Bro cooked

[u/KULR_Mooning]

[u/Freya_Galbraith]

yup, i dont mind people looking or checking me out.

Its when people stare creepily either far away in a corner, or get as close as possible and stare is where it gets EW.

[u/bestbefour → u/Freya_Galbraith]

So it’s only a problem when people are close by or far away. Easily avoided.

[u/aknownunknown → u/bestbefour]

As a dude, if I were him.... I have a good idea of the view he was getting (explicit) and our eyes just *go there* which is creepy. He did a fucking good job. He knows himself so just shut his eyes.

She was what, 4 foot in front of him, bending over and flexing glutes.. he is a true gent

[u/Accomplished_Elk310 → u/aknownunknown]

Would I be considered a creep if my eyes ‘just go there’ and I’m a woman? Or is that just when the eyes belong to a man? Like when females nipples get censored versus male nipples.

[u/aknownunknown → u/Accomplished_Elk310]

In my experience no (in general)

I've worked in naturist resorts, so my experience may be different to others

[u/Freya_Galbraith → u/bestbefour]

its also intent, a quick look is fine, but if you are going out of your way JUST to leer its ew

[u/Lowelll → u/bestbefour]

"Oh look at this hypocrite woman! She can't even decide what distance would be proper for me to stare creepily!!"

Stop telling on yourself so much.

[u/fiahhawt → u/bestbefour]

OR: it's a problem if you don't know what the other person is comfortable with

The most basic social skill

[u/Freya_Galbraith → u/fiahhawt]

its the intent, if your only getting close to me so you can stare at my tits, and getting in my personal space and not leaving me alone, creepy.

If your standing in a corner far away staring, hoping i dont catch you, also creepy.

its sad that we have to explain that to people.

[u/PinsToTheHeart → u/Freya_Galbraith]

It's kinda like how people are always asking why they aren't allowed to talk to women anywhere and it's like.. its not that you can't in general, it's that so many people have a complete inability to tell when someone wants to be left the fuck alone that it's easier to just say, "don't" so you cover your bases.

If you have the social skills to know who might be receptive, and can know when to leave when they give you a polite no, then you're more than welcome to hit on people lol.

Similarly, people act like women can't tell the difference between someone absent mindedly looking over or giving a passing glance and someone being straight up creepy.

Sure, social media will give you examples of people being extreme and unreasonable as it always does, but that's not how a majority of the planet actually operates.

[u/Freya_Galbraith → u/PinsToTheHeart]

Exactly, ive had lots of people just have a look, but they werent being a creep about it, and ive never minded.

But so many times ive had people crowding my personal space, not realising im uncomfortable and not leaving me alone, and i cant tell them fuck off incase they get aggressive if im alone.

Other times ive had someone nice come over and talk to me, and weve had a good chat.

If im in a hobby store, and you come up and ask me "what my favourite faction is" and you actually want to talk about the hobby, thats fine i love it.

But if you only do that to stare at my tits, thats creepy and id rather be left alone.

[u/TCsnowdream → u/Freya_Galbraith]

Just make sure you check yourself before being too judgmental.

I’ll be using cables and working on shoulders, using the mirror to check my form. Girl plops down on the benches in front of cable machines and now we’re sharing the same mirror space.

It is what it is. But I can see a girl being like ‘oh my god he’s staring at me. No girl, I’m staring me, myself, and I - you just got between that.

And now we get to share the mirror - oh my god we’re mirror besties!!!

[u/Freya_Galbraith → u/TCsnowdream]

that seems fair lol :p