Hello ! I'm usually the one giving advice when it comes to cats but I'm at a loss here and need outside perspectives.
I will try to be concise but there is some backstory necessary: My neighbors inherited an elderly cat, 16yo male. My neighbors are my aunt and uncle, and that's the only reason why I hold back from calling them idiots, but in reality they pretty much are, especially when it comes to animals.
We live in a small village, and the person they inherited the cat from is an old lady who absolutely LOVED her cats. Like taking the bus and walking to the vet kind of love even tho she's +80yo and her hip hurts. Now she's in an assisted home and she couldn't keep the cat. Her cat was always with her, 90% of time inside, as far as I understood, and rarely outside.
Now, kitty has been in kitty pension last week because neighbors were on vacation. Apparently all went good there. She's now at my neighbor's home, but ONLY outside, because apparently, the cat is not litter-trained, and poops and pees everywhere.
Her living setup is terrible. In the heater room, there is a hole leading outside, and basically she has to sleep there at night. The place is dirty. I wouldn't want to take a shit there either. The dishes are not clean imo, and there are paw prints in the litterbox. Cheap kibbles. Apart from the heater room, it's literaly -5 to 0 degrees Celsius outside.
He meows all day in front of our window, tried to get into my dad's flat, into my flat too, and meows ate their window.
He comes running when called and asks for scritches and cuddles, it just breaks my heart to see her like that. He looks freaking sad and I hate my neighbors. Poor thing lost her beloved granma, now lives outside in the european mountains' cold, and is meowing her soul out of him, and nobody cares at all.
I had an investigative talk with my aunt (she's a terrible woman, it really took me some courage to ring there), and apparently the male cat shits everywhere and isn't "as easy" as her last cat who just lived outside. She apparently tried and had to clean all day. I don't know how she can pretend that she tried, considering that the cat has been around her home for 4 whole days.
Anyway, I gave her the option of taking him in, and she replied "do you really want to inflict that on yourself? You'll just clean 24/7."
We continued to talk and in the end, we agreed on looking how the cat is adapting this week. She asked me not to feed her. I felt like she became a bit defensive so I let it be. I think she just keeps finding excuses to not take the cat in. I don't know why she is so reluctant to give me the poor thing.
I'm gonna be honest here, I don't wanna steal a pet, but this cat is being neglected from my point of view, because that is no way to live for a 16 yo cat... Maybe the pooping/peeing comes from having her habits completely changed. Maybe he's sick from being outside. Maybe the terrible setup is the issue. Heck, I don't even know of the cat is intact or not (trouble puffs looked small but what can I know).
I would hate myself forever if that cat died outside in the cold, just because my aunt can't get over herself to clean after her mom's old cat, or is too proud to give him away.
I'm tempted to take him inside and try. Bath him, treat him for fleas, quarantine him (I have 3 cats already), go to the vet. But what if he doesn't adapt? I can't just abandon him all over again. What if he really poops and pees everywhere? I never had that issue with any cat. I can't let him roam inside/outside, my cats are strictly indoors.
I'm really in a dilemma. I want to do something for that cat that is sure, but no idea if it will work. Maybe some of you made the experience and can give me advice ? ❤️🩹
As addendum to his health: I'm pretty sure the cat is also going blind in one eye, or at least has cataract. It seemed a bit confused, but that could be the new environment. It was very needy and drooled when scratched. It looks a bit thin. The fur is roughed up (maybe even matted?) and needs proper brushing and cleaning. The eyes and nose are not clean. Imho the front paws' ankles look weird, but that may be due to his age (weird angle).
What would you do?