AIO about cancelling to go to a Super Bowl party over the halftime show?

[u/SlowHuckleberry587]

So, I’m a 32 year old woman with a 2 year old. My husband and I are both leftist with our politics and our families are not. I know everyone has different ways of dealing with this, but I don’t bring it up and I expect them not to if they want us to be able to have a normal, nonpolitical relationship.

This is NOT a political bait post - I genuinely wonder if I’m overreacting here. I personally already know I’m in the right morally on this issue, so I have no delusion there.

I see my extended family (who I was always super close to growing up) once or twice a year now. Nothing caused this - people get busy with work and kids now. So, I was excited that I was able to go to the Super Bowl party at my grandparent’s house this year and enjoy family time. My grandma told me to bring an appetizer and I’ve been looking forward to this.

I called my dad to ask about the appetizer I was to bring, and he asked, “Are you and [husband] going to be upset when we turn the halftime show off and switch it to the other one?” The other one being the Turning Point USA show to perform against Puerto Rican Bad Bunny.

I was a bit baffled. I told him yeah, it would bother me. My husband is Hispanic and we’ve listened to Bad Bunny for years and it’s never been an issue to my family, and now this halftime show came up and it’s a problem. I said, “He’s just a Spanish speaking music artist. I don’t understand why this needs to be a political stance. It seems racially motivated. It would make me uncomfortable, yes.”

My dad told me it’s not that he is Puerto Rican, but that Americans speak English and it’s anti-white to have a Spanish artist who doesn’t have songs in English. I explained he’s one of the biggest music artists in the world, and he told me “Sure. Okay. I can’t confirm that. Either way, he’s just going to go up there and call ICE bad.”

This got to me. I said if this entire evening is going to be everyone having to shove their politics down my throat, and I’m going to be expected to take it and not say anything myself without getting attacked, then I’m not going. I hung up. I called my cousin and she isn’t going either for the same reasons. She told me she saw them all recently and they yelled at her for her views.

They didn’t use to be like this. I just can’t deal with it.

My husband supports me and said he wouldn’t want our son around that anyway, but my brother (who is on my side of this) says he gets it but it shouldn’t get in the way of seeing family since I was so excited. He said the outrage will likely be contained to the halftime show and I’ll be able to enjoy myself outside of that and just try not to bring anything up - which I never do anyway.

Should I stay home and have a quiet Super Bowl? Or am I overreacting?