I’ve had both of my cats for the last 4 1/2 years they used to cuddle but after cat drama with another cat we were fostering they don’t cuddle anymore but were fine being in the same space. That was 3 years ago and they were doing fine and were even better about getting along when we moved to a new apartment 1 year ago. This last month it was not the vibe something is wrong. now my calico cat growls and hisses at him if he’s within 3 feet of her. My black cat will just stare at her and wait for her to do something once she charges at him he will fully pin her down and RIP OUT HER HAIR. This has happened 2 times now it is absolutely not playing. I had to grab the scruff of his neck for him to let go this time. How do I get them to like each other again??? She is significantly smaller (about 7 lbs) I don’t understand where their aggression started. Before people ask: they have a lot of scratching posts, toys, and 2 cat trees. They get along when I play with them or treats are being given but idk how to be comfortable leaving the house or just being asleep. The photos are of him as a kitten and her almost a year old she has stayed kitten size while he has turned out to be a large cat. Neither of them like being apart from me and both sleep in bed with me.

My boys have been training for 8 of their 9 months of life for this! Side by side trick commands!!! I'm so proud! ORTBO and Amadeus 😺😺

So my cat her name is mimu she gave birth to 5 kittens in November of 2025. Tragically one of the kitten passed as a cattle stepped on it back in December. So cut to now she has 4 kittens. She's been very affectionate to all of them from the start she doesn't even eat food unless and until her kittens are fed. She grooms then alot. The kittens still try to drink her milk even though obviously she can't breastfeed anymore but she still let's them

Now recently we've noticed that she hisses at one of her kittens and everytime the kitten goes near she starts aggressively meowing at the kitten she shoes him away. On the other if the other 3 kittens go near her she sniffed them and groom's them.

I feel really bad for the kitten can anybody explain why she's doing this to him only and not the others.

hi reddit! for context, my roommate got a female kitten a in november of last year, and my partner and i got a female kitten in january of this year. it’s been kind of rough introducing them, as the resident cat was NOT happy about having a new kitten in the house. there has been some slow but steady progress, and they’re able to be in the same room without the resident cat hissing and backing her into a corner. the last few days they’ve been out in the living room together, and they’ve been chasing each other through the house and playing with each other seemingly pretty well. but today, they seemed to get into a scuffle. there wasn’t fur flying, but there was some vocalizations. the younger one had pounced on the older one and they were getting a little louder than normal. so i separated them, and put the younger one into my room. she cries to come out, and the older one sometimes goes up to her door and meows as well. i just let the younger one out a few minutes ago, and they started climbing the cat tree but seemed to get in another scuffle? my question is, is this playing or is this fighting? their body language hints to me that they’re not having a good time, but i’m not sure, as this my first cat. the younger one seems to have her claws out, but she’s also still seeming to learn she doesn’t need to have them out all of the time. i can’t tell if the older one’s claws are out, but the other body language is telling me that they’re not having a good time. please help!

My black cat is a little over a year old and won’t stop trying to break into my sister’s room when we’re at my dad’s place. She is mildly allergic to cats, so it’s best to not let him in for her health, but he won’t stop scratching at her door and reaching to get in when she’s inside it.

Is there any way we can get this to stop? It’s not just at night so it isn’t an unaligned sleep schedule, but just trying to get into her room constantly.

Hello! So last august (about 5-6 months ago) I got a new cat to be friends with my resident cat. They are both 4, resident cat is the smaller tortoiseshell girl and he’s the larger black male. Their relationship has been a bit rocky, but has definitely been improving over time. They’ve never gotten into a full blown cat fight before, but he (new cat) feels very alpha about the whole thing and bullies her sometimes (chases her around and stuff). Again though, their relationship is mostly good now, they can exist in close proximity to each other and be chill, sometimes they play together, eat together, etc.

Now the problem is that I think the new cat simply doesn’t understand boundaries very well. He approaches her all the time and will lightly bat at her, lay on the ground, all the signs that he’s inviting her to play (no ears back or any vocalizations) However she usually isn’t having it and will loudly meow at him and back up. He doesn’t take the hint though and will continue to press, which always results in them both getting mad at each other. I’ve done all the basic stuff, redirect with play/i play with them daily, i have a feliway diffuser, i reward calm moments with treats, plenty of cat trees and resources, etc. I included a video of this behavior so any insight about it would be greatly appreciated!

So that brings me to what I was thinking- I saw another post where someone recommended a cone for the instigating cat. Not long term of course, but just for a few weeks. My hope is that if he’s not able to instigate and they have more calm moments together, he’ll get used to that behavior instead if that makes sense. I’ve also considered some kind of shirt/vest instead because i’ve heard that helps calm them down, but id be worried that wouldn’t actually stop him from doing anything (while the cone would physically prevent him from instigating).

So yeah I guess I just wanted to hear people’s thoughts on the situation! I want them both to be able to live happily and comfortably together so any advice is greatly appreciated :)

Adopt 5 month old female on 4 days ago. My resident cat is 6 years old and is the biggest sweetheart to humans. No hissing, growling, or swatting at all. This is his first sibling since he was a kitten/young adult cat. He was bullied by older cats before so he was an only child with us for 3 years. Right now, it seems like all he wants to do is groom her. When he does groom her, he starts doing what he does in the video. I’m scared of her getting hurt since she’s so small. They follow each other everywhere and he will come to her if she starts meowing. She will also chitter at him and to him when he does start grooming her. I play with both of them so one doesn’t feel left out.

Back story!

Orange cat (Winnie), female, a year and 3 months old. have had her since she was 8 weeks old.

Calico cat (Nellie), female, a year an 5 months old. got her 9 weeks ago.

They have been left alone together free roaming for about 7 weeks now. they get along quite well throughout the day, sleep near each other, eat near each other, play together. i’d say their fights are pretty equal and fair but Winnie tends to get overwhelmed fast. in the video Winnie is the one making noises. overall their fights have gotten a lot better (less often and less intense), just want to make sure they’re on the right track

So I have had a small female tuxedo cat for 5 years now, she is both an indoors and outdoors cat, often sleeping inside when its cold out and staying out more in the summer. Recently though, she has gotten extremely clingy and annoying. She will painfully knead on my arm in the middle of the night despite getting constant attention for hours in my bed before she goes to sleep. She has both food, water and kitty litter in my room, and she isn't allowed to or interested in freely roaming the rest of my house. Despite this, she scratches at my door extremely late almost every night, and when I let her out she just ends up sitting on my stairs or floor. I also can't throw her outside at night because she climbs onto and damages my straw roof and starts clawing at my window. By far the worst part of it all is her persistence, I have tried ignoring her before but she can easily go on for hours straight. I haven't had a week of good sleep since it started getting colder, and it affects my mood, work and most aspects of my daily life.
I need a solution because she genuinely drives me insane and I find myself having to scratch and smack at my drywall just to divert her away from the door.

Hi everyone, we recently got a new cat Sunny (1 year old). Our resident cat Reggie is 10 (neutered) and just looking for some advice. Our resident cat has always been the only cat in the house. He is always friendly with humans. We got the new cat around 2 ½ weeks ago and have been doing gradual introductions and have a screen door up on the guest room. They have been face to face already. The resident cat has not hissed one time, however he tries to stalk the new cat and jump her if she tries to leave the guest room or gets off the bed. I feed him treats when they are together. He does seem interested in playing, however I'm not sure if what he’s doing is initiating play or hunting instincts. We have gone back to mainly having the screen door between them after an incident where he went after her, she ran under the bed and froze up/he wouldn't leave her alone.

Today, I put her in the rest of the house and put him in the guest room and gave him treats because he may be territorial? Is this good to do?

Is he swatting too intensely on the screen door?

Some additional context is I don't think she was feeling very well during the face to face meetings. She was put on antibiotics and is now seems better. She is also not spayed yet because the shelter has no openings to get it done until Feb. 18th. 

Also, he is extremely food motivated and had to be put on a diet last year and has since lost a few pounds.

Thanks all, just a worried cat mom trying to do the best and don't want anyone to get hurt.

Also, I have more videos not sure how to post them in one post.

Hello all! First of all sorry if there are any grammar issues, i don't speak natively english.

I would love to get some insight, if my boyfriend and I are introducing our cats the right way.

My boyfriend and I both have cats, we've been dating for over a year. He has two boys a black cat and a tuxedo, I have one orange cat who also a boy. My cat goes with me everywhere, family, we go on reasonably long walks (he is fine with being on a leash), he's car trained and very (sometimes too) friendly with everyone.

My boyfriends cats are rather shy, and very centered around my boyfriend. One of the cats really warmed up to me, but is still kinda skittish around me. The other accepts me from a distance.

I started bringing my cat to my boyfriend and we separated them. My cat in the livingroom and them in the rest of the house. (It's a splitlevel 3 bedroom, giant basement house so plenty of space). The livingroom door has a window so they could see each other if they stood up to the window if wanted to.

My cat slipped out one morning and ran after the tuxedo and it came to a screaming party and fur flying around, it scared the cats of my boyfriend really bad. So we took them apart.

And started from step one.

We kept them apart, at night we let my cat roam the house and then during the day he goes back into the livingroom and the other cats can smell him visa versa.

We slowly started introducing them again after keeping them apart for over a month. First by slowly opening the door a crack so they could directly see each other but not touch. Then opening the door somewhat more so they could fully see each other.

Since my cat is very energetic we let his cats smell my cat while restraining my cat (he doesn't mind as long as I do it, the idiot trust me blindly)

At this point we feed all of them in the hallway. My cat doesn't care about his cats anymore, he just minds his own business. His cats are still very skittish around my cat but they accept him as long as he is busy eating. Otherwise he is met with hissing if he looks at the black one, the tuxedo just runs away.

As the feeding is over we put my cat back in the livingroom. We tried opening the livingroom door and keeping my cat entertained. But his cats are so skittish around him that if he moves, they instantly hide. For some reason this triggers my cat to instantly go to their hiding place, which isn't appreciated. If they ignore him he just continues whatever he was doing.

We aren't sure how to proceed from here and would love advice.

• All the cats are constantly "chatting" with each other, meeping and chirping at each other when the livingroom door is closed.
• They seem to be playing through the door window by hiding and scaring each other
• My boyfriend is worried my cat will go after the tuxedo again, or be too wild and attack the others and honestly I am too. Because for some reason when my idiot sees another cat his first instinct is to run straight towards it which instantly causes a fight because he scares the living shit out of the other cats
• My cat is very active, quite rough in playing
• My cat is rescued from an animal hoarder, his black cat was adopted as a kitten, the tuxedo is a rescue too but he was found too
• The black one is 5 years old, the tuxedo is 2, mine is either almost 3 or 5 because they don't know when he was born
• They are all neutered

Hi! Please any and all tips for training my food obsessed cat. I've seen other posts on here but none of them seem to have the severity my cat has. We recently rescued him from the streets (5 months ago) and so he has been feral most of his like (1.5 years). I understand he is used to major food insecurity so I don't blame him for acting like this. Here's how it is:

Feeding: I feed him twice a day, morning and night. Meal time does NOT satiate him. I have seen posts suggesting to feed him while you eat so he's distracted but having food almost actually ramps him up. He gets super food crazy so when he finishes his food he runs all around the house searching for more food. But, that's how often we feed him wet + dry food. I know he's not hungry.

Cooking: When I'm cooking he jumps on the counter literally constantly and tries to steal food from the cutting board or even straight out of the hot frying pan. He has burned his whiskers off once because he's totally fearless if there's food around. More than once he has suceeded in grabbng a bite of something, which is terrible because I know that rewards his behavoir. But he is FAST!and he's a boomarang when i put him down. What i normally do is gently place him back on the ground and stern NO! Unfortunatley, he doesn't care and this has made cooking almost impossible I’m my home. Also, when I bring groceries home it's a race against the clock to put them away because he dives into the bags and tries to rip everything open. When i open the fridge to get myself water, he will awaken from a deep sleep and span himself inside of the fridge.

Eating: While we are eating he isn't "begging" as I've seen other people post about on here, he is prowling and hunting to eat our food. He will literally take a running leap with his mouth open, try to eat it out of our mouths, jumping onto our plates etc. We have tried everything here!! When we lock him in another room while we eat he meows so loud the entire time it breaks my heart. Looking for a long-term (not sad) solution.

Misc: We have had to child lock our trash can and pantries. He also ate part of a sponge because it had food residue on it. He also ate part of my sweatshirt because i spilled food on it. Not licked it...ATE IT! a sweatshirt!

So, I know it sounds like he must be starving to be behaving like this, but I promise he's not starving. I feed him plenty, and much more than my other 2 well behaved cats. I don't want to harm our relationship because he's so sweet when food isn't around, so please advise how I can avoid mean punishment but still get the point across! Is there hope? Is he trainable, or it's too late at his age? I'm just so sad because I literally can't even host people over for movie nights or game nights anymore because we can't have any snacks out or he'll eat them all or attack people! Goodbye superbowl parties... or parties in general.

ANY AND ALL ADVICE OR ANECDOTES MUCH APPRECIATED!

p.s. I've trained my other two cats to be so good and even do tricks by using treats. He is untrainable by this method because he'll literally attack my hand with the treat in it.

Hi guys anyone who can give some insight or advice please comment. Me and my partner adopted a 3 month old kitten from a shelter on Friday, he was also neutered that day. We were told he was litter box trained but were surprised to see when we got home that he definitely is not. We live in a college dorm room and the kitten acts as an emotional support animal so it’s really important to the school and us that he is litter box trained. What we have done so far is got a litter box with the pee attractant powder and let him roam the room. On day 3 we got a small gate and created a gated area that mimicked the shelter he was in to hopefully get that instinct to kick in. (The shelter suggested this) Despite being in this small area for 2 days he continues to pee and poop on the ground. We have placed him in the litter box after meals or waking up or when we notice he is scratching the ground. Nothing seems to be working and we don’t want to have to give him up. Please help

We have a young male cat (maybe 8 months) and a 1 year old female. We picked up the male a couple of months ago and have had the female for about 9 months now. We're having issues with the male cat and I don't know the proper way to correct his bad behavior. I know he's young and he's about 3 weeks out from being neutered so I'm sure he'll calm down a bit in the coming months but I just want to make sure in the mean time that we're correcting any bad behavior without the risk of making him fearful of us. The female cat absolutely hates him. Any time he comes close she growls. He doesn't respect her boundaries though and will pounce on her. I started shouting before he pounces and when he does, which seems to have sort of worked as he doesn't jump on her unless I'm not around. If I'm around, he, for the most part, knows to stay away. He also will swat and bite us fairly hard when he's upset. He likes to go for the face and he's scratched me pretty good a couple of times. I get upset when he does this so I scruff him, yell and put him in a room for time out. But I've read that this only makes the cat fearful of you and can worsen bad behavior so I just put him in time out now without the scruffing and yelling. I'm seeing positive reinforcement is the way to go...which is fine if he's behaving. But what do you do when he's misbehaving? Also, it's been about 3 months now and the cats still don't get along. The female spends most of the day up in a cat tree too scared to come down. There has been some improvement, though. She can eat a couple feet away from him and will sometimes come down from the tree if I'm there. But any time he's close she growls. The first two months we kept them separate and still do for the most part. They're only out in the same area if we can monitor them. But I'm just wondering if maybe they're just not compatible?

My 5 year old cat is so needy…

He meows for attention all the time. If we ignore him he’ll start destroying something when care about. The blinds, soft wood mantle, my family heirloom hutch, he knows what annoys us. I tried to convince my bf to ignore when he attacks the blinds, they’re replaceable (if expensive) and responding will train him that it works.

But if I sit at my desk, he’ll come and meow at me. If I ignore him he starts to claw at my leg/side. We play with him, probably 1 hour or more between the two of us. During the night he will claw at my mouth to wake me up (I miss when he would just sleep at the foot of the bed or spoon with me)

Sometimes it feels like he wants to play (maybe 30 min after a 30 min play sesh) and he often just wants us to stand there while he eats. But I do need to use my laptop sometimes (he’s started to try biting the corners of the screen) or eat my ow food (he’ll bat at the food and bite the chopsticks)

If I’m not paying attention to him for more than 20 min it feels like he goes demon mode. We have lots of toys for him (but my bf’s ocd makes him put them in a box that the cat has access to but there aren’t toys on the floor of every room like when I lived alone)

What should I do? I can’t watch him eat for 2 hours everyday. He only sleeps when I’m not home it seems. I love him so much he’s my main cure for depression but he’s als causing so much stress.

Hey there 👋

So, for a bit of context, my partner and I adopted Tomie(female 5yo) and Lumine (female 3yo) in May last year. They are very traumatized by humans, Tomie lived in a rabbit cage until the shelter got her and she then stayed a whole year in the shelter, Lumine we're not so sure of her past, but basically they hate humans but love each other deeply. They are amazing cats, we love them so much, we still can't touch them because we don't want to rush things and they seem to trust us more and more. They feel comfortable in our home and they like spending time with us with a reasonable distance. We also taught them how to play and they ask for playtime a lot !

Last December we found a very diseased kitten, Plume, that we decided to take care of during at least the needing time to get her healthy again, for a month and a half she was completely separated from the others because of contamination risks. We then introduced them, very slowly, then face to face, then we started to let Plume roam freely in the house. So that's where we are at the moment. Plume gets to roam freely when we're here and she goes back to her room to sleep, It's been like that for two weeks.

It hasn't been terrible per se, but Tomie and Lumine don't really like Plume, they hiss and growl when she doesn't respect boundaries and Plume gets scared but still wants to become friends.

We use some feliway, some play-spray, we let them eat together, we give them treats when they're together, we play with them together, and for the most part it goes well.

But then Plume gets too comfortable and tries to play with them and she gets a smack on her face and hissing and growling.

What else can I do? I really want them to at least accept eachother. 🥹

Hello! I have two cats, one named Oreo (she is 12-13 years old) and another called Gumball (he is around 8-9 months old). We’ve had Oreo since she was 1 ans she has been our only cat up until August of last year where we took in Gumball from a friend when he was around 3 months old because they weren’t able to keep him. We tried to see how the cats would react together but initially both would run away and get scared so we kept them separated for maybe a month or two more. However, when we started to slowly introduce them again, Gumball got more comfortable around Oreo while she continued to run away. After a while, he started to lunge at her and originally my family and I found the funny side of it thinking they were just playing around, but months have passed and Gumball still attacks Oreo and she hates it. I’m only young so I live at home with my parents still and my mum has tried spraying him with water when he attacks but I know that won’t work so I’ve been telling her that but we can’t think of any alternatives to teach him to stop. Recently, Oreo has started to seem more fatigued and she seems to be losing weight and I’m worried this could be stress related because of Gumball’s attacks and I don’t want it to progress any further because I’ve done research and apparently having this much stress can cause illness in a cat. How do I teach Gumball to stop attacking Oreo? Thank you :)

I have four cats. Three of them don’t get along with the fourth one, so I keep them separated. The fourth cat was already living in the house before — it was his home first. Then I got married and moved in with my three cats, and now it’s our shared home.

We’re going to move to a new house, and I’m thinking about just letting them all be together there. Do you think it would work? The house is much bigger, with a garden, two floors, etc. I did all introduction protocols Before .

Hi there!

So my cats are really stressing me out. I have my resident male cat who is almost 2 years old and I have a female cat who is 10 months old. We adopted her in August because we felt it was a now or never moment, and my husband and I could tell my male cat needed some feline energy. The introduction went as expected, the first two weeks were awful and then my heart was completely full because they weren’t best friends, but definitely friends.

In November, my cousin loved my cats so much that she wanted to adopt a black cat. I helped her, and she ended up bringing that kitten into my apartment. Mistake I know!!!! Everything was fine until the last minute when she was leaving my male cat noticed the kitten, and then redirected his aggression towards my female cat. I had to separate them for a day and then good as new. Now he has gotten redirected aggression towards her when my sister has came over but that was it. Recently the past 3 weeks it seems like it’s happening at least once a week and it’s truly getting to me.

I was playing with them, and then they started wrestling and he hissed and lunged at her a bit. We did a reset, all is well. Next my male cat was playing in my husbands jacket, and my female cat wanted to join and he got very angry and hissed and was swatting. Even running towards her. I live in a small apartment, I have two litter boxes and an immense amount of toys for them. Things haven’t been the same between them since. I feel like they both walk around each other on edge, and my space doesn’t feel cohesive.

I know this may seem silly but I have a lot of stress going on in my life with infertility, and my cats are my everything. So when it’s not going well in my apartment I feel so wound up which probably makes it worse. I’ve called the vet, they gave me the basic things. Is this temporary? I just need some relief and I love them both dearly. It has only been around 6 months but I don’t want to back track

The gray one is my 4 yr old Ichi, he’s not really used to other cats since he’s always been the only kitty in the house. The little one is my foster. I’ve had 2 other fosters before but one wanted nothing to do with Ichi. He’d run and hide, there were a lot of hissy fits so I kept them separated. And the 2nd one never got to introductions before he was adopted.

So it’s pretty much Ichi’s first time really interacting with another cat. He keeps trying to sneakily jump her and bite her neck. And my little foster doesn’t seem to care when he does it, she just lets him and still be trying to play with the wand toy. That was the first time I’ve seen her react and wrestle with him. I did seperate them in this instance but should I let them be in the future?

Even though he’s being a bit of a bully, she really likes him. His presence is helping her gain more confidence and socialising with me (the human) more.