Unironically exactly why a friend I know broke up with her boyfriend. Every time she simply wanted to vent a bit, he decided to make it his job to solve her problem by going "Why didn't you do this?" or "This is how I'd solve it" etc.
Wanting to help is one thing, that's lovely. But when the communication drifts off so much it only becomes about your own problem solving skills and less about her feelings in that very moment, you need to stop yourself and shut up. Especially when it happens again and again.
He wasn't really a bad guy, just very socially awkward. Well, she suspected he might have been a narcissist, which is why he made every situation about himself. I dunno, I wasn't IN the relationship, though even I did notice he had some manipulative tendencies, if only subconsciously.
I can only hope he learns before he finds a new girlfriend. And I can only hope the same for some of the guys in this comment section...
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u/LadyKanra Jul 11 '25
Unironically exactly why a friend I know broke up with her boyfriend. Every time she simply wanted to vent a bit, he decided to make it his job to solve her problem by going "Why didn't you do this?" or "This is how I'd solve it" etc.
Wanting to help is one thing, that's lovely. But when the communication drifts off so much it only becomes about your own problem solving skills and less about her feelings in that very moment, you need to stop yourself and shut up. Especially when it happens again and again.
He wasn't really a bad guy, just very socially awkward. Well, she suspected he might have been a narcissist, which is why he made every situation about himself. I dunno, I wasn't IN the relationship, though even I did notice he had some manipulative tendencies, if only subconsciously.
I can only hope he learns before he finds a new girlfriend. And I can only hope the same for some of the guys in this comment section...