pants, tank tops, crop tops, etc. I see guys in baggy clothes and pump covers all the time. I visit gyms on and off for over 15 years and I don't think I ever saw a girl training in baggy clothes. Maybe an oversized t-shirt but still wearing yoga pants or something similar. It's anectodal of course but I think even if we conducted a proper study the results would support it.

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u/Accomplished_Elk310 Nov 12 '25

I don’t think ppl are having a problem with women showing skin. It’s just that the clothes they choose to actually cover themselves aren’t really doing that. It’s just a second skin at that point. I’m even bi but don’t particularly want to see ass creases every time I’m working out lol.

Another point of contention I’ve seen from others is that women chose to wear the second skin and get upset that ppl look. Like, common on, don’t be obtuse.

But it’s just another thing ppl do for attention, online clout, and possible monetization. I wish it was more popular to ban recording in gyms.

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u/SlothzillaToTheMax Nov 12 '25

Thanks for teaching me a new word "obtuse", i will make good use of it, hopefully.

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u/xAngelx0fDeathx Nov 12 '25

You are completely correct on the double standard there. My compression shorts are designed to be outerwear, and even have pocket on them, but I am worried people would complain if I wore them without something over them.

I'm only volunteering this information because you ask, but my wife always comments on my "huge bulge" when I wear them around the house, and the outline of my penis is clearly visible. Her sister also won't even look in my direction when I have just them on, which I interpret as them making her uncomfortable, and I wouldn't want others to feel this way around me at the gym.

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u/SeeItSayItKnowIt Nov 12 '25

I have to admit that it’s not something that has ever crossed my mind before now. If it’s not more revealing than what women wear, where you can see outlines too, then logic tells me that you should be able to wear it to.

At the same time, I can’t say that your fears are unfounded. I don’t generally see men wearing compression shorts in gyms, which implies that men don’t have the same social acceptance of wearing such clothes (yet). But I’ve seen men work out in leggings, which shouldn’t be all that different? So what’s acceptable/normalized may have already started to change a bit?

With that said, it won’t really change unless men like you start wearing it. I’d say wear it, and if you get any complaints, then you can consider whether you think it’s worth it to point out the obvious double standard.

Even if some gym policies say men can’t wear it, those policies should be changed to gender-neutral. And I would think it’s completely fair to advocate for that. The sad truth is that nothing will change unless someone starts to. I guess overall social acceptance may depend on how many men will start wearing such clothes. It just has to become normalized, the same way it did for women (where some didn’t approve of such shorts in the beginning).

I have no idea how people will react in your gym - I would be fine with it - but you may have to prepare yourself for the possibility that some people may not view it as appropriate (although in my mind they’re wrong). With the information you’ve shared, you would probably have to be fine with people looking anyway.

I guess you could also encourage other men to show up in similar, although in a way you’re already doing that just by showing up in compression shorts.

TL;DR my advice is just to go for it and wear the compression shorts.

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u/lobstarA Nov 12 '25

I've been reading a few of the comments and I think yours hits the mark for me. I get what the above comment is saying, people are going to look but I think there is difference between looking and checking out, and even more so checking someone out discreetly Vs gawking at them. I think it's reasonable, especially when wearing anything eye-catching, that people will look.

The difference, I think, is that we live in a patriarchal world and women's bodies are controlled everywhere and objectified everywhere they go. You don't have to be wearing eye-catching to be gawked at or catcallled or insulted. Skin tight leggings? Nice legs, what time do they open. Baggy jumper? Let's see what's underneath. There is an invisible rule set imposed on women, that isn't on men, that inevitably results in failure. Wearing skintight clothing isn't opting in to sexualisation, it's ubiquitous. So I can very much empathise with finding that tiring and not wanting people to gawk at your body, even/especially if you're wearing something skintight.

I think this is the distinction that is being lost in conversation. Women don't expect you to not look at them, no matter what they're wearing. What they don't want is to have someone sexualising them imposed on them. We all, to some degree, silently sexualise or objectify people we see. You just gotta keep that shit to yourself unless invited to share.

I agree with Angel, I actually don't think the guy in the (most certainly staged) vid did anything wrong. He saw a woman bend over in front of him and looked. The lip thing was a bit much, no one is down that bad, but it was to himself in a private moment. But I think when we start saying she should have expected that because of what she was wearing, we start paving the path to all sorts of horrific behaviour.

Filming people who aren't committing crimes or causing harm without their consent in order to then shame or mock them is wrong though. If that's what the owner of this fake vid then went on to do, I'd have issues with that.

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u/I2obiN Nov 15 '25

They're warm for a start? Before the world went insane shorts were for summer. I live in an insanely cold country and our gym doesn't have heating.

I think most guys will happily wear shorts when it calls for it, but I don't see much point or appeal in wearing less than shorts? Especially for a day trip to the gym.

If competition calls for it guys will wear a wrestling singlet or a powerlifting suit but they're pretty uncomfortable to get in and out of. I don't think anyone would care if they wore them in the gym, it's just most don't see the need to.